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30 Brooklyn, NY Cis Man

Cis Man

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I’m looking for

  • Men
  • Ages 23–37
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My details

Last online
Sep 8
5' 11" (1.81m)
Body Type
Agnosticism but it’s not important
My self-summary
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There are two phrases (I don't really think they can be called quotations), that I try to let govern my life.

The first is borrowed many times from Vonnegut, who is responsible for embedding it in my mind- "Something the cat dragged in", or rather, not making people feel that way. I don't enjoy people who do, or situations where that mentality is in place. Kindness is not a weakness; it's the product of empathy and effort.

The second is from a somewhat more arcane (read: geeky) source- "Cowards can't block Warriors". It's a rendition of "carpe diem" or the contemporary "YOLO", but it resonates with me in a way that neither of those variants ever has. Not being a coward has netted me a lot in the last year or so, specifically a lot of dates that I wouldn't have gone on otherwise.

I try to apply those principles here on the site as well, at least as they pertain to messaging or being messaged. If I think you're worth investigating, I'll send a message. If you message me, I'll do my best not to make you feel like something the cat dragged in. I find people and the sociological phenomenon of dating apps extremely fascinating, so as long as it's interesting, I'm usually in for at least a penny.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Not being terribly successful in any conventional stripe, but being pretty happy. Most of my hobbies are the hallmarks of an extremely enfranchised geek. My job facilitates my lifestyle.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Putting myself in other people's shoes. Reading comprehension. Playing Devil's advocate. Adapting.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Lately it's the beard. Depending on the color of my shirt, my eyes vie for primacy.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Books: I haven't been reading much in the way of actual books lately, which I hope to remedy. I tend to latch onto an author I like and work my way through the canon when I am. Michael Chabon, Neil Gaiman, and Bret Easton Ellis are my contemporary fiction trinity.

Movies: I'll watch almost anything someone can make a convincing case for. I worked at a video rental store for several years in the past, making this question fairly impossible to answer accurately. Mad Max: Fury Road was great?

TV: This exists in the same vein as books- I've been throwing my idle time elsewhere lately, and when I do watch, I tend to put down an entire series in short order. Veep was the last victim (and was great).

Music: It can be somewhat difficult to keep me from singing show tunes sometimes. Consider yourself warned.

Food: I've been mostly vegetarian for a few months. I love to eat, though, and exploring that love through a more narrow lens has been an interesting experience.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
In no particular order…

1.) Games. There’s just something about having a competitive and intellectual outlet which provides social context that really works for me.
2.) Writing. Though I'm non-practicing right now, I still can't help but look at the world through a writer's eyes.
3.) People. This probably factors into the above a bit, but people are just too interesting not to have around. Friends fall under this heading as well- I have some great ones.
4.) Food. Not in a canned "you need food to live" way. In a "I spend an egregious amount of time thinking about what I'm eating next" way.
5.) Humor/Laughter. It's a social panacea. What's not to love?
6.) Debate. Any point of view that can be challenged should be challenged.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How many more hits my profile would get if I could contrive to be photographed on a sailboat, with a dog.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
I try not to have typical Friday nights.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I missed out on several twenty-something development years due to a very-long-term relationship that didn't pan out. I've been making up for lost time since getting out of it, with mixed results.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
... you want to be able to block Warriors?
... you want to grab a drink or take a walk or something more specific in order to get to know one another?
... I came up as "liking" you during a Quickmatch session?

Feel free not to message me if you're transphobic or have any hang-ups relating to race or perceived masculinity. It probably won't work out, vis a vis the cat-dragged-in business.