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theRealSpartian

43 M La Mesa, CA

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Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
6′ 6″ (1.99m)
Body Type
Athletic
Diet
Strictly vegan
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Other, and very serious about it
Sign
Virgo
Education
Graduated from masters program
Job
Education
Income
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Strictly non-monogamous
Offspring
Has kids
Pets
Has dogs
Speaks
English

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My self-summary
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Welcome...Can you share love? I do...I come from a position of total respect. Everyone matters. My name is Jeff, I spend my time writing a book, working to live, loving my family, and exercising hard! I am a verbose, head full, passionate, empathizing, deep thinker, tall (6'6"), fit (a strong 215lbs...P90X Graduate!!! Twice!!! P90X2 twice!! I feel great! Doing P90X3 now!) human being. I am MARRIED, POLYAMOROUS, and PROUD. I know, how controversial! It is really not. I don't even like the word polyamory, I prefer "committed non-monogamy". I am a father of three future resisters to the corpratocracy. My health and well being is very important to me as is my spirit. I love yoga and it is part of my weekly workouts and I am mindful of everything I do.

I seek the truly open minded, passionate, intelligent, feminist, rebellious, and humorous women to share my life and love with.

I live a life without ownership or possession of people or the living world. I believe in sharing love, life, and deep connections. Few seem to want that without the possessiveness and insecurity that follows. The narrow keep the blinders on and the same mistakes get made over and over again. The people in this toxic culture see everything as a commodity - serial monogamy is no different. I understand the mono view extremely well and get that the training is very very deep - patriarchy. I do however, oppose it, challenge it, and argue against it for many reasons (perhaps we can converse about it.).

The two questions I get the most are: why am I on here? And what is polyamory? Both excellent questions. As for why am I here. The simple answer is for connection, not just sex or as you young people call it, “hook ups”. I seek substantive relationships that are nourishing and meaningful. That can mean anything the connection expresses. I am open to sharing love, intimacy, friendship, conversation, commitment, understanding, ideas, and life long caring. Commitment!? People often say, how can you do that. Okay, it's like not I am defying physics, but I am defying this deformed programmed culture. Its called sharing, responsibility, and loving. People only seek possession and ownership. It is toxic and ludicrous. We must stop possessing and dominating and share our love, our lives. This is what nourishment is and sharing is the key! This leads nicely to the the second question, what is polyamory? As I said, I don't like labels and polyamory is definitely one I don't care for. It is about committed non-monogamy - multiple loving relationships. Seeking love from "many sources" makes such sense just as giving love to many nourishes human existence. Those who have been in long term relationships know how it goes and you need to share your life. Why would I discard love when I can share love? We believe in sharing love not possessing it, which many seem to think is the only way to love, at least until they divorce ;-) We have been together 19 years and have learned what keeps love alive, sharing it. I "live thoughtfully, love recklessly." By reckless I mean freely, unreservedly, unconditionally. I am hopeless passionate romantic and in a committed open non-monogamous relationship.

Being open and honest with each other has made our lives so much more real and true. We love each other so deeply and we understand that no one person can be everything that we need to love others and share commitments. I understand that is an absolute turn off for many, the "standard narrative" is strong, but I always encourage the opening of one’s mind and see if there is a connection worth exploring.

A little more about me…A critical philosopher with a heart of a poet, social critic, vegan (a whole food plant based diet), minimalist, rebel, activist, male ally to all women, enemy of the state, and a free thinking resister to this indoctrinated deformed culture (there is no order or identity to detain or constrain my understanding)! FUCK LABELS and WORDS!!! To say the least, I am a contradiction fighting civilization radical feminist style! Radical feminism is my guide and as a Male Ally to women I am learning to listen, be silent, and understand my male privilege. I am renounce patriarchy and ALL violence against women and children. It is an absolute moral wrong. I am a mercurial, complex, compassionate, and deep thinker. I have a serious stoic face I am told until I smile (whatever!).

Philosophically, I am a slave to industrial civilization and so are you. I am a militant radical that survives in the conventional world and works subvert the banality, domination, propaganda, and abuse that clouds our hearts and minds and allows to think atrocity is commonplace. I am after the truth, even if it pisses me and every human being I know off (See Upton Sinclair quote below). I see truth in sharing all transparently. TRUTH and NOTHING BUT THE TRUTH!!!! Intense! Right? I love to laugh too…my co-workers who know all about my poly ways call me "The Boss" which is ludicrous, but hilarious. Because I break shit out LIKE A BOSS! or they think I am a womanizer, I AM NOT! Womanizers use, I do not use people!

Here are some quotes that illuminate and stir me to reflection and working for a moral existence:

"It's difficult to get a man to understand something when his salary depends on his not understand it."
- Upton Sinclair

"None are more hopelessly enslaved than those who falsely believe they are free."
- Goethe

"There are two ways to conquer and enslave a nation. One is by the sword. The other by debt."
- John Adams

"Love is an ideal, marriage a real thing; confusion of the real with the ideal never goes unpunished."
- Goethe

"When the past no longer illuminates the future, the spirit walks in darkness."
- Tocqueville

"To fear love is to fear life, and those who fear life are already three parts dead."
- Bertrand Russell

"We are enriched not by what we possess, but by what we can do without." Immanuel Kant

"He is richest who is content with least, for contentment is the wealth of nature."
- Socrates

"Men are rapists, batterers, plunderers, killers; these same men are religious prophets, poets, heroes, figures of romance, adventure, accomplishment, figures ennobled by tragedy and defeat. Men have claimed the earth, called it 'Her'. Men ruin Her. Men have airplanes, guns, bombs, poisonous gases, weapons so perverse and deadly that they defy any authentically human imagination." -- Andrea Dworkin
What I’m doing with my life
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Writing and talking. Devoted to humanity and its elevation to wisdom. Working to dismantle civilization, exploitation, possession, and power anyway I can.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Thinking deeply, learning, loving, being a "master of caring", laughing, joking, being honest, open thoughtful, kind, being rejected, making an argument, writing, reading people, challenging assumptions, verbally expressing myself, and enduring the trauma of industrial civilization with a smile.
The first things people usually notice about me
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My height, I am 6'6"
My smile
My manly curly hair
My red beard
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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The most important books:
Forbidden Dimensions: Primitivism, Prehistory, and the Posthuman Era
Against Civilization
Sex at Dawn
End Game vol 1 & 2
Deep Green Resistance
Unlearn, Rewild
The Necessity of Madness
A Brief History of Thought
All Things Shinning
Twilight of American Culture
Psychology's Ghost
Loneliness as a Way of Life
The Sane Society
The Art of Being
The Myth of Mental Illness
The Medicalization of Everyday Life
The Brave New World

I love documentaries. Here is a great website to watch important documentaries free:
http://www.filmsforaction.org/walloffilms/
Watch:
End:Civ
War on Kids
Subconscious Wars
End of the Road
Forks Over Knives
The Corporation
Ethos
End of Suburbia
Slavery: The 21 Century Evil
Gas Hole
The Story of Our Enslavement
Age of Stupid
The Crisis of Civilization
The Fuck-It Point
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Connection
Love
Water
Air
Passion
Challenge
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
The meaning of life, the coming collapse, fighting back, creating a culture of resistance against patriarchy and civilization, the human condition, alienation, understanding, connection, compassion, forgiveness, clarity, wisdom, and freedom.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Relaxing and spending time with those I love and enjoy.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I secretly love all babies and puppies.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 26–55
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
If you're a romantic seeking a deep abiding connection and do not wish to merely possess, but open to seeing something more than what we are trained to see. You love sharing your life, your interests, and your mind. At the very least have some excellent conversation. Read some books, poetry, write a book together or paint a picture with our connection. Let's go for walks, hike, or run some stairs! Bring it! Can you share love? I hope so ;-)