I try to think expansively and openly, and sometimes that makes me “contrary” because I often question dogma and the way things are. I am very easy going though, and when I challenge things, it is most often with humor as a good way to share a point of view without being offensive. I laugh often because just shifting our perspective slightly can reveal how much of what we all do (and I am not exempt at all) can seem quite silly.
As a kid, I loved reading and learning about science, and remember spending time lying in kitchen chairs with their backs placed on the floor under the table, imagining being in a rocket that was lifting off on adventures. Back then, science to me was the key to understanding the wonders of the world and universe. As I became older, I also became fascinated with the mysteries of the mind, and things more ethereal. I appreciate both the rational/logical and the intuitive/emotional and I love the feelings that the clouds, sky, waves and nature evoke, simply from what they are, and from the beauty I see in the processes that create them.
Perhaps what I wrote seems amorphous, and it would be better to simply say that the best of the above experiences can often be found when simply sitting quietly on a jetty, or hiking an autumn trail, or wandering a museum, or listening to music, or sailing on a sound, having a good yoga class, reading on the porch on a warm afternoon…not thinking, feeling the sun and wind, and being absorbed in watching the clouds and water, and feeling a deep connection with someone.
I hope that I will meet and share an intriguing and fun journey with someone who understands and is perhaps fascinated by some of the same things I am. Being single, and with my son grown, I would love someone with whom to travel more and explore places. It would be wonderful to easily transition from illuminating discussions, to comfortable silence, to living in the present, to sublime physical and emotional moments of reaching and touching the deepest places within each other.
I believe I have learned some simple things that are essential for becoming closer, such as using our attention and awareness to sense more clearly what is going on within the person we are with. Noticing that you could use a shoulder massage after a long day, or offering to get a cup of tea when you are already cozy on the couch, or simply just caring and asking how you are when you seem to be out of sorts are among the simple grains of sand that may eventually build a beautiful beach.
I know that it is more than just a dream. I have been fortunate to experience enough glimpses of the mysterious thing we call connection and resonance to be confident that what I am hoping for does exist, and I am unwilling to let go of the dream that someday that “je ne sais quoi” feeling will happen in a profound way.
And, after saying all of that, I wonder if it still ends up mostly being in the hands of fate, and will fate eventually be generous enough to allow that dream to come true.