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32 M Oakland, CA

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 9:08pm
6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body Type
Mostly vegetarian
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids
English (Fluently), Spanish (Okay)

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My self-summary
is limited by language and full of cliches...
so, the cliches.... nice. honest. open. love my friends. have fun. passionate about stuff that matters and acknowledge the role that privilege plays in my ability to do so (blah, blah, blah - true, but blah blah blah). and more true cliches!

but then there are the other things, but honestly, openly, lovingly, and funnily, I don't want to waste our time reading about it. better to figure this stuff out in person.

or better yet, ask me questions.
What I’m doing with my life
my life and I are not doing each other. we're in a very consensual, reciprocal relationship. of course, we occasionally question one another, but for the most part, we get along quite well.

we're lucky we have each other, but I'll never buy one of those "Life is Good" hats because, well, you understand
I’m really good at
...seeing lots of dots and connecting them (what dots? you know THE dots); conversations that seem to matter when they happen; believing in people; admiring what others are capable of; putting my cards on the table - not a gambling man, but like to roll the dice and go with it; finding and creating common ground; seeing all sides while being passionate about many
The first things people usually notice about me
blue eyes. credit to my mother.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
just read a collection of Wendell Berry essays. they hit home

[honest] food with limited adjectives (I've never tasted a good adjective) piled in the middle of a table with people around and limited utensils

music, live, played with and by friends

and the stuff that gets 'em dancing
The six things I could never do without
I like to think that I could do without most material things but....

...I keep living on, or very near the ocean, find myself in at least a garden a day, seek being creatively challenged, with music, seeds, and a boat full of friends and instruments!
I spend a lot of time thinking about
how to avoid cliches in this section and...
that cabin on the coast... for real
On a typical Friday night I am
cooking dinner and playing music with friends.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 25–35
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
you just want to, for whatever reason.

and I think it's great to be reached out to.

and you think this is silly and would like to anyway.

you consider friendship to be the best benefit.