What I am doing with my life is very simple -- moving forward one
step at a time and trying not to step on the alligators. Life is
ever changing and none of the plans I have made over the last 30
years have come out as expected. So I am now looking at life for
today, this week, this month, and the next 3 years. I am trying to
do the things that were put off until there was enough time or
money. I now know that there is always enough time and money for
the important things and if you wait they may never happen. I am
working enough to pay for all the things I want to really do and
spending the time to accomplish the short term goals I am setting.
I am trying to be physically and mentally active.
I am currently Argentine Tango as much as possible trying to become
a competent leader. I am dancing West Coast Swing when possible as
it boost my ego when a dance goes well. I am riding my recumbent
tricycle when the weather is right. I am kayaking. I have just had
my SCUBA gear annual-ed and hope to get some underwater time in the
winter in a warm location. I am taking Yoga classes when my work
schedule allows. I find Yoga to both improve my body and my inner
self. I play video games, both solitaire types and just recently
network types, not to excess, as they keep the mind sharp. I am
giving back to the community by working with the arts.
Most importantly I am seeking a best friend, lover, and life
companion. As part of doing that I am trying out various meetups
and social groups. I am hoping for a short search, but I know that
the right person will be there someday and I know I won't find them
unless I first put myself out there and look.
At this moment in time my life is a bit complicated. In July I
found a small nodule in my thigh that hurt when pressed. After a
couple of false starts it was determined it was a lymph node that
was being enlarged by trapped skin cancer cells (a type of cancer
that seldom kills and usually does not get into the lymph system).
After finding out how extensively the lymph system in the leg was
involved I had major surgery in late July to remove all the lymph
nodes in the upper part of the leg and to rearrange muscles to fill
the voids. I now proudly have a 11" incision from mid-thigh to
almost my belly button and my two legs are no longer identical, but
you cannot tell if I am wearing pants. I amazed everyone by not
needing any narcotic pain medications and resuming activities very
quickly. I was dancing two weeks after the operation rather than
the predicted 6 to 8 weeks. I am now undergoing chemo therapy that
will last until February. I expect to be limited by the weakening
of my immune system but nothing holds me down. If all goes well I
am expected to be back in good health by April, but I will not be
cured. I am not looking for sympathy or a nurse! I am especially
interested in someone who has been holding back from a relationship
because of a perceived flaw. I still consider myself active,
comfortable in my finances, and a fantastic partner in every way
that counts. I am looking for someone who sees themselves in the
same way, having accepted their flaws and/or limitations. Lets all
be honest at 61 years into a wonderful life not everything is going
to be working perfectly.
