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tenderoutlaw

62 Berkeley, CA Man

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I’m looking for

  • Women who like men
  • Ages 54–64
  • Located anywhere
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Today – 8:27pm
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White, Other
Height
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
Athletic
Diet
Mostly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Rarely
Drugs
Never
Religion
Atheism, but not too serious about it
Sign
Education
Graduated from masters program
Job
Education
Income
$50,000–$60,000
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Has a kid
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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I'm a teacher and nurturer of young children, a freethinker, a enthusiastic and expressive companion, a supporter of progressive social change, an adventurer in all realms, and an in-the-moment person who relishes the world's sensory delights. I'm looking to forge that forever connection with you, full of adventure, desire, thoughtfulness, communion, travel, creativity, shared social consciousness -- and larking about! Faithful & monogamous, I will put up with dating only until I have found you!

We live only once--so why miss the richness around us? I revel in sensory pleasures--but with a bohemian rather than a consumerist style. Let's share gourmet meals, the music of a symphony, the thrills of a thunderstorm, cozy getaways in the country, breathtaking meteor showers, the feel of your warm skin through touchable fabrics, the tapping of rain on the roof. And please be someone with a lively inquisitive mind, since as a thoughtful person I want to discuss nature, philosophical questions, science discoveries and mysteries, world events and movements, and how people relate and feel.

Chemistry is ineffable and desirable, but I think shared values are the essence of a lasting connection: So I seek someone who is kind and compassionate, can love reciprocally, has rich imagination, and affirms progressive change. I feel that humans are responsible to make our own meaning, so I'm seeking someone with beliefs based in empiricism and compassion rather than in religion, gods or gurus; we are all we have, and must take care of each other. I'm moved by the poignancy of people showing compassion even while experiencing suffering and loss.

Did you take part in--or wish you could--the Oakland Walk to End Violence, or in solidarity with Pride, or in the Port blockade/demonstrations recently in defense of Palestinians, or the Ferguson solidarity rally, or Yuri Kochiyama's memorial; or see the film "Flying Paper" at LaPena? And have you also attended the symphony or opera or a live theater performance in the past year? I looked for you in these places--and at the library, the Women's Building and Ashkenaz--hoping to meet the kind of person who enfolds these experiences and more.

But I don't take myself too seriously: read on:

I'm upbeat, and generally happy. I find the best in a situation. I love to have fun. I've got my dad's sense of humor, kind of sardonic, with some Robert Benchley, Lenny Bruce, Mort Sahl, Lily Tomlin, Maureen Dowd, David Sedaris and Steven Wright mixed in. If I can get you to chuckle with my quips, wry observations, double entendres and witty word play, I'm happy. Let me make you laugh!
What I’m doing with my life
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Watching raindrops on green leaves, mending broken preschools, writing, researching science-y things and early education, raising my grown daughter (!), mounting the barricades, staring musingly into the middle distance, playing basketball, reading, dancing.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Nurturing young children, supporting their parents, intuiting others' feelings, counseling, writing, adventure (shoestring) travel, camping, playing basketball thrice weekly, exploring science-y topics.
The first things people usually notice about me
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Curly hair (when it's longer), twinkly eyes, warmth, confidence, enthusiasm and gentleness. Humor. I'm easy to be around. Currently my hair's somewhat shorter, with more silver.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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My favorite novels are Song of Solomon and Alain-Fournier's The Wanderer. I like nonfiction/science/biographies such as Jared Diamond, Brian Greene, Edward Wilson, Richard Feynman, Mary Leakey, Annie Dillard, Tracy Kidder, Richard Leakey. Hope you're fond of any of these: Richard Dawkins, Sam Harris, Howard Zinn, Rebecca Solnit, Arundhati Roy, Christian Parenti, Katha Pollitt, Naomi Klein, Amy Goodman, Greg Pallast, Noam Chomsky. Lucretius' On the Nature of Things was a taproot for Renaissance breakthroughs and enduring secularist/humanist thought. In fiction, Kingsolver, Alice Walker, Franzen, LeGuin, Toni Morrison, Nin, Crowley, Stegner, Piccoult, Hartup, Fleming, Leonard, Proulx, Naipul, Atwood, Rushdie, Munro, Marian Zimmer Bradley...

Film? Recently, Life of Pi and Grand Hotel Budapest. I liked Gravity, which was powerful despite some treacly moments; wow, Hollywood occasionally allows a female protag who's not a cop, or gaga over a guy! Then there's Michael Moore, flawed, but more accessible than Chomsky in their similar messages.
Music? Poetry? Let's enthuse over our favorites together.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My friends
Light and shadows
Bodies of water and the sound of it flowing
Good writing
Music and a stirring beat
My social conscience and activism
Touch, texture; silky skin and other tactile delights
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
What makes a good relationship, and how my love and I would play. How children develop and how to best raise and teach them. The places I want to travel and share with my love. The world's problems and how to help transform our societies so they are just, equitable, humane, anti-sexist. The science of how consciousness unfolds.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Out with friends, reading reading reading, dancing at Ashkenaz, watching the sunset, seeing a play, playing pickup basketball, catching a DVD with my daughter, writing my book about early education, manning the barricades, staring musingly into the middle distance, cleaning my apartment, dreaming of true love.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Some mystery is a really good thing. Come find me.
You should message me if
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You're seeking an enduring relationship and partnership; if you're keen minded and inquisitive; if you're fit, energetic and healthy; if you're intrepid and have a strong sense of adventure; if you're you're a freethinker, not religious or metaphysical but base beliefs on reason and evidence; if you're progressive-to-left. Beyond that, if you're creative, sensual and playful with a sense of style, and GGG, it'd be wonderful.