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tender_punk

43 / F / Straight / Single

Los Angeles, California

Her Details

Last Online
Today – 4:49am
Ethnicity
Height
5′ 3″ (1.60m).
Body Type
Average
Diet
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Sign
Taurus and it’s fun to think about
Education
Graduated from masters program
Job
Artistic / Musical / Writer
Income
Offspring
Pets
Has dogs
Speaks
English

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My self-summary
I have been a dilettante for most of my life, a social practitioner, following creative impulses and community life, which has culminated in an interesting biography, I hope. I've enjoyed it.

As a younger person, my life was organized around music. Going to shows, being in bands, living in punk group houses, going to protests, making posters, zines, clothes. This counter-cultural approach remains formative to how I think about things today... though I don't really do any of those things very much anymore (except for sometimes I do make clothes when I am lucky).

Also, what about quick tags like: vintage clothes, embroidery from around the world, hand-made leather goods, meyer lemons, kumquats, rosé wine, succulents, fresh cut flowers, buddhism, feminism, california
What I’m doing with my life
I came to Los Angeles to get a MFA in Studio Art, which I did. Then, I needed a job. Through saying yes to a few things, I became a professional cook and now I have a catering business. It's an unexpected turn but I like it. It feels like making art in terms of materiality and gesture. And it feels more immediately useful and not so rarified! The people's medium!
I’m really good at
Making things with my hands and singing along, also joking and laughing. Riffing! By which I mean, verbal free jamming! A cross between non-sense talk and improv comedy. It's my favorite and I don't get to do it as much as I like. I mean, considering how good I am at it.

My friends tell me I am good at being a person, which maybe means I am good at cultivating pleasure. I am a good thinker and talker. Also, I'm a spirited dancer and recently made the prediction that I might die on a dance floor. You know, when I'm really old, giving it all I've got.
The first things people usually notice about me
Hair? Teeth? Witchy attitude? Acerbic wit? Most recently, my broken ankle.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Lately...

Books: I am a total sucker for biographies of artists living in New York in the 60s, seemingly a time before money. I read cook books. I also like to read some real nerdy art books.

Movies: W.R.: Mysteries of the Organism, Burden of Dreams (seriously, this movie I watch over and over again!),
The Royal Tennebaums, Auntie Mame, Elf
Also, a good rock and roll documentary!

Music, so much, though here's a good cross section: Nina Simone, Dungen, Sam Cooke and the Soul Stirrers, Al Green, Bad Brains, Joni Mitchell, The Who, The Small Faces, White Magic

Food: oh brother, almost everything!
Often times, I prefer Mom and Pop restaurants but am working through certain fancy pants restaurants.
The six things I could never do without
food,
intimacy,
experimentation,
engaged conversation,
emotional sophistication
and FUN
I spend a lot of time thinking about
FOOD, combining ingredients, menu planning, etc. I LIKE to think about pyscho-social histories, radical communities, aesthetics, narrative and COMEDY! Also lately the occultism of late sixties, early seventies Los Angeles... but this maybe falls under the psycho-social historical.

Lately, I think about this quite a lot:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=g4ouPGGLI6Q

And this:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ezONbFsfurQ

And then, this:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b90Cf6ARscc
On a typical Friday night I am
still alive! YES! Or looking at all the dudes on this site with beards. Maybe sad, but true...
I’m looking for
  • Guys who like girls
  • Ages 35–50
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
Are a good cook and you want to make some epic meals together. I am cooking all the time but love to collaborate and learn with/ from others. Also, I am interested in learning more about wine, looking for a kindly and enthusiastic sommelier!

Know of some good swimming holes and you'd like to share your important knowledge.

If you want to share skill sets in general! I know how to do a lot of things, and I don't know how to do a lot of things. It's fun to share.

You like dialogue and hammering out life's greater questions as they manifest in the day to day relations of humans. Maybe are a meditator? Or a stand up comedian with a tender side?

Have an ease and awareness in your body, have some kind of regular body practice.

You are very smart, very funny and very kind.