There's most likely a right way to fill out an on-line dating profile. A dash of light humor, healthy amounts of charm and confidence, maybe a wry and knowing little smile in that profile pic. That profile also wouldn't belong to me: I'm not that cool. It doesn't make you cool, by the way, admitting that you're not cool. It's a wonderful thing to know who you are, but cool is fucking cool, and I'm just not. Picture a big clumsy dog who just found the perfect stick and can't hold his excitement any longer. This world is my stick, damn it, and Freud can kiss my ass.
I have lots of hobbies and enjoy my downtime, too. But I think what matters most is the interpersonal stuff: how we treat others, what we care about and who we make time for.
What I’m doing with my life
Lately, I've had to move from city to city for work. I wasn't always sure where it would lead, but I'm pretty happy to be where I am right now. I'm more happy knowing that I don't have to pack it up and move again any time soon.
I work as a clinical psychologist with individuals who have serious mental illnesses. I usually have to stress when I meet someone new that I am not analyzing or judging them. I just really thought that human behavior was something interesting to study.
I’m really good at
I work with a individuals who are pretty much at their lowest point or whose grasp on reality is fleeting, and I'm really good at making that seem like something that is okay for them in the present moment.
I like to spend my time trying out new stuff in the kitchen or working on projects.
The first things people usually notice about me
Probably the lack of any hair upstairs these days, but also that I often look unhappy. It also takes folks a while to realize that I'm joking with them, even though that's 90percent of what I'm doing in social situations. Truth is best administered in small doses, and usually with a drink.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Food: Learning to cook must be so much easier when you know lots of people whom you can feed. I can make a few dishes, though I really don't know if anyone else would like them. If I could, I would subsist by alternating between Chicken Parm and Tabbouleh. And probably pop-tarts.
Books: I just got back most of my books I had to leave behind when I was moving around. What I have is usually a bit of the bizarre or sublime. Think Vonnegut or Palahniuk, and I reread Calvin and Hobbes often.
Movies: Wes Anderson, Q Tarantino, Coen Brothers, and pretty much anything with Bill Murray.
TV shows that need to be brought back: Dirty Jobs, MST3K.
Music: I love pretty much any live music, but I'd prefer an outdoor festival to a cramped club. Rock music peaked in the late 80s and early 90s. I like the folksy stuff and indie rock that is out now, but sometimes I need some Faith No More or Blind Melon.
The six things I could never do without
A good local pizzeria
Late nights/sleeping in
I spend a lot of time thinking about
The less meaningful or relevant a topic, the more I tend to think
about it. I've given great detail to how I would survive zombie
apocalypses, spend lottery windfalls, or run governments.
On a typical Friday night I am
Right now it's probably Netflix or out taking a walk. I'm always up
for a late night beer or food run, provided it's paired with the a
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
is, by definition, more private that the thing I'm willing to share on the internet.
You should message me if
You should message me because you want to. It's the 21st century, after all, so I don't assume I'll always be the one initiating things.
I mostly look for chemistry when I meet someone new. Yeah, it's hard to define, but I think it requires putting yourself out there for people to see. If their is a sense of connection, I see where it goes.