Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
First things first:
Thanks to OkCupid .. yes, it worked! .. my life is blissfully
filled with love. I am no longer seeking romantic relationships of
I'm married and have a teen-aged daughter. We're polyamorous
, with no plans to
separate or divorce, and anyone becoming more than a casual
playmate will need to interact with my family and lovers.
“It is like a lighted torch whose flame can be distributed to
ever so many other torches which people may bring along; and
therewith they will cook food and dispel darkness, while the
original torch itself remains burning ever the same. It is even so
with the bliss of the Way.”
Now for the personal stuff:
I'm healthy (except for some arthritis in my knees—I won't be
running the marathon this week), intelligent, very widely read, and
eloquent. I have a professional career that brings in a comfortable
salary (and sometimes requires extensive travel). I'm a poet
, a public speaker
, a former
. I'm loving,
affectionate, sensual, and kind.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I'm a practicing Vajrayana Buddhist
. I'm learning the Tantra
and dancing in the
I work as a project management consultant for a Fortune 10
corporation .. but I work at client sites the vast majority of the
time, so the badge I have on is almost always for some other
I spend a lot of my free time journaling
, writing poetry
, and reading. Stuff you can do
in a hotel room.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
listening, understanding, supporting, sharing joy
I'm really good at seeing the world from other perspectives,
compassionately understanding other people's perceptions. That does
not mean I agree or approve, of course....
Have you've seen the old sci-fi television series "Firefly"?
Remember the Companions? Well, some Companions are male. And if
that makes no sense, well .. maybe we should talk about it, perhaps
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My shirt buttons .. and then they look up to see my gray goatee and
wild hair, blue eyes, and happy smile.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Books: I read everything from Austen to Zelazny. "Voracious" is an
understatement. When we remodeled a few years ago we added a
library to the house .. yes, a dedicated room for our books. And
it's overflowing! Time to remodel again? I'm currently reading
Keith Dowman's Sky Dancer; the Secret Life and Songs of the
Lady Yeshe Tsogyel. (Now I need to remember to keep this
Movies: My travel is getting in way this summer .. my family and my
lovers and I want to see many movies together but none of us have
enough time together! I love costume dramas, thrillers,
documentaries, and some rom-coms (yes, really). I dislike horror
and slapstick comedy. I enjoy quite a lot of Asian imports;
Miyazaki Hayao is consistently a delight. Summer blockbuster
mindless action is a guilty pleasure.
Shows: I love musical theatre; we were supporting members of CLOSBC
while it lasted. Wicked is the last stage show I've seen,
tho. (Oop, not true any more! I saw a local production of
Fame on a date the other night. The date was far better
than the production.)
Music: Classic and prog rock, witty hip-hop and country,
electronica .. eclectic is the word here.
Food: Oh myyy .. I love to eat and drink. Rather like the books, I
can't begin to list the types; I love flavorful foods: savory,
spicy .. but I also fully appreciate more subtle pleasures like
sushi. I usually have wine with dinner, and can't afford my
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
, and emptiness
Okay, that was both glib and obscure. Sorry! ^_^
The six hardest things for me to abandon would be
(physical touch of all sorts)
* Good food and drink
* Solitude (ooo, an inconsistency?)
* Intimacy and trust
true sort, not "polyfuckery")
* the Vajrayana
(see the glib bit above)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
what a bodhisattva
would be thinking about.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Unpacking from a business trip, wishing I had something else to do.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I like sex a lot .. but for a Tantric practitioner in his 50s, it
manifests a little differently from the way it does for a guy in
his 20s. Many women find it better .. but not all.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
...you want to have an interesting conversation, get to know a
strange but friendly fellow, and are willing to take the risk you
we might like each other enough to (gasp) speak on the phone and
then even (oh no!) meet in person.
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