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theRealSpartian

41 / M / Straight / Married

La Mesa, California

His Details

Last Online
May 23
Ethnicity
White
Height
6′ 6″ (1.99m).
Body Type
Athletic
Diet
Strictly vegan
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Other and very serious about it
Sign
Virgo
Education
Graduated from masters program
Job
Education / Academia
Income
Offspring
Has kids
Pets
Has dogs
Speaks
English

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My self-summary
Greetings! My dharma in this existence is to seek out the TRULY OPEN MINDED, PASSIONATE, INTELLIGENT, FEMINIST, REBELLIOUS, and HUMOROUS! Come lets us share dialogue and understanding and transcend the ego-centered training that is this asocial culture. I am after the truth even if it pisses me and every human being I know off (See Upton Sinclair quote). TRUTH and NOTHING BUT THE TRUTH!!!!

I see truth in sharing all transparently. I am a MARRIED, POLYAMOROUS, and PROUD. A father of 3 future resisters to the corpratocracy. If you don't want to share love, seek possession, and domination you should come and challenge me and show me there is value in this culture. I see none. I understand the mono view and get it. I CHALLENGE it and argue against it. If you wish to follow the standard narrative as the herd, peace be with you. YET, if your mind and body have an interest in exploring, understanding, and enjoying me, then please read on.

My name is Jeff, a verbose, passionate (often mistaken for aggression), tall (6'6"), fit (lean 210lbs...P90X Graduate!!! Twice!!! Doing P90X2!! Its so hard!!!!). I am a philosopher, writer with a heart of a poet, social critic, vegan, minimalist, rebel, activist [DGR!!!], and a free thinking resister to this brainwashed deformed culture (there is no order or identity to detain or constrain my understanding)! To say the least, I am unconventional in the terms of this alleged free culture. Ready to fight feminist style! Feminism is my guide to loving kindness and a world free of domination and abuse for all creatures.

I explore understanding from all angles and there are two must read books the are salient, "Sex at Dawn: The Prehistoric Origins of Modern Sexuality" Excellent and Illuminating!!! And "Deep Green Resistance" teaching us a culture of resistance!!!!

Free it!!!!!!!!! Free it!!!!!!!!! Good God Free it!!!!!!!!!

I "LOVE RECKLESSLY, LIVE THOUGHTFULLY." A hopeless passionate romantic and in an open poly marriage and loving being open and honest. I love my wife and she loves me, but we understand the no one person can be everything. Seeking love from "many sources" makes such sense just as giving love to many. We believe in sharing love not possessing it, as many seem to think is the only way to love, at least until they divorce ;-) We have been together 18 years and have learned what keeps love alive, sharing it. We have three children to guide us as much as we guide them.

Many ask me what polyamory means, an interpretation I find is clear is "multiple loving relationships." I understand that is an absolute turn off for many, the "standard narrative" is strong, but I always encourage the opening of ones mind. If you have not run away please continue reading or just skip it and have a some water.

A little more about me (really there is more. yes there is more). I had the opportunity to come to San Diego fours years ago from Portland Oregon to attend a masters program in philosophy. What an excellent experience. I wrote so much and read so many great works! I graduated in 2010 and now I am working in mental health again with emotionally disturbed youth (I am a subversive teaching kids to think for themselves while others teach them to conform: thinkers v followers). The weather here changes a man! For the better...

My personality is the definition of easygoing, good spirited, fun loving, and love to laugh. I am a mercurial, complex, compassionate, and deep thinker. I have a serious stoic face I am told until I smile (whatever!). Philosophically, I am an militant radical that hides in the conventional world subverting the banality, domination, propaganda, and abuse that clouds our hearts and minds and allows to think atrocity is commonplace. I love to talk, share, and connect. I am anti-usery and pro-compassion. I live for dialogue!!

Some quotes that illuminate and stir me to reflection:

"It's difficult to get a man to understand something when his salary depends on his not understand it."
- Upton Sinclair

"None are more hopelessly enslaved than those who falsely believe they are free."
- Goethe 

"There are two ways to conquer and enslave a nation. One is by the sword. The other by debt."
- John Adams

"Love is an ideal, marriage a real thing; confusion of the real with the ideal never goes unpunished."
- Goethe

"When the past no longer illuminates the future, the spirit walks in darkness."
- Tocqueville

"We are enriched not by what we possess, but by what we can do without." - Immanuel Kant

"He is richest who is content with least, for contentment is the wealth of nature."
- Socrates
What I’m doing with my life
Devoted to humanity and its elevation to wisdom. Working to dismantle exploitation, possession, and power anyway I can.
I’m really good at
Self-expression, thinking deeply, learning, loving, and laughing.
The first things people usually notice about me
My height I am 6'6"
My smile
My manly curly hair
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Sex at Dawn
A Brief History of Thought
All Things Shinning
Twilight of American Culture
Psychology's Ghost
The six things I could never do without
Love
Water
Air
Passion
Challenge
Connection
I spend a lot of time thinking about
The meaning of life, the coming collapse, the human condition, understanding, compassion, forgiveness, clarity, wisdom, and freedom.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Yeah, I think I already did that!
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 26–55
  • Near me
  • For new friends, activity partners, long-distance penpals
You should message me if
If you're a romantic seeking a deep abiding connection and do not wish to merely possess love but open to seeing something more than what we are trained to see. You love poerty and spending time sharing your life. At the very least have some excellent conversation.