Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
My whole profile was edited or rewritten on 9/22/14, so this is the
real me as of right now.
My wife, of almost 25 years, died in November of 2010. I am looking
for a companion who understands loss and is not threatened by the
I am currently in treatment for a rare cancer with no clear picture
of life expectancy and therefore I am currently living life to the
I love to sail in San Francisco Bay. I currently am certified to
skipper sailboats up to 50'. I enjoy sharing my love of sailing
with those on board and commonly have 4-7 on board who are novices
and first time sailors.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
What I am doing with my life is very simple -- moving forward one
step at a time and trying not to step on the alligators. Life is
ever changing and none of the plans I have made over the last 30
years have come out as expected. So I am now looking at life for
today, this week, this month, and the next 1-2 years. I am trying
to do the things that were put off until there was enough time or
money. I now know that there is always enough time and money for
the important things and if you wait they may never happen.
Most importantly I am seeking a new friends and hopefully a
lover/life companion. As part of doing that I am trying out various
meetups and social groups.
I am currently exercising twice a week through the Well-Fit program
offered by Auburn Racquet Club, which conveniently is just a few
blocks from my home. Designed for those with and recovering from
cancer it is a great program and my strength, stamina, and range of
motion are all improving (I was getting a little slow on the
My life is a bit complicated by my cancer. I wear a pressure
garment from toe to chest but you cannot tell that I am physically
limited unless you ask me to jump over a fence. I am in continuous
cycles of chemotherapy which is surprisingly holding the cancer
stable (with a bit of downward slipping). But I constantly confound
the nurses - I look so healthy and vibrant that they make comments
about how nice it is to be past chemo when I come in for my blood
draws. Through good diet and taking just the right supplements my
immune levels are now good enough I can freely go to large events
and participate in events in a crowded room.
I am not looking for sympathy or a nurse! I am especially
interested in someone who has been holding back from a relationship
because of a perceived flaw. I still consider myself active,
comfortable in my finances, and a fantastic partner in every way
that counts. I am looking for someone who sees themselves in the
same way, having accepted their flaws and/or limitations. Lets all
be honest at 63 years into a wonderful life not everything is going
to be working perfectly, cancer or not.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I'm really good at problem solving and dealing with practical
matters. I'm not so good at empathy and showing my emotions. Both
areas I'm really good at trying to improve in. I'm really good at
getting things accomplished and providing the right level of
support friends, colleagues, and groups I am working with.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
When people first meet me in a crowded room I normally don't stand
out, on purpose. After a while people notice that I am an intent
listener. Afterward the first meeting most people remember me as
someone who could talk intelligently on many subjects. I also
usually get remember for being polite and doing something extra
that was helpful.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Music - anything but rap.
Food - fine natural or organic foods prepared by someone who cares
about food as I do. Fine dining in restaurants is a favorite
Movies - Romantic Comedies, Science Fiction, and Heart Breakers (my
feminine side comes out watching movies. I would love to get back
into West Coast Swing dancing - with the right partner.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Not necessarily in the order of importance the first six things
that come to mind that I could never do without are:
Love and companionship;
A car for traveling throughout California;
Water for my thirst, to kayak or sail upon, and to immerse myself
in to relieve tension or dive into to explore a different
A home that can hold a gathering of friends, a candle light dinner
for two, and is an environment that suits my inner and outer
A job that I feel helps society and enriches me either
philosophically or monetarily;
And the ability to always find the silver lining in any situation.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
I am preparing to spend the weekend sailing or attending a concert
or event - or just relaxing for a "stay at home weekend".
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Ask when we are together -- I am an open book to the ones that care
You should message me if
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If my profile and the way I have answered the questions strikes a
chord with you, please message me - particularly if you are a widow
and cancer has affected your life.
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