Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I am intelligent, educated, visionary, successful, and as modest as
all hell. I work in policy and find pleasure in writing
. I have a dry sense of humour and
eclectic tastes in music and entertainment. I discovered the
Internet twenty years ago and haven't really left it since. I'm
generally happy in life and I am looking forward to finding out
where it ends up taking me.
I am idealistic, thoughtful, and driven (you used to have to choose
three adjectives to describe yourself on OkCupid; they're now just
editable text, but I guess still apply.) I'm an INTJ.
UPDATE: Going to Burning Man for the first time this year.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I work for a non-profit organisation advocating for digital rights,
I am totally passionate about it. I moved to the Bay area for the
job—for the previous five years I had a similar job based from
Southeast Asia, which was also an amazing experience. I have
written a book and edited a few more. I travel a lot for work and
pleasure. When not travelling, I am probably fixing up my dream
home. I used to occasionally do some acting for screen or stage for
fun, and would like to have time to get back into that, as well as
playing some more PS3
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I have dabbled in everything: writing, acting, coding, stand-up,
directing, composing music and photography. The results have been
enough to make me happy, though whether I'm really good at any of
them isn't for me to say. Today my boss told me that I'm good at
holding a microphone. Well, I'll take that too.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Apparently I'm "fascinating". I'm not entirely sure why. Sometimes
when they say that I feel like a particularly intriguing microbe
being examined under a microscope. People often notice that I'm
quiet and considerate, which is true but sounds boring. Once you
get to know me, you'll find I'm actually anything but. I will spout
on endlessly to you about the things I believe in, which are many,
as I have a strong sense of fairness.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
, William Gibson
, Douglas Adams
, Stanley Kubrick
, Terry Gilliam
, Christopher Nolan
TV: Doctor Who
, Black Mirror
, trip hop
Foods: Malaysian, Mexican, Indian, Italian, Thai
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1. I value having the knowledge, the technology and the legal
freedom to maintain my own secure Internet presence without
dependency on big providers or excessive vulnerability to snooping
2. I value being in a relationship where I don't have to shut off
or hide my potential attraction to others and in which jealousy has
matured into compersion.
3. Even though owning a complete library of the media that I love
will never be possible, there are some favourites that I will never
part with or trust to a third-party streaming service.
4. Risk – I wouldn't have achieved most of what I have in life
without taking risks, and would have regretted not trying. Also the
5. My passport. I travel so much partly for work, partly for fun,
and partly because there is no country that as much as I love it,
doesn't also suck in lots of annoying ways (usually down to
politics and/or religion); so travelling is my way of couching my
6. Creative expression. I haven't had as much time for it lately,
but without the ability to imagine and create, life wouldn't be
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Where I might be in five years' time. I am optimistic, ambitious,
and less risk-averse than most people. So three times I have left
my job with nothing firm lined up to replace it, and so far it has
turned out for the best - if not financially, then in terms of
personal development. Money has never been my biggest driver; if
anything, I suppose that achievement is: making a positive
difference in the world.
I am what Americans would call politically liberal or progressive,
but in a very practical way, so if your politics mainly involves
naval-gazing about privilege/entitlement/intersectionality, that
doesn't impress me much. Those who have worked for years in the
developing world, as I have, soon find that this kind of armchair
activism is incomprehensible and irrelevant to the world's most
underprivileged and oppressed people, who are more concerned with
things like access to safe and affordable food, water and medicine,
freedom to practise their religious and policial beliefs, and
securing educational and secure employment opportunities.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
wondering where the week went. I've never really been one for
drinking or clubbing on a weekend (now finally I'm old enough that
I have an excuse for that!). I'm not that gregarious; I prefer to
socialise in smaller groups with people I know well. I might be
doing that on a Friday night, but more likely I will just be at
home, with my computer on my lap and perhaps the TV on. Never in my
life have I gone up to a stranger and asked them out. The prospect
is both foreign and terrifying to me. On the other hand, some of
the things I have done will surprise and maybe shock you.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I am happily married to comedychick
(whom I met on OkCupid in
2005 - much of this profile dates from then). However we practice
such we are allowed to date others, so feel free to contact either
Some of the older match questions that I answered years ago may not
reflect the above. If you find one, let me know. In fact if there's
any question that you think I answered weirdly feel free to
interrogate me about it. Even if I haven't changed my mind, I love
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
I lent you something and you haven't returned it. Give it back, you
If you can take some better profile photos of me. I'd be happy to
reciprocate, I'm a decent photographer.
If you enjoy listening to an Australian accent.
If you are dealing with any mental issue such as depression,
borderline personality disorder or bipolar disorder, or have in the
past, please let me know. Although I have never had any mental
illness several of my previous partners have, and although it is
also not a deal breaker, it is something that it would be helpful
to know because it is likely to affect the nature of any
relationship that we may have.
If you do contact me, then please follow through. One of my traits
is reliability: if I say I'm going to do something, I do it. So I
would rather you didn't contact me at all if you don't plan to
reply to emails or to meet up when you say you will.
Conversely, hopefully you'll agree that being popular or
sought-after on OKCupid is no reason to be rude to people who
contact you in good faith, even if you're not interested in
Have a nice day. :-)
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