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tenderoutlaw

61 M Berkeley, CA

I’m looking for

  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 54–64
  • Located anywhere
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Online now!
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White, Other
Height
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
Athletic
Diet
Mostly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Rarely
Drugs
Never
Religion
Atheism, but not too serious about it
Sign
Education
Graduated from masters program
Job
Education
Income
$50,000–$60,000
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Has a kid
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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I'm a teacher and nurturer of young children, a freethinker, a playful and expressive companion, a supporter of progressive social change, an adventurer in all realms, and an in-the-moment person who relishes the world's sensory delights. I'm looking to forge that forever connection with you, full of playfulness, commitment, admiration, desire, communion, adventure, creativity, travel, shared social consciousness -- and larking about! Faithful & monogamous, I will put up with dating only until I have found you!

We live only once--so why miss the richness around us? I revel in sensory pleasures--but with a bohemian rather than a consumerist style. Let's share gourmet meals, the music of a symphony, the thrills of a thunderstorm, cozy getaways in the country, breathtaking meteor showers, the feel of your warm skin through sensual fabrics, the joy of intimate exploration and communion through sexuality. And please be someone with a lively mind, too, since as an intellectual I enjoy discussing nature, philosophical questions, science discoveries and mysteries, world events and movements, and how people relate and feel.

Chemistry is ineffable and desirable, but I think shared values add to the foundation of a lasting connection: So I seek someone who is kind and compassionate, can love reciprocally, has rich imagination, and affirms progressive change. I feel that humans are responsible to make our own meaning, so I'm seeking someone with beliefs based in empiricism and compassion rather than in religion, gods or gurus; we are all we have, and must take care of each other. I'm moved by the poignancy of people showing compassion even while experiencing suffering and loss.

Did you take part in--or wish you could--the Oakland Walk to End Violence, or in solidarity with Pride, or in the Port blockade/demonstrations recently in defense of Palestinians, or the Ferguson solidarity rally, or Yuri Kochiyama's memorial; or see the film "Flying Paper" at LaPena? And have you also attended the symphony or opera or a live theater performance in the past year? I looked for you in these places, hoping to meet the kind of person who enfolds these experiences and more.

But I don't take myself too seriously: read on:

I'm upbeat, and generally happy. I find the best in a situation. I love to have fun. I've got my dad's sense of humor, kind of sardonic, with some Robert Benchley, Lenny Bruce, Mort Sahl, Lily Tomlin, Maureen Dowd, David Sedaris and Steven Wright mixed in. I love to evoke chuckles with quips, wry observations, double entendres and witty word play. Let me make you laugh!
What I’m doing with my life
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Reveling in pleasures, chuckling at the absurd, continuing to learn, seeking adventure, laughing at myself, guiding my college-age daughter, doctoring ailing preschools, improving early education. But, most of all, looking to build my life with another, in years to come, seeking communion with her as we both celebrate the pleasures of being alive and seek a role in transforming the world.

I've dabbled in archery, archaeology and partner dancing. I'm playing pool, hitchhiking across the Serengeti, (re?)learning the drums, studying wildlife and paleolinguistics, attending live music performances, managing a preschool, expanding love.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Responding to your feelings, romping like a child, using all my senses, pampering you, splurging on offbeat outings, finding what's funny, wondering at mysteries, romancing language. Comprehending and caring for very young children. Understanding & counseling troubled people. Contemplating natural settings and feeling part of nature. Getting around by bike and public transit (by choice I own no car, but I often rent one for outings.)
The first things people usually notice about me
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Curly hair when it's longer, twinkly eyes, warmth, confidence, enthusiasm and gentleness. Humor. I'm easy to be around. Currently my hair's somewhat shorter, with more silver.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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My favorite novels are Song of Solomon and Alain-Fournier's The Wanderer. I like nonfiction/science/biographies such as Jared Diamond, Brian Greene, Edward Wilson, Richard Feynman, Mary Leakey, Annie Dillard, Tracy Kidder, Richard Leakey. Hope you're fond of any of these: Richard Dawkins, Sam Harris, Howard Zinn, Rebecca Solnit, Arundhati Roy, Christian Parenti, Katha Pollitt, Naomi Klein, Amy Goodman, Greg Pallast, Noam Chomsky. Lucretius' On the Nature of Things was a seminal work for Renaissance breakthroughs and for enduring secularist/humanist thought. In fiction, Kingsolver, Alice Walker, Franzen, LeGuin, Toni Morrison, Nin, Crowley, Stegner, Piccoult, Hartup, Fleming, Leonard, Proulx, Naipul, Atwood, Rushdie, Munro, Marian Zimmer Bradley...

Film? Recently,Grand Hotel Budapest. I liked Gravity, which was powerful despite some treacly moments; wow, Hollywood occasionally allows a female protag who's not a cop, or gaga over a guy! Then there's Michael Moore, flawed, but more accessible than Chomsky in his message.
Music? Poetry? Let's enthuse over our favorites together.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My friends
Light and shadows
Bodies of water and the sound of it flowing
Good writing
Music and a stirring beat
My social conscience and activism
Touch, texture; silky skin and other tactile delights
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Currently, how I can make my life more productive and more pleasurable? And I spend time pondering what makes relationships ignite and what makes them work well over time. When I will find my angel? (apologies to Allen Ginsburg.)
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Out with friends, reading reading reading, dancing at Ashkenaz, watching the sunset, seeing a play, playing pickup basketball, catching a DVD with my daughter, writing my book about early education, manning the barricades, staring musingly into the middle distance, cleaning my apartment, dreaming of true love.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Some mystery is a really good thing. Come find me.
You should message me if
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you are a lot like this:
...reciprocal in relationships, ready to both receive and give
...outdoorsy, inclined to exercise & keeping fit (athletic?)
...literate, fond of words, conversational, curious of mind
...strong in libido, affectionate, and drawn to touch
...yearning for a just, democratic, non-exploitative society
...spiritual, as in "awed connection with the natural world" (and fellow humans) but averse to masters, dogmas, supernaturalist or irrational beliefs.

You'd just dazzle me if you also:
...write, create art, celebrate beauty
...enjoy feeling feminine and balancing with my masculine
...like wearing sensual fabrics and dressing becomingly

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