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49 M Daly City, CA

I’m looking for

  • All who like bi men
  • Ages 35–65
  • Near me
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My Details

Last Online
Today – 8:55pm
Asian, White
5′ 8″ (1.73m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Leo, but it doesn’t matter
Dropped out of university
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Strictly non-monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Likes dogs and has cats
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
As of 09/01/14:
My "dance card" is once again full; while I'm interested in new friends and whatnot, I've not got much time to devote to anyone new, one-on-one. I'm also going to be hanging a solo show of my 2d ink work in late October - much of my time is going to be dedicated to that. I'll still answer emails sent to me here, but I won't otherwise be on the site much.
I'm a fat, medium-tall, queer identified married man. I'm an artist, a geek and a motorcyclist.

Let me say that again:

I'm fat - no, really.
I'm married (we are not monogamous - my being here is in no way "cheating").
If either of the above is a deal breaker for you, you probably ought not read any further.
Here are a few other potential deal-breakers:
I'm a leftist; an atheist and a skeptic; a gun owner; a gearhead; a gamer; a feminist; a diabetic...

I mention all this because I really don't want either of us waste our time here - if any of that stuff, or my being overtly masculine - is a deal-breaker, then click that "hide" button.

I identify as a queer pansexual (pan rather than bi, as gender is *not* a binary condition), ethically non-monogamous, mildly kinky, and sex-positive.
I'm an oddball; my views on politics, culture, sex and other things are often decidedly different than those of most people I meet.

I am often amusing; if our mutual senses of humor line up, it's likely that I'll keep you laughing.

I work in tech. I am also a professional artist.

I am a traveler when time & money allow for it.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I'm doing Stuff. And Things. I work, I socialize, I make art. I try to have as much fun as I can - and after a lot of years of practice, I've actually gotten rather good at it.

In more concrete terms:
I'm a sysadmin; I typically spend a lot of time working.
I spend a fair amount of time either behind a camera lens or sitting and drawing weird things with ink on paper.
I spend a goodly amount of the time left over from the above with my lovely wife and my other sweeties, socializing with other people and indulging in my other hobbies. I sleep less than I really ought.
I've become freakishly adept at scheduling.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Having fun.
Making art.
Being silly.
Riding motorcycles.
Acquiring trivia.
Relationships (I think so anyway).
Befriending cats, dogs, horses, mules, ferrets and rats.
Computer support.
Cooking things, often with lots of garlic and chilies.
Open and clear communication.
Ranting and snarking, as necessary.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My hair, which is very long, very thick, very curly and streaked with grey.
My eyes: they are hazel - brown most of the time, changing to green.
I've also been told on occasion that I have an imposing physical presence.

I am, however, always looikng for more feedback about this; if you've met me, or do meet me, please do let me know what you first noticed.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
(Books) I like to read, yes I do. Mostly, I read F&SF, biographies, travelogues, and social commentary. Also memoirs. And comics, mostly in the form of graphic novels. Recently I've been on a travelogue kick.

(Movies) I don't see as many movies as I'd like these days. Given the amount of socializing and projects I'm immersed in, this is one of the things that had to go. My current all-time favorite movie (this changes with mood and season) is Hopscotch.

(Music) I have far too many "favorites" to list. A small sampling would be Stan Ridgway, Warren Zevon, The Clash, The Mermen, Jethro Tull, Devo...

(Food) - Yes please. Bonus points for strong flavors and spiciness. I'll cook, if you like.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
I really dislike this section. Instead of things I could never do without, here's a list of "things 'the_ogre' will likely have with him at any given time":
Drawing pens and paper
An iPhone
Emergency asthma inhaler
A way to carry the above items
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
All kinds of things - I spend a lot of time in my head. I think about my art projects a lot. I also spend a lot of brain cycles thinking about sex, about my relationships, wondering when the economy will take an upswing and curious nature of gender & race politics. And lots of other stuff.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
the same person that I am every other evening. I am usually Doing Stuff, either at home or elsewhere. Occasionally I am sleeping early, due to needing to get up at an unholy hour the next morning (this does not happen often).
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'm generally unlikely to initiate contact; I look at potential matches profiles and questions pretty thoroughly, and I tend to err on the side of caution. That being said, I do initiate sometimes.

I feel like I need to add a few caveats here (I have in the past, overreached these boundaries, and it never went well):

* If I am out of your age range, I will not contact you and I will hide your profile. If you contact me I will likely be somewhat suspicious.
* I will never contact you if you are only looking for single persons (even if you otherwise list yourself as non-monogamous) and I will hide your profile. If you are looking for single persons and you contact me, I will be not just suspicious, but wary.
* If you are strongly religious, regardless of what kind of religion, I will not contact you - you don't need my derision about your life choices.
* Lastly, if you haven't any photos, don't bother - I will hide your profile. If you have a privacy concern regarding photos, then you ought not be online, especially not on a dating site.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
Well, I've no clue how to motivate you to click that "message" button, if you aren't already inclined to do so after reading my profile.

So, if you think of a reason that suits you, please do send me a note. I will answer it.