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33 Austin, TX Cis Man

Cis Man

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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 18–36
  • Near me
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Sep 30
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
Working on Ph.D program
Open relationship
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Likes dogs and has cats
English (Fluently), Ancient Greek (Okay), German (Poorly)
My self-summary
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I'd say I'm a study in contradictions. I'm uncomfortable going to a party where I don't know many people, but have no problem speaking in from of a classroom of 50 or 500. I've always been an intellectual, but I'm writing a dissertation on the importance of irrational motivations in Aristotle's ethics. (For that matter, I picked a topic that requires learning ancient Greek, but I suck at languages.) I'm often quiet, often the life of the party, and rarely in between the two (but no, I am not bipolar or anything like that). I don't believe in astrology, but I still think I fit the description of a Gemini to a tee. (My favorite description said something like "As a Gemini, you see both sides of every issue. Instead of giving you clarity, this makes you argue with yourself endlessly. You'll probably end up a strung-out drug addict or a philosophy professor." I swear that's not why I became a philosopher though.)
What I’m doing with my life
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Working on my dissertation at UT.
Teaching students and learning from them.
Eating healthier and trying to get out and enjoy more of what Austin has to offer.
Honing my skills as a home chef and putting on dinner parties.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Listening, talking in small groups, talking to large groups, cooking, baking, entertaining, friendly debating, making people laugh, calling misogynistic BS when I see/hear it, being passionate (in a variety of senses), making parenthetic remarks (see above), putting a lot of (too much?) thought into movies/music/popular culture, forgiving others, being hard on myself, keeping other people's secrets and giving up my own.
The first things people usually notice about me
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My hair. Girls often tell me they'd kill for my hair. No one's actually tried yet, but I keep my guard up just in case.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: I don't get to do much pleasure reading any more, but Daniel Suarez and and H.P. Lovecraft rock my world. I grew up mainly reading fantasy like The Dark Tower series and The Wheel of Time, but I haven't read the latter since Sanderson took over writing it. The Black Jewels world is amazing, and I'm nerdy enough that I really enjoy reading Aristotle's Nicomachean Ethics.

Movies: Closer, Brick, The Dark Knight, The Machinist, May, Dead Poets Society, Secretary, Salton Sea, The Last Castle, Pitch Black, Unforgiven, The Prestige. More generally, I love horror as a genre, but I also think most horror movies suck. I want a creeping psychological fear, not buckets of blood and cheap jumps.

TV: Firefly, Scrubs, Iron Chef, So You Think You Can Dance (seemingly the only competition show out there that actually has world-class contestants and isn't interested in fabricated "reality" drama), Game of Thrones.

Music: Emilie Autumn, Rent, Robbie Williams, NIN, Rammstein, Regina Spektor, Wumpscut, Straylight Run, Dresden Dolls, Angelspit, Dr Horrible's Sing-Along Blog, kidneythieves, Mumford and Sons

Food: I was raised a very picky meat-and-potatoes type of eater, but I've grown out of my culinary shell into a full-blown foodie. I'm almost as good with veggie dishes as I am protein entrees, and a while back I stretched my foodie muscles by putting on a five-course dinner that was vegan and gluten-free. Show me a new cuisine or a creative new chef and I'll be eternally grateful. Or give me a culinary challenge and I'll enjoy cooking for you even more!
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
What counts as a life well lived, how to make sense of moral disagreement, how to engage with society to make it a better place, the ethics of sex and our messed-up cultural stigmas about it (or sex-positivity more generally), whether Socrates really thought it would be unjust to flee Athens, ancient Greek grammar, my two cats, when I'll get to teach my own classes again instead of being a TA, what restaurant to visit next, how good wine can be, how bad it is for my wallet that I'm starting to appreciate good wine.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Getting together with friends for drinks and a movie or board games or going to a movie or stage production, at least until the semester gets going and I have papers to grade, papers to write, papers to translate, and all the other good fun of being a grad student (which actually rarely requires sacrificing my Friday night anyway). There's also a good chance I'll be cooking for one or more people, so if you're hungry, hit me up!
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Well, it's not really private at all, but this seems like as good a place as any to make explicit: I am in a serious non-monogamous relationship with one person right now, and have been for 12 years. I'm NOT just looking for a threesome. I'm looking for dates and ideally a relationship with someone. If we hit it off, you'll need to meet my current partner at some point and not actively dislike each other, but there is no need or expectation that a relationship with me entails more than friendship with her. It's not out of the question if you and she hit it off, but I just want anyone checking me out to know that I'm looking for me, not for her and me together. Also, since the question sometimes comes up, if I did get serious with someone, I would be down for becoming "closed" to just my current partner and the new partner. I can't really imagine having the time for two serious relationships plus dating other people as well :)
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