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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 35-50
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My details

Last online
Nov 24
Queer, Sapiosexual
Relationship Type
Strictly non-monogamous
6' 5" (1.96m)
Body Type
Average build
Atheism but it’s not important
Post grad
Doesn’t have kids
Has cats
My self-summary
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We're on a road to nowhere, come on inside. -TH

What's most important to me is not only seeing, but doing spectacular things. I'm looking for people to share that with, and to cheer them on in their spectacle. I'm a scientist, both in my professional and personal life, and that means doing the experiment!

I'm non monogamous: married to Whisper_girl for well over 15 years. Sex positive, kink friendly: I tend toward dating women, but play nicely with others. My hobbies include: writing nonfiction with a bent toward subversive content and awareness expansion, infrared photography, and I participate in hacker spaces for biotech/science. I'm an avid answerer of top content on Quora. In a previous life, I was a tea chemist.

I want to date: thinkers, doers, Makers, Hackers, Burners, pornographers. I am more liberal than many of my liberal friends, and more conservative than some of my conservative friends. I don't believe in just one right answer. Very little is "off the table".

If you read this, make the first move: it helps me know there's consent and desire, both of which are very important to me. I prefer meeting for coffee or other casual safe spaces early on, so that we can both gauge the chemistry.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Improvisation and living in the moment.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
The height and the hair.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I have found myself most influenced by writers, including Margaret Atwood, Doris Lessing, Umberto Eco, William Burroughs, and Josef Škvorecký. More recently, I have fell in love with the world of Hugh Howey's Wool. My interests include dystopia, uchronie, epics, surrealism, Oulipo, physical comedy, Making, genomics, genealogy, pandemonium, quanta, fusion, posthumanism, abundance, informatics, ontology, the eighties, Carcassonne, electronica, Delicatessen, The Prestige, The Hudsucker Proxy, pierogi, and miraculin. I consider myself well read in theology, physical science, classics, occultism, and philosophy. I aspire to be better read in feminism, socialism, and mathematics.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Good company, good food.
Things to explore.

My senses, my wit.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Semantic Ontology.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Trying to take over the world... ummm....
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
You ask, I answer. Biggest turn on is women who aren't squeamish: biologists, entomologists, medical examiners, taxidermists, experimental physicists, auto mechanics, and the like. I do have my limits but am much more willing to cross them with enthusiastic partners.
You should message me if
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You've clicked with any of the sketches or words on my profile, or one of my extended answers on the questions. Meeting in person and chatting about whatever is where I'm most likely to see if we click. Invite me out on hijinks! Pervy friends, even if we don't click in our perversions, are highly valued. Tourists welcome.

I'm using "rating stars" to ping people who catch my eye and have an interesting profile. If I don't message you instantly it's because I am bandwidth limited: feel free to grab my attention! Although play partners and friends are welcome, I'm more interested in semi serious to serious dating and people to watch and listen to the world with.