Middle-aged gay male living the life (well, in part) on the West
Coast after early life in that heartland that we call the Midwest.
I like travel, sunsets, down-to-earth people... blah, blah – but
hey, I really do like traveling to the Sierra Nevada in the warm
months when you can hike, backpack, and take pictures without
worrying about dressing for frostbite if you stay out for an hour
too long. Back in SF, I stay pretty active with tennis, biking,
running, cultural events, playing pool, and sitting and reading in
a coffee shop (yes, I consider reading an activity!). I especially
enjoy good, in-depth conversations with close friends and partners.
That's become too often marginalized in our modern, online society.
What I’m doing with my life
Well, I'm at a pretty good point in my career and living at a great
location in San Fran – how could one complain? – but am missing
that one vital ingredient, which is a very significant other man to
spend time and perhaps life with. I really enjoy travel, but
noticed in my last overseas trip that there was a distinct
melancholy when I was traveling alone. After moving out here from
the Midwest and taking a detour via a brief episode into another
career, I came back to what I was doing before (environmental
chemistry & consulting), realizing that's where I should have
been all along. I'm happy here with some great friends in my life,
and was until recently active in a community singing group (that's
where the tenor in my username comes from) as well as tennis,
backpacking, biking, reading, playing pool, and exploring, among
other things. How about you?
I’m really good at
Ping pong! Too bad nobody plays this wonderful game – San Francisco
is too crowded to have space for tables! Not too bad at pool
The first things people usually notice about me
I'm somewhat reserved, but friendly and open to new people and new
experiences. I'm interested in substance more than image, am a good
conversationalist, and like in-depth conversation rather than
gossip. Somewhat analytical in outlook based on my background in
the sciences. Anyone else out there who's just a little like this?
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
This has to be an abbreviated list, obviously. Fave books include
Independent People, A Life in Full, Life and Times of the
Thunderbolt Kid, Cadillac Desert, The Control of Nature, the Dune
trilogy, The Long Walk, Howards End, among others.
Movies or TV novellas include The Usual Suspects, The Magnificent
Ambersons, Inside Man, The Wire, Breaking Bad, Bird Cage,
Victor/Victoria, Easy A.
Musical tastes are eclectic and encompass soul, rock, classical,
& jazz including Ben Folds, Tony Tone Toni, Prefab Sprout,
Human League, Madonna, Hall & Oates, Stevie Wonder, Steely Dan,
Tower of Power, Jethro Tull, Joni Mitchell, Curtis Mayfield, Aretha
Franklin, Beatles, Smokey Robinson, Caetano Veloso, Gilberto Gil,
Tom Jobim, Thelonius Monk, Duke Ellington, Lambert, Hendricks &
Ross, Leonard Bernstein, Cole Porter, Rodgers & Hart, Harry
Warren, Irving Berlin, the Gershwins, Scott Joplin, Stravinsky,
Carl Orff, Paul Hindemith, Debussy, Ravel, Holst, Brahms, Handel,
Food – pretty open except for fried food; love most of what's
offered in Italian, Thai, Japanese, & California cuisines.
The six things I could never do without
Music, tennis, coffee, backpacking, reading, and good
friends/conversation (not necessarily in that order). I'm glad they
asked for six, because nothing else comes close to those 6!
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Where we're all headed, as individuals and as a society. I want to
find someone special to help make it all worthwhile and fulfilling.
On a typical Friday night I am
Kicking back and watching a high-class cinematic offering.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Um, let me get back to you. It wouldn't be private if it goes on
the interwebs, right?
You should message me if
if any of this piques your interest. Especially if you are
interested in good conversation about the arts, current affairs,
history. And especially if you like cafes.