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  • Ages 29-36
  • Near me
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Last online
Today – 6:35am
Relationship Type
5' 6" (1.68m)
Body Type
Doesn’t have kids but wants them
English (Fluently), Spanish (Somewhat), Italian (Somewhat), Hebrew (Somewhat)
My self-summary
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I'm full of contradictions. I'm a yoga teacher but I also know how to gut a chicken. I've spent a lot of time farming and I'm constantly running both towards and away from being a farmer (I know that doesn't make much sense, I can explain). I'm from Berkeley but, after more than a decade on the East Coast, I feel like I have a whole new world to discover here. I love the calm of the country but I crave the energy of the city. I dream of building a homestead but I need a good cafe within biking distance. I love the solitude of the woods and mountains but I thrive when I'm surrounded by my friends and family. I'm ready to put down roots but I also want to take off with just a backpack and head for Mexico (or Nepal, or Vietnam, or so many other places). I want to find a straight way to my goals but I also want to follow a path that promises to surprise me at every turn.
What I’m doing with my life
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Weaving together said contradictions into a lovely messy complicated tangle. I work for a sweet little company helping people get going on urban homesteading projects. If you know what I mean by urban homesteading, give me a shout. I also recently started my own personal chef business. I like the excitement of running my own gig but it's still not totally clear whether it will work financially. TIme will have to tell.

I spent last year traveling solo, mostly in South America, so I spend a lot of time reminiscing and plotting another long trip. But then I remember how nice it is not sleeping in a different place every few nights and always having to share a room with someone who's snoring.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I cook a lot and, if my friends aren't all liars, pretty well at that. My preferred way to use those cooking skills is to throw all-star dinner parties, at which I'm pretty much aces. I'm pretty good at certain things that a lot of people don't do at all anymore--growing vegetables, canning, milking goats, making cheese, knitting sweaters, nuzzling lambs. I guess I'm old school.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I laugh easily. I can talk to basically anyone. I often crack the first joke and usually invite new friends over for dinner. Apparently I make a lot of faces when I talk and have a voice especially for addressing dogs.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Too many to name but here are a few--
Books: The Grapes of Wrath, One Hundred Years of Solitude, Mrs. Dalloway, The Things They Carried, The Flamethrowers, All The King's Men, The Secret History, Slouching Towards Bethleham
Movies: The Godfather I & II, Old Joy, Winter's Bone, The Departed, Volver, Taxi Driver, Half Nelson
Shows: The Wire, Six Feet Under, Homeland, Orange is the New Black, Transparent
Music: Crooked Still, Gillian Welch, Bruce Molsky, Dylan, Joan Baez, Josh Ritter, Bon Iver, Wilco, Fleetwood Mac, Basia Bulat, and most folk and bluegrass
Food: Pickles, Old Bay shrimp, Sichuan ox tongue & tripe, roast chicken, kale Caesar salad, pho and ramen, buttermilk biscuits, fresh peaches, vanilla panna cotta, kimchi. Not necessarily in that order.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Fresh vegetables, preferably ones I've grown myself
The New York Times Sunday crossword puzzle
My cast-iron skillet
Small ruminants
Camping stuff in the trunk of the car
One more cup of coffee? Sure, why not?
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
In the drive from Capetown to Cairo, who gets a seat in the jeep? A mechanic is the obvious first.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
I don't tend to work a regular schedule, so Friday may or may not be the start of my weekend. I love being at a bar or party with friends (especially a house party, when did people stop having house parties?) but I would also never complain about a night looking at stars or watching a fire.
You should message me if
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You may not have it all figured out but you know who you are and what you love. You want to live courageously, passionately, and joyfully. You approach things with an inquisitive mind, an open heart, and a willingness to stumble and then learn. You're ready to find someone you can laugh in that gut-busting, eye-tearing, whole body kind of way.

Or if you want to get in on my film club this winter--it's gonna be the spot.