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tenderoutlaw

61 M Berkeley, CA

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 9:10pm
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White, Other
Height
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
Athletic
Diet
Mostly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Rarely
Drugs
Never
Religion
Agnosticism, and somewhat serious about it
Sign
Education
Graduated from masters program
Job
Education
Income
$50,000–$60,000
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Has a kid
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly)

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My self-summary
I'm a teacher and nurturer of young children, a freethinker, a playful and expressive companion, a supporter of progressive social change, an adventurer in all realms, and an in-the-moment person who relishes the world's sensory delights. Are you the woman with whom I might build a long term (life?) relationship-- as ardent lovers and best friends? I'm looking to forge that forever connection full of playfulness, commitment, admiration, desire, communion, adventure, creativity, travel, shared social consciousness -- and larking about! Faithful & monogamous, I will put up with dating only until I have found you!

We live once--so why miss the richness around us? I revel in sensory pleasures--but with a bohemian rather than a consumerist style. Let's share gourmet meals, the music of a symphony, the thrills of a thunderstorm, cozy getaways in the country, breathtaking meteor showers, the feel of your warm skin through sensual fabrics. And please be someone with a lively mind, since as an intellectual I enjoy discussing nature, philosophical questions, science discoveries and mysteries, world events and movements, and how people relate and feel.

They say I'm "embodied masculine," but with a more even balance of yin/yang than the typical guy. I'm kind and sweet, but you'll want to discover that for yourself. Chemistry is ineffable and desirable, but I think shared values make the foundation for a lasting connection: So I seek someone who is kind and compassionate, yearns to live in a truly just and humane society, and affirms progressive change (these traits are all rooted in generosity.) I feel that humans are responsible to make our own meaning, so I'm seeking someone with beliefs based in reason, evidence and compassion rather than in religion, gods or gurus; we are all we have, and must take care of each other. I'm moved by the poignancy and hopefulness of people showing compassion and trying to help make a different world, so I try to encourage compassion especially in the young boys I teach.

Whew that all sounds so serious, but read on:

I'm upbeat, and generally happy. I find the best in a situation. I love to have fun. I've got my dad's sense of humor, with some Lenny Bruce, Mort Sahl, Lily Tomlin, Maureen Dowd, David Sedaris and Steven Wright mixed in; I love to evoke chuckles with quips, wry observations, double entendre and witty word play. Let me make you laugh!
What I’m doing with my life
I keep thinking about my California trek last summer, when I hoofed it along the coast from Bodega Bay to Ft. Bragg--a spectacular trip--and then continued east into Mendocino Nat'l Forest for camping, skinny-dipping and wildlife observing. Maybe again?

What else am I doing? Reveling in pleasures, chuckling at the absurd, continuing to learn, seeking adventure, laughing at myself, guiding my college-age daughter, doctoring ailing preschools. But, most of all, yearning for connection, looking to build my life ahead with another, seeking communion. Because that's what is really important.

I'm yearning for the transformation of our jobs, economy and social relations into ones that are life-affirming and humane: Admiring movements for human rights, the environment, anti-racism, local empowerment & control over our own economies (not by/for the 1%-- i.e., real democracy), I support women's reproductive rights, Occupy, alt economies, an end to the occupation of Palestine by Israel and to the oppression of Haiti.

OK, down off the soapbox. I've dabbled in archery and partner dancing. I'm playing pool, hitchhiking across the Serengeti, (re?)learning the drums, studying wildlife and paleolinguistics, attending live music performances, managing a preschool, expanding love.
I’m really good at
Responding to your feelings, romping like a child, using all my senses, pampering you, splurging on offbeat outings, finding what's funny, wondering at mysteries, romancing language. Comprehending and caring for very young children. Understanding & counseling troubled people. Contemplating natural settings and feeling part of nature. Getting around by bike and public transit (by choice I own no car, but I often rent one for outings.)
The first things people usually notice about me
Curly hair when it's longer, twinkly eyes, warmth, confidence, enthusiasm and gentleness. Humor. I'm easy to be around. Currently my hair's somewhat shorter, with more silver.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
My favorite novels are Song of Solomon and Alain-Fournier's The Wanderer. I like nonfiction/science/biographies such as Jared Diamond, Brian Greene, Edward Wilson, Richard Feynman, Mary Leakey, Annie Dillard, Tracy Kidder, Richard Leakey. Hope you're fond of any of these: Richard Dawkins, Sam Harris, Howard Zinn, Rebecca Solnit, Arundhati Roy, Christian Parenti, Katha Pollitt, Naomi Klein, Amy Goodman, Greg Pallast, Noam Chomsky. Lucretius' On the Nature of Things was a seminal work for Renaissance breakthroughs and for enduring secularist/humanist thought. In fiction, Kingsolver, Alice Walker, Franzen, LeGuin, Toni Morrison, Nin, Crowley, Stegner, Piccoult, Hartup, Fleming, Leonard, Proulx, Naipul, Atwood, Rushdie, Munro, Marian Zimmer Bradley...

Film? Recently, Hotel Budapest. I liked Gravity, which was powerful despite some treacly moments; wow, Hollywood occasionally allows a female protag who's not a cop, or gaga over a guy!
Music? Poetry? Let's enthuse over our favorites together.
The six things I could never do without
My friends
Light and shadows,
Bodies of water and the sound of it flowing
Good writing
Music and a stirring beat
My social conscience and activism
Touch, texture; silky skin and other tactile delights
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Currently, how I can make my life more productive and more pleasurable? And I spend time pondering what makes relationships ignite and what makes them work well over time. When I will find my angel? (apologies to Allen Ginsburg.) And tell me, why do online daters rarely bother to acknowledge the thoughtful, substantive responses they receive--even if only with a brief, polite demurral?
On a typical Friday night I am
Out with friends, reading reading reading, dancing at Ashkenaz, watching the sunset, seeing a play, playing pickup basketball, catching a DVD with my daughter, writing my book about early education, manning the barricades, staring musingly into the middle distance, cleaning my apartment, dreaming of true love.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Some mystery is a really good thing. Come find me.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 54–64
  • Located anywhere
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
you are a lot like this:
...reciprocal in relationships, ready to both receive and give
...outdoorsy, inclined to exercise & keeping fit (athletic?)
...literate, fond of words, conversational, curious of mind
...strong in libido, affectionate, and drawn to touch
...yearning for a just, democratic, non-exploitative society
...spiritual, as in "awed connection with the natural world" (and fellow humans) but averse to masters, dogma, supernaturalist beliefs (i.e. "supreme being" ); inclined to inquiry, reason, evidence.

You'd just dazzle me if you also:
...write, create art, celebrate beauty
...enjoy feeling feminine and balancing with my masculine
...like wearing sensual fabrics and dressing becomingly

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