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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 35–50
  • Near me
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My details

Last online
May 4
6' 0" (1.83m)
Body Type
Atheism but it’s not important
Post grad
Doesn’t want kids
Has dogs
English (Fluently), German (Fluently), Dutch (Somewhat), C++ (Somewhat), Spanish (Somewhat)
My self-summary
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Apparently I come off a bit intense -- but if that doesn't scare you, read on. (INTJ on the Meyers-Briggs, which I hope you trust more than an astrological sign.) And seriously, if you're not above 80% compatibility on the survey questions, I'm probably not worth your time. Those are an amazing gauge of what might work.

I'm a lifelong, impulsive world traveler and like to drag unwitting souls along with me. I've lived in a couple of boring European countries and dream of ditching it all to do language preservation work in Central America. Somehow I ended up in Minnesota after living in the San Francisco Bay Area for a while - not sure how that happened or whether I'm fully on board with it.

I'm married to a shy, meditative homebody who is happy for me to have outgoing female friends. And no, not poly or "ethically nonmonogamous" or whatever the hip kids call it these days. I don't want to have sex with you. Really. But I will happily help you find the next great grungy taqueria - if such a thing even exists in Minnesota, see your band (or someone else's), day drink, go running - I'm not picky.
What I’m doing with my life
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I've taken the realization that I've hit 40 to heart and decided to kick the living up a notch. I travel a lot for work (as well as fun) but I do really relish having some genuine connections to keep me rooted, and to create a set of people that make "home" worth coming back to. I'm all about finding ways to make the most of quality time.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
dramatic life change (yours or mine)

considerate and clever gifts (material ones)

fixing your computer/tablet/dumbphone/smartphone/router
The first things people usually notice about me
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messy hair and/or deep, radio-ready voice. (A long time ago I was a radio DJ and amateur actor.) I'm told I have a nice ass, but I find that hard to judge.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Food: anything, and I really mean it. I went to Vietnam just for the food, and I have eaten some truly gnarly things, even nasty Icelandic stuff. My preferences are carb-heavy cuisines like Italian or (yum) German. That said, I live with a vegetarian and do just fine.

Music: I listen to a lot of electronic/IDM like Boards of Canada, Tycho, Aphex Twin. In a previous phase of existence, I was in a noise-rock/stoner metal band, and I truly love stoner metal (Pelican, Kyuss, Sleep) and stuff like The Sword or Black Sabbath. I can keep it to the car or headphones, though.

Books: I was a German Lit major as an undergrad and will go toe-to-toe with any English or Classics major. I read constantly, but authors at the tippy-top include: David Foster Wallace, Donna Tartt, George Saunders, and Gary Shteyngart.

Movies: mostly documentaries. Cheesy action flicks are fine, too.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Running shoes
Reading material
My dog (a pint-sized, rescued, girlie pit bull)
...and another reliable human to take care of said pup when I'm gone
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
My next meal, and my Burning Man to-do list. (Getting my burner cherry popped this year.)
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
wiped out, but ready to rally.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I can't grow a socially acceptable beard and it makes me feel unmanly. I've tried, and it looks horrible.
You should message me if
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You loathe autocorrect.

You would like to hit Zooey Deschanel with a shovel.

You're serious about meeting in person for a Manhattan, beer, etc. and just looking for people to hang with. Or go to Iceland with.