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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 40-58
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Nov 21
5' 7" (1.70m)
Body Type
Average build
Agnosticism and it’s important
Has kid(s)
My self-summary
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smart, funny, semi-talented, humble (see last entry), well read, well spoken. dark but basically optimistic, dogs love me.
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And here I am again, feeling a little ambivalent (Pretty unremarkable I guess. It's not like anybody here is going "Woohoo! online dating.) The people I meet day to day through work and music skew a lot younger than me. I enjoy that, but I recognize that I'm at a different stage in my life than they are. And so I'm widening my net, hoping to meet someone like minded with some spark.

I envy the people on the site who have such a strong idea about how they want a relationship to play out with a list of criteria to help insure it. I think the biggest curve ball in life is that the things the things we think will make us happy often don't. And that as a creative type, the irony is not lost on me that I've a culled a lot of art from relationships that didn't come out they way I'd planned. Go know.

Personally, I'd think myself lucky to find someone that I liked being around a lot and see where it went from there.

I do miss having someone around that I care for and cares for me. It is important to me ,though, that it doesn't eclipse other things that make us happy and whole. Maybe that goes without saying. Or maybe I just need to find someone with a creative passion who feels the same way.

Hope y'all find someone.
What I’m doing with my life
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There's a lot of creative stuff that I'm driven to do right now and a few good years to do it.

Other than that I'm keeping my eyes open, waiting for the big reveal.
I’m really good at
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music, art, smart-ass remarks. seeing things through, having your back
The first things people usually notice about me
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You mean after their vision returns?
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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favorite authors: David Mitchell, William Boyd, Elmore Leonard, Charles Bukowski, Thomas Pynchon, Amy Bloom, Neil Gaiman (I can be something of a functional read-a-holic, these are just the authors that come to mind).

Movies: I'm definitely a movie geek--love 30's and 40's studio movies (big TCM fan).

Music: all over the map - Jimi, Sly, Otis, Ike, Lucinda Williams, Hank Sr., Johnny Cash, Link Wray, Charlie Parker, Mingus, Ramones, Lucinda WIlliams the list goes on.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
I spend a lot of time writing music and a lot of that is listening to the tune that's developing in my head.

Philosophically? Well, how random it all is. How absurd that against all odds we are here at all and how much we take for granted.

And plenty of petty stuff too--what I should have said or done, what I should say or do--the usual.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
out seeing or playing music
You should message me if
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you are creative, engaged and curious about the world. Big points for having style sense, being well-read, funny.
PS. Please, I'm not looking for a pen pal!
I've had several extended internet courtships here, only to meet in person and not click. Profiles and extended correspondences based on them have been pretty inadequate barometers of chemistry and compatibility. So, I'd rather meet casually earlier rather than later and save on the wear and tear.