My name is Jeff, I spend my time writing a book, working to live, loving my family, and exercising hard! I am a verbose, passionate, empathizing, deep thinker, tall (6'6"), fit (lean 210lbs...P90X Graduate!!! Twice!!! P90X2 again twice!! I feel great! Doing P90X3 now!) human being. I am MARRIED, POLYAMOROUS, and PROUD. I know, how controversial! It is really not. I don't even like the word polyamory, I prefer "committed non-monogamy". I am a father of three future resisters to the corpratocracy. Health is important to me and I care about my spirit. I love yoga and it is part of my weekly workouts.
I seek the truly open minded, passionate, intelligent, feminist, rebellious, and humorous women to share my life and love with.
I don't believe in ownership or possession of people. I believe in sharing love, life, and deep connections. Few seem to share that. The narrow keep the blinders on and the same mistakes get made over and over again. The people in this toxic culture see everything as a commodity - serial monogamy is no different. I understand the mono view extremely well and get that the training is very very deep - patriarchy. I do however, oppose it, challenge it, and argue against it for many reasons (perhaps we can converse about it.).
The two questions I get the most are: why am I on here? And what is polyamory? Both excellent questions. As for why am I here. The simple answer is for connection, not just sex or as you young people call it, “hook ups”. I seek substantive relationships that are nourishing and meaningful. That can mean anything the connection expresses. I am open to sharing love, intimacy, friendship, conversation, commitment, understanding, ideas, and life long caring. Commitment!? People often say, how can you do that. Okay, it's like not I am defying physics, but I am defying this deformed programmed culture. Its called sharing, responsibility, and loving. People only seek possession and ownership. It is toxic and ludicrous. We must stop possessing and dominating and share our love, our lives. This is what nourishment is and sharing is the key! This leads nicely to the the second question, what is polyamory? As I said, I don't like labels and polyamory is definitely one I don't care for. It is about committed non-monogamy - multiple loving relationships. Seeking love from "many sources" makes such sense just as giving love to many nourishes human existence. Those who have been in long term relationships know how it goes and you need to share your life. Why would I discard love when I can share love? We believe in sharing love not possessing it, which many seem to think is the only way to love, at least until they divorce ;-) We have been together 19 years and have learned what keeps love alive, sharing it. I "live thoughtfully, love recklessly." By reckless I mean freely, unreservedly, unconditionally. I am hopeless passionate romantic and in a committed open non-monogamous relationship.
Being open and honest with each other has made our lives so much more real and true. We love each other so deeply and we understand that no one person can be everything that we need to love others and share commitments. I understand that is an absolute turn off for many, the "standard narrative" is strong, but I always encourage the opening of one’s mind and see if there is a connection worth exploring.
A little more about me…A critical philosopher with a heart of a poet, social critic, vegan (a whole food plant based diet), minimalist, rebel, activist, male ally to all women, enemy of the state, and a free thinking resister to this indoctrinated deformed culture (there is no order or identity to detain or constrain my understanding)! FUCK LABELS and WORDS!!! To say the least, I am a contradiction fighting civilization radical feminist style! Radical feminism is my guide and as a Male Ally to women I am learning to listen, be silent, and understand my male privilege. I am renounce patriarchy and ALL violence against women and children. It is an absolute moral wrong. I am a mercurial, complex, compassionate, and deep thinker. I have a serious stoic face I am told until I smile (whatever!). Philosophically, I am a slave to industrial civilization and so are you. I am a militant radical that survives in the conventional world and works subvert the banality, domination, propaganda, and abuse that clouds our hearts and minds and allows to think atrocity is commonplace. I am after the truth, even if it pisses me and every human being I know off (See Upton Sinclair quote below). I see truth in sharing all transparently. TRUTH and NOTHING BUT THE TRUTH!!!! Intense! Right? I love to laugh too…my co-workers who know all about my poly ways call me "The Boss" which is ludicrous, but hilarious. Because I break shit out LIKE A BOSS! or they think I am a womanizer, I AM NOT! Womanizers use, I don't ever use people!
This is a recent article on CNN is talking about polyamory, check it out:
Here are some quotes that illuminate and stir me to reflection:
"It's difficult to get a man to understand something when his salary depends on his not understand it."
- Upton Sinclair
"None are more hopelessly enslaved than those who falsely believe they are free."
"There are two ways to conquer and enslave a nation. One is by the sword. The other by debt."
- John Adams
"Love is an ideal, marriage a real thing; confusion of the real with the ideal never goes unpunished."
"When the past no longer illuminates the future, the spirit walks in darkness."
"To fear love is to fear life, and those who fear life are already three parts dead."
- Bertrand Russell
"We are enriched not by what we possess, but by what we can do without." Immanuel Kant
"He is richest who is content with least, for contentment is the wealth of nature."
"Men are rapists, batterers, plunderers, killers; these same men are religious prophets, poets, heroes, figures of romance, adventure, accomplishment, figures ennobled by tragedy and defeat. Men have claimed the earth, called it 'Her'. Men ruin Her. Men have airplanes, guns, bombs, poisonous gases, weapons so perverse and deadly that they defy any authentically human imagination." -- Andrea Dworkin