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49 San Jose, CA Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 32–52
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

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Last online
Yesterday – 10:24pm
6′ 2″ (1.88m)
Body type
Mostly anything
Catholicism, and laughing about it
Graduated from masters program
Science / Engineering
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Likes dogs and likes cats

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My self-summary
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I will only have you if you are sweeter than my solitude....with that said: Thanks for stopping by and visiting my profile. Words are a big part of my career but suddenly I find it a task when having to write about myself. I find myself attracted to gals who are quick-witted. The woman in my life will be a priority and treated with respect, kindness and affection. I believe that a relationship is cultivated and am happy to work 110% at it. I love to eat healthy and exercise regularly. My health comes first. Having great health enables me to live, love, contribute, grow, and experience life’s blessings as they were meant to be experienced. I love cooking good healthy meals for friends and family!

I like John Steinbecks letter to his son about falling in love:
"New York
November 10, 1958
Dear Thom:

We had your letter this morning. I will answer it from my point of view and of course Elaine will from hers.

First -- if you are in love -- that's a good thing -- that's about the best thing that can happen to anyone. Don't let anyone make it small or light to you.

Second -- There are several kinds of love. One is a selfish, mean, grasping, egotistical thing which uses love for self-importance. This is the ugly and crippling kind. The other is an outpouring of everything good in you -- of kindness and consideration and respect -- not only the social respect of manners but the greater respect which is recognition of another person as unique and valuable. The first kind can make you sick and small and weak but the second can release in you strength, and courage and goodness and even wisdom you didn't know you had.

You say this is not puppy love. If you feel so deeply -- of course it isn't puppy love.

But I don't think you were asking me what you feel. You know better than anyone. What you wanted me to help you with is what to do about it -- and that I can tell you.

Glory in it for one thing and be very glad and grateful for it.

The object of love is the best and most beautiful. Try to live up to it.

If you love someone -- there is no possible harm in saying so -- only you must remember that some people are very shy and sometimes the saying must take that shyness into consideration.

Girls have a way of knowing or feeling what you feel, but they usually like to hear it also.

It sometimes happens that what you feel is not returned for one reason or another -- but that does not make your feeling less valuable and good.

Lastly, I know your feeling because I have it and I'm glad you have it.

We will be glad to meet Susan. She will be very welcome. But Elaine will make all such arrangements because that is her province and she will be very glad to. She knows about love too and maybe she can give you more help than I can.

And don't worry about losing. If it is right, it happens -- The main thing is not to hurry. Nothing good gets away.


What I’m doing with my life
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I work for a technology company by day and aspiring screenwriter by night. My former British co-workers got me hooked on watching soccer this summer! I am currently reading "Currency Wars." I also enjoy following the Bitcoin movement and expanding my music library. I would like to travel more....
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Thinking and listening and answering friend's questions. I have been told that I was a good listener...I am currently working on developing a screenplay and have always been interested in the development of film/media development. Identifying patterns and trends.
The first things people usually notice about me
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My height? I am tall with wide shoulders. A female friend said I have very "Anglo" looks.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Incomplete - work in progress:

Books (Non-Fiction), Sci-Fi, American and World History - Anything by Arnold Patent - A New Earth: Awakening to Your Life's Purpose (this reminds me of "A Course in Miracles"..anyone else? Anyone..... Bueller? Ferris Bueller?) - Christine - Logan's Run - A Course in Miracles - Z for Zachariah - The Millionaire Next Door - Bare Branches - Why Geography Matters.

Music: 80s music...ahhh good times. Techno, Classical, soundtracks, Jazz, experimental, some country, a bit of hip-hop (but I can never remember the names! Like that tune from the movie "Tropic Thunder"). I listen to classical or movie soundtracks when I want to daydream or work on a screenplay. My last soundtrack purchases were "Drive" and "World War Z."

Movies/TV: Fringe (TV), -Raising Hope (TV comedy), The Walking Dead (TV) ( I am writing a zombie screenplay), - Dale and Tucker vs Evil (Dark Comedy) A.I. - Ace Ventura: Pet Detective - Bladerunner - director's cut - Damnation Alley - Dr. Strangelove - Evil Dead Series, Batman, Superman (Christopher Reeve, ). Somewhere in Time (saw them film it in Michigan). Anything by Sam Raimi (he is from Michigan as well)English Patient - Equilibrium - Logan's Run - Omega Man - The Rundown - THX-1138 - original and director's cut, The Day of the Dolphin, - Sahara - Soylent Green - District 9 - What the Bleep *@%*$& Do We Know? (documentary/drama) - I like cheesy Sci-Fi, B-movies....can you tell.

Food: I can pretty much eat anything. Ever have jellyfish? Pass on that stuff! Can't stand tequila by itself, only in a mix. A college experience ruined that. I like trying different coffees and I do like green tea as well.


"And now here is my secret, a very simple secret. It is only with the heart that one can see rightly. What is essential is invisible to the eye.” The Little Prince by Antoine de Saint-Exupéry

"Truth is in the motive. You are what you do, not what you say. Anyone can claim their music is making a political statement. Anyone can believe it. But until a piece of music starts swinging hammers and elections, it hasn't got a beat anyone trying to change this junkyard of a planet can dance to." ~Andrew Vachss

"We sleep safe because rough men stand ready in the night to visit violence upon those who would do us harm." - Attributed to R. Kipling, or George Orwell, or W. Churchill

All that is necessary for the triumph of evil is that good men do nothing’ (or words to that effect)- Edmund Burke

"If you're trying to be politically correct you're like a chameleon in front of a mirror. What can you say that won't be offensive to somebody?" - Robin Williams

"Dare greatly. It is not the critic who counts, not the man who points out how the strong man stumbled or where the doer of deeds could have done better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena."- Theodore Roosevelt

“A government big enough to give you everything you want, is strong enough to take everything you have." —Thomas Jefferson

"Morality, like art, means drawing a line someplace." — Oscar Wilde

"Fear is a thief." - Bumper sticker

"You must be the change you want to see in the world." - Mahatma Ghandi
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Geez, like I have time to focus on only six???? Didn't you hear that multi-tasking doesn't work! ;-)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Personal improvement, but at the same time reflecting on the present moment...gotta do more living in the moment. How to pack more fun into the present moment....but I have a serious side.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
I usually head to the gym or might be relaxing in front of my TV with a glass of wine or out at a happy hour with friends having a cold beer after a long week; However, flexibility is the key in every situation.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
I love to laugh, tease, and have fun. I am a very playful, outrageous, silly and strong man. A great sense of humor is a must! You are serious about meeting someone genuinely interested in knowing you for the long term haul...after all, life is a journey, not a destination.