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55 F Seattle, WA

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Last Online
Today – 7:29am
5′ 7″ (1.70m)
Body Type
Strictly anything
Buddhism, and laughing about it
Graduated from university
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids
Has cats
English, Italian (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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“Let the beauty we love be what we do…” feels truer by the minute.

So...have placed myself widely, including, at length, Italy, NYC, Greece, Oakland, India, the Sierra Nevada; worked variously--with kids, with plants, with food, these days bodies. Did experimental theater, dance; now a dedicated writer. Always, the project is creative expression. That's meaning, for me, and what I live for. Pleasure is meaning. Loss is meaning. The big collective story is meaning. Funny is meaning. Dreams are meaning. Eating is meaning. Beauty is serious meaning. As long as I know I’m taking it in—body a conscious gate; mind tender, meticulous—I’m good. Whatever promotes fear or confusion, I’m against. If this sounds too serious, let me be clear: the best is when you get to laugh. I consider this period in my life a watershed for debunking truthless stories, bucking self-limitations—a juicy and strenuous time.

Built paradoxical: Pleasure-loving but discerning and will cheerfully do without rather than settle for less. A self-reliant introvert with crack social skills and a selective outgoing dazzle. Disciplined and hardworking, but skeptical of mainstream/conventional values: will take time over money in a heartbeat (but wouldn't say no to both). Shallow roots and itchy feet notwithstanding, I build charming, eccentric nests. Inquiring, eclectic, iconoclastic—also deeply loyal, trustworthy, ethical, kind, an old-fashioned idealist. The older I get, the more I like how I look, relish who I am. In others, I most appreciate curiosity, soulfulness, prowess in anything, kindness, self-investigation, trustworthiness, creativity, spiritual sensibility, a sharp quiet eye, a vibrant physical life, intrepid hearts/minds.

Note: I live mostly on Whidbey Island, for big views and focused work and an everyday relationship with nature and better weather and the beach under my bluff and because I was offered a deal I couldn't refuse...and partly in Seattle, for income and social circulation. The arrangement is as flexible as I want to make it--am definitely not married to the island, or for that matter to the northwest. Open to change of all kinds.

As for this online experiment: no TO DO list--moving slow. I do want a partner/mate/beloved--perhaps even for life--but comfortable approaching that one day at a time, thank you. Perspective, humor, and patience with the process, please! (not to mention a skeptical regard for the random inanities of the robot...)
What I’m doing with my life
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A Buddhist teacher, approached by a student distraught because his practice "hadn't changed anything," replied: "The intention of practice isn't for you to change, but to discover your condition." Amen to that. Last winter/spring I flew to Oakland every two weeks to see what would happen. Year before that I spent months asking strangers to tell me jokes: veerry innterressting. What else? Ardent cook, gardener; inspired putterer; bold traveler. Reading/writing/reflection are every day. Relish in no particular order: good museums, thrift stores, hiking, yoga, swimming, roadside attractions, great pastry, big mountains, natural history, ethnic food shops, street markets, sidewalk cafes, lectures, film, dancing, kids in my path, reasons to look at things closely (that could be anything). Helping people with their bodies (I'm a massage therapist) pays the bills; writing pays the gods; on some level both aim at the same thing: creative integration.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Paying attention. Cooking. Telling the truth. Laughing. Remembering my dreams. How bodies work. Metaphor-making. Hard work. Creating beauty. Choosing pleasure.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'd say that's for you to know and for me to find out.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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A partial list of culture heroes along the way: Nick Cave, Gerhard Richter, Morris Graves, Cassavetes & Rowlands, Lucinda Williams, Emily Dickinson, Lars von Trier, Kiki Smith, Arvo Part, Paul Klee, Anne Carson, Roberto Calasso, Jung, Lewis Hyde, James Hillman, John Crowley, J.M. Coetzee, Alice Munro, Noam Chomsky, Ricky Gervais, Julia Child, Colette, Leonard Cohen, Freakwater, Bjork...and a bunch of oddball stuff. LOVE exploring. Food? That too. Not having someone to cook for/with is the second-worst part of being single.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Friends, like manna in the wilderness
My reading glasses
This crazy body-life
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
The nature of consciousness, actually. The implications of infinity. Why we have bodies. Jokes. What I'm going to wear.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
My schedule shape-shifts, so Fridays don't get fetishized.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
After dismissing the "Questions" trap as a crock of poorly-conceptualized, badly written malarkey, I wound up answering 962 (count 'em) of those suckers at the behest/needling of a fellow I took an interest in. 962...and I'm still not convinced.
I’m looking for
  • Guys who like girls
  • Ages 48–62
  • Located anywhere
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.'re big on reality and you know, or are prepared to explore, how to be whole-hearted. Fear, mistakes? Welcome, human. Fakers, dabblers, sleep-walkers? Shoo!