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28 M Boone, IA

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  • Ages 25–31
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My Details

Last Online
Sep 14
6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Trying to quit
Not at all
Atheism, and laughing about it
Taurus, but it doesn’t matter
Dropped out of university
Art / Music / Writing
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Strictly monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Likes dogs and has cats
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Hello. I'm Stephen. I'm a bit of a socially awkward guy, to be honest, and I'm not entirely sure what information would be relevant here. I'm apathetic towards a lot of things, and generally my indifference makes me or others uncomfortable. I tend to lie quite a bit, not out of a compulsion, but because I really don't think anything that I have to say would be interesting to other. I have a bit of a confidence problem, if you haven't noticed, but that's to be expected of someone in my position in life.

Here's some generalities:
I'm a four time college dropout.
I'm socially awkward, but functional for the most part.
I'm socially disinterested and uninteresting, though I'm able to hold any level conversation.
I'm a writer and my first novel, In the Garden of Souls, was published 26 April 2014.
I enjoy the quiet.
I'm uninterested in partying or normal social activities.
I've a small number of close friends, but fierce loyalty to them.
I'm an opinionated asshole, but I'm working on that.
I'm quiet, not shy.

As for other potential things:
I am apathetic towards sex.
I have an aversion to people touching me.
I do not respect religion, but the people are usually nice enough.
I think that it would be nice to eventually have progeny, but I doubt that I would ever consider myself capable of that responsibility.
I've been a smoker since I was seventeen, though I'm in the process of quitting.
I do not drink, and I have never been drunk.
I have a crippling fear of death.
I don't sleep much.

Wow. Rereading everything somewhat makes me seem like a loser. So here's some more positive things:
I love to write.
I think that strawberries are awesome.
I openly mock internet atheism as well as religion because I believe the premise is irrelevant.
I have never gone out on a date. Ever.
I have never kissed anyone, and, honestly, think kissing is sort of weird.
I'm on good terms with my sister, two years older, and my brother, one year older.
I'm on good terms with my mother.
I wish a painful and anonymous death on my father.
I'm terrified that I'm exactly like my father, which is part of the reason that I don't really seek out relationships.
I don't like sweets as much as people assume.
My dentist screwed up and dulled my left canine, leaving my mouth lopsided.
I'm not very adventurous, though I try to try anything once.
I like the mountains.
I love the smell of rain.

But enough of lists of traits. You could look through my question answers for those. Let me instead give you a brief story. I was born in North Carolina on the day Chernobyl melted down. My parents ran a pizza place there for a little while and everything was great. Then, we moved to Iowa for about a year. And it was terrible. So we moved to Colorado. That was probably the last time in my life I was somewhat normal. We lived a couple of places there, and we went camping all the time. Then my father moved to Utah and abandoned us. And that was super. So we moved back to Iowa to live with my maternal grandmother. Eventually, my mother married again, and my brother and I were moved to Arkansas while my sister stayed to finish high school with her friends. Arkansas was worse than Iowa, much to my surprise, and my disposition soured severely. After nearly swinging at the vice principal of the high school during my graduation ceremony, I decided to stick things out on my own for a while. So my friend and I headed to California, where we had many adventures in being flat broke. Afterward, I tried my hand at college for the first time, moving to Utah. It didn't take. So I moved back to California, then to Iowa for round two with college. It didn't take the second time, either. After working a dead end job for a year, I moved with my friend to Arizona for round three. I barely got past admissions that time, and left shortly after. So back to Iowa I went, taking another dead end job at minimum wage to get by and letting my writing fall by the wayside. A year later, I went back to Colorado and had more adventures in poverty there with my longtime roommate. When nothing panned out there, it was back to California. Then back to Iowa and back to a dead end job. A year later, my brother moved out to Baltimore, and I tagged along, thinking that I had matured enough to handle college by then. I had not, as it turned out, and we were flat broke and moving back to Iowa six months later. Since then, I've gone back to a dead end job, but I'd started writing at a much more serious pace. Eventually, I worked my way up to a promotion, and I think I've started to turn my life around. I'm not sure though. Old habits and all.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I'm an hourly supervisor at work, but that's bill money. What I'm doing with my life is writing as much and often as I can. I'm not shooting for being a commercial hit, but I do want to write well enough, and a large enough body of work, that I can live off of it. Someday, maybe, I'll be a big name author, but all I'm really shooting for at the moment is hack novelist that makes $30,000 to $50,000 a year in royalties.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
It's hard to say with any certainty. I believe I'm a fair enough person, with above average intellect, writing skills, and overall comprehension.

Some skills I'm proud of are my patience, calm, and clarity of mind.

On the other hand, there are a lot of things that I'm terrible at:
Expressing my emotions.
Trusting others.
Moving on.
Accepting failure.
Taking care of myself, physically.
Genuinely appreciating others.
Being honest.
Being tactful.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
No one has really commented on me for a while. For the most part, I would probably have to say my odd fashion sense (button down and clean cut) and professional demeanor.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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My favorite books would have to be the Dark Tower series, written be Stephen King, one of the greatest American commercial novelists, though I'm willing to read just about anything. Some topics and genres I like to read about: technology, religion, mortality, morality, fantasy, science fiction, factoids, historical fiction, horror, biographies, history, speculative fiction, politics, reference, and technical manuals.

My favorite movies would have to be In the Mouth of Madness, Event Horizon, and Dark City. Horror as a genre is somewhat what I grew up with, but I'm not terribly picky when it comes to entertainment. I also have a fondness for low budget pictures. Just seeing what creative people can do on a dime is actually really cool to me. And I like to see more raw acting than what you usually get in big budget flicks.

For shows, it's a matter of mood more than anything. Documentary shows, paranormal shows, police procedural, I'll watch about anything other than reality television and sports. To be completely frank, though, my single favorite show is Doctor Who, followed closely by Farscape. Joss Whedon's stuff I like, but I feel dirty about liking it. Not that it's bad necessarily, but that the plots are generally weak because the characters are so strong.

My favorite music is a lot harder to pinpoint as I generally listen to anything. I'm not big on rap, country, or hip hop, however. I like some of it, but most of it seems really pointedly not for me.

My favorite foods? I don't know about that. I like olives. Strawberries. Crackers. I've curbed my eating for a couple of months, in addition to exercising, to work on getting down to a healthy weight.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
I'm never far from my laptop or my phone. The laptop because that's where I write. My phone because I don't actually know. I don't really call people and people don't really call me, I'm not into social media beyond trying to use it to promote my book, and I generally don't get emails.

I carry my lighter on me at all times, as well as my Leatherman. The lighter is because I'm a smoker. Trying to quit, but I've not been able to kick the habit just yet. The Leatherman because it is really handy to have. You never know when you are going to need a screwdriver, a knife, a bottle opener, a pair of scissors, a wrench, pliers, or a file.

Other than that, mostly it's just the ideas that I need and a goal before me. I run on ideas, writing anything that strikes me. And I have to have a goal at all times. I would go crazy with absolutely nothing to work toward.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
I spend a lot of my time thinking about my writing. It's about the most important thing that I have at the moment. Other than that, it's work. I do spend a fair amount of time worry about what sort of legacy I'll leave when I'm gone.

And, of course, I think more than I want to about the prospects of dying. I cannot understate the fear I have of death. Ever since I was eleven, my own mortality has kept me up at night until I'm finally able to brush it off enough to get some sleep.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
On a typical Friday night, I'm usually writing or outlining. Always some idea or another to express. Friday is just another day to me. Actually, it's the first day of my workweek, so I never have plans for the evenings.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
The most private thing I'm willing to admit? Nothing. I'm more reactive than proactive. If I'm asked, I'll pretty much answer anything, though.
You should message me if
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If what you've read isn't frightening, send me a message. I'm not adverse to the prospect of making friends. Please use proper spelling and grammar, though. I will not respond if your message is a garbled mess. I don't have the time or inclination to read that sort of thing, and you really have no excuses at this point. The computer and browser will, for the most part, point out all of the faults.

Also, message me if you notice any errors in my profile. I would like to correct them.