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32 North Haven, CT Man


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  • Ages 23–35
  • Near me
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My details

Last online
Apr 28
6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body type
Mostly anything
Not at all
Christianity, and laughing about it
Virgo, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from university
Rather not say
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Dislikes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly), Italian (Poorly)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I live for conversation, affection, anachronism, and sating my pervasive curiosity. Haunting restaurants, antique stores, museums, and used bookstores occupies much of my time. While haunting is out of fashion these days, I enjoy its translucency and attendant ectoplasmic intangibility—though I am troubled lately by an ineluctible Volkswagen full of meddlesome hippies and their dog.

I stubbornly live in 1939 while the numbers on the calendar refuse to keep still. It seems my mannerisms, diction, and æsthetic sensibilities remain implacably static no matter how old I get. I am the only person on OKCupid who has an antique phonograph repairman on speed dial.

Travel is a new love of mine. Aside from various proximate US states, I've had comparatively unadventurous adventures in England, Wales, Scotland, Italy, and Serbia so far.

I am lucky to have built a successful professional life, while personally I have grown to feel comfortable over the years in who I am. I'm looking for someone now whose company intoxicates me: whose conversations can enthrall me for hours and whose presence animates my physical passions—someone with whom I can spend adventurous days and evenings out, and whom it will someday feel natural and right to return home to at night.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
By day I am a software engineer for a fashion firm in Manhattan; by night, I roam the rooftops in my cape and cowl seeking the evil minions of Nietzsche the 'Nihilator's amoral criminal syndicate.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
. . . staying up far too late; splitting infinitives; maintaining a gentlemanly demeanor in a world that is quickly outmoding my already antiquated sensibilities; going prematurely grey; unnaturally mixing iambic trimeter and iambic tetrameter in poetry as a calculated affront to nature; abusing semicolons; surrounding myself with Victorian furniture; intuitively identifying the most complicated way to do anything and then doing it exactly that way; dividing by zero.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Lately: bowties.

I'm also often accused of being British, since apparently I closely fit the conception of what British people should look like. This belief is not dispelled when I speak, since I grew up reading far too much Victorian literature. People have trouble placing my accent, even though I was born and raised in New England.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
If it weren't for the occasional profile that also admits this, I would feel like I am the only person who reads every other section and only skims this one. I've never understood how I am supposed to intuit much about others as people through an exhaustive catalogue of their favorite bands (which seems to be what this section inevitably devolves into).

I read science fiction and satirical fantasy for pleasure, including works by Terry Pratchet, J. R. R. Tolkien, Isaac Asimov, and Arthur C. Clarke. Lev Grossman's "The Magicians" trilogy was delightful, and M. John Harrison's "Light" was brilliantly bizarre. As far as classics go, The Great Gatsby, Catch-22, the Sherlock Holmes novels and stories, and various works by Edgar Allan Poe and Samuel Taylor Coleridge have all been of interest to me. Lately, I have been braving the prolix prose of H. P. Lovecraft and (trebly so) of Mervin Peake. Peake's prolixity projects perfect pulchritude, practically pulverizing present pusillanimous prose.

In movies, I prefer the quirky, wistful, and dramatically scientific. I like "Time Bandits" and "Brazil," "Steamboy," "Toys," "The Princess Bride," and the Claymation "The Adventures of Mark Twain." "Sky Captain and the World of Tomorrow" was enthralling, and while the movie was not particularly special the settings for "The League of Extraordinary Gentlemen" tickled my æsthetics.

I'm not sure whether shows refer to the theater or to television. My sister directs plays fairly frequently, so I most often view whichever work she is putting together. Rosencrantz and Guildenstern Are Dead, No Exit, and The Scottish Play are some of my favorites. I also saw a brilliant production in London once that I think was called "Missing," though I can't seem to find any information on it to corroborate my memory of the title. As for television, my television is from 1954, so by the time I get around to powering it up on a Variac it will probably need some new vacuum tubes.

In terms of music, I universally have the satellite radio tuned to the 1940s station. I also enjoy Alabama 3, Kaizers Orchestra, Dr. Steel, and Ludo. More generally, classic rock and classical music interest me if a piece in either genre is scored in a dramatic or melancholy minor key. I may be having a secret affair with the soundtrack to the Broadway musical The Secret Garden.

The likelihood of me enjoying a culinary dish varies inversely with how healthy it is.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
I have noticed an inexplicable prevalence of chapstick on this list in women's profiles. My list includes no lip care products:

- Company: I am a social creature

- Fascinating and/or convivial conversation

- Gratuitous amounts of affection—given and received

- Mad science

- More bookshelves

- The past (I live for old objects, old ideas, old fashions, et cetera ad infinitum . . . or perhaps ad absurdum).
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Much of my thoughts revolve around my future, how I will find lasting happiness, and how I can practically pursue my interest in Gothic, Art Deco, Beaux-Arts, and Victorian architecture. Sometimes I busy my mind with designing an array of new methods for generating electricity through renewable means, submarines, orreries, and other overcomplicated devices.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
I can often be found out at dinner on Fridays, since most of my social life is conducted thus. I might be lurking at an antiques auction, if anything therein has caught my magpie's eye.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I visited Vermont recently, and Nature and I are now on speaking terms again. But the next time I find a bug in my shoe, I swear I'm calling it quits!
You should message me if
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You should message me if you are looking for a whimsical and sarcastic intellectual: one who is a bottomless font of affection and passion when it is reciprocated. If you like your men overdressed and understated, polite, charming, forthright, honest, anachronistic, and individual.

And where is my dance partner for ballroom classes? If I don't learn the waltz and tango, I may die.

It might be a good idea to message me in the event that a significant proportion of the following traits describes you: you are either an intellectual or a vibrant conversationalist, have an affinity for the antiquated (but a modern and very adventurous sense of the prurient, wink wink!), think mad science is spiffy, think real science is spiffy, are a closet logical positivist, scoff at anything to do with Postmodernism and Deconstructivism (or, if not, want to win me over to your dark and unholy æsthetics through argument), or need a recommendation for a good Victrola repairman!