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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 54-64
  • Located anywhere
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Today – 5:37am
White, Other
5' 10" (1.78m)
Body Type
Atheism and it’s important
Post grad
Has kid(s)
English (Fluently), Spanish (Somewhat), French (Somewhat)
My self-summary
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I'm a teacher and nurturer of preschoolers, a freethinker, a enthusiastic and expressive companion, a supporter of progressive social transformation, an adventurer in all realms, an in-the-moment person who relishes the world's sensory delights. Let's create a lasting communion, full of adventure, desire, thoughtfulness, travel, creativity, ecstatic moments, shared social consciousness -- and larking about! I'm dating only until I've found you...

We live only once--so why miss the richness around us? I revel in sensory pleasures--but with a bohemian rather than a consumerist style. Let's share gourmet meals, the music of a symphony, the thrills of a thunderstorm, cozy getaways in the country, breathtaking meteor showers, mind-stretching talks late into the night, the feel of your warm skin through touchable fabrics, the patter of rain on the roof. Please be someone with a lively inquisitive mind, since as a thoughtful person I want to share much discussion with you.

Chemistry is ineffable and unpredictable, but I think shared values are the essence of a lasting connection. You are kind and compassionate, love reciprocally, and affirm systemic, progressive social change. I feel that meaning is for humans to create rather than to receive, so I seek one whose beliefs are based in compassion, reason and empiricism rather than in religion, gods, gurus, or doctrines. If you're Christian/Catholic, or identify with any deist religion, or pseudoscience such as astrology, please skip me!

Were you there awhile back at the rally to save the Earth in Oakland Sunday? Or the huge march in Oakland for social justice/against racist violence; the Port blockade in defense of Palestinians; Yuri Kochiyama's memorial; Klein's, Dawkins' or Chomsky's lectures; or the film "Flying Paper" at La Pena? I'm seeking someone of like heart who would appreciate a man for whom these conscious and activist events represent hope, engagement, responsibility and community.

Have you also attended the symphony or opera or a live theater performance in the past year? I looked for you at the above events and places--and also at La Pena, the library, Moe's Books, the Farmer's Market, the Women's Building, and Ashkenaz Music and Dance, even on Tilden Park trails--hoping to meet the kind of person who enfolds these experiences and more.

But I don't take myself too seriously: read on:

I'm upbeat, and generally happy. I find the best in a situation. I love to have fun. I've got my dad's sense of humor, kind of sardonic, with some Robert Benchley, Lenny Bruce, Mort Sahl, Lily Tomlin, Maureen Dowd, David Sedaris and Steven Wright mixed in. If I can get you to chuckle with my quips, wry observations, double entendres and witty word play, I'm happy. Let me make you laugh!

This gives a picture of me: I admire Rachel Corrie, Michele Alexander, Toni Morrison, Naomi Klein, Noam Chomsky, Sam Harris, Aung Sun Suu Ky, Ursula LeGuin, Barbara Lubin, Arhundhati Roy, David Gilbert, Malala Yousafzai, Bonnie Raitt, Chelsea (Brad) Manning, Eric Snowden.

If these are the kind of folks you esteem, you may well feel as I do that you're too unconventional to find a counterpart amongst the people who frequent OK Cupid...
What I’m doing with my life
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Watching raindrops on green leaves, mending broken preschools, writing, cavorting in warm waters, researching science-y things and early education, raising my grown daughter (!), mounting the barricades, playing basketball, dreaming of bootstrap travel through lands near and far, reading, dancing.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Nurturing young children, supporting their parents, intuiting others' feelings, counseling, appreciating stories and poems, writing, linking disparate ideas and patterns, creating adventure (shoestring) travel, camping, playing basketball, exploring science-y topics. I can also identify songs from the first 2, maybe 3 notes--funny, huh.
The first things people usually notice about me
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Curly hair (when it's longer), twinkly eyes, warmth, confidence, enthusiasm and gentleness. Humor. I'm easy to be around. Oh, OK, I'm actually only 5' 9 1/2". On a good day.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
My favorite novels are Song of Solomon and Alain-Fournier's The Wanderer. I like nonfiction/science/biographies such as Jared Diamond, Brian Greene, Edward Wilson, Richard Feynman, Mary Leakey, Annie Dillard, Tracy Kidder, Richard Leakey, Stephen Greenblatt (Swerve). Hope you're fond of some of these: Richard Dawkins, Sam Harris, Howard Zinn, Rebecca Solnit, Arundhati Roy, Christian Parenti, Katha Pollitt, Naomi Klein, Amy Goodman, Greg Pallast, Noam Chomsky. Lucretius' On the Nature of Things is a taproot for Renaissance breakthroughs and enduring secularist/humanist thought. In fiction, Kingsolver, Alice Walker, LeGuin, Toni Morrison, Nin, Crowley, Stegner, Piccoult, Hartup, Fleming, Proulx, Naipul, Atwood, Rushdie, Munro, Marian Zimmer Bradley, Kim Stanlet Robinson... Recently, Swerve by Stephen Greenblatt, and Jaynes' book on the origin of consciousness.

Film? Fairly recently, Birdman, Wild, Life of Pi and Grand Hotel Budapest. I also liked Gravity, which was powerful despite some treacly moments, with a female protag who's not a cop or
Music? Poetry? Let's enthuse over our favorites together.
Drinking? maybe white wine occasionally, with a restaurant meal.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My friends
Light and shadows
Bodies of water and the sound of it flowing
Good writing
Music and a stirring beat
My social conscience and activism
Touch, texture; silky skin and other tactile delights
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
What makes a good relationship, and how my love and I would play. How children develop and how to best raise and teach them. The places I want to travel and share with my love. The world's problems and how we can help transform our societies so they are just, equitable, humane, anti-sexist. The science of how consciousness unfolds.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Out with friends, reading reading reading, dancing at Ashkenaz, watching the sunset, seeing a play, playing pickup basketball, writing my i'll get to it soon book about early education, manning the barricades, staring musingly into the middle distance, cleaning my apartment, dreaming of true love.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Some mystery is a really good thing. Come find me.
You should message me if
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You seek an enduring relationship; if you're fit & healthy; if you've a strong sense of adventure; if you're a freethinker, not at all religious (tending instead to base beliefs on reason and evidence); if you're progressive-to-left & aren't stuck in the electoral, Rep/Dem box.

Beyond that, if you're creative, sensual and playful with a sense of style and allure (maybe even wear dresses with flair), and are GGG, it'd be wonderful.

If your profile identifies you with any religion or god, or a belief in supernatural explanations, please respect my preferences as I will yours, and don't be puzzled or offended that I've not responded.