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theactionitem

42 M Oakland, CA

I’m looking for

  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 35–45
  • Near me
  • For new friends

My Details

Last Online
Mar 15, 2013
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body Type
Average
Diet
Anything
Smokes
When drinking
Drinks
Very often
Drugs
Sometimes
Religion
Atheism
Sign
Scorpio, but it doesn’t matter
Education
Graduated from Ph.D program
Job
Management
Income
Relationship Status
Married
Relationship Type
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Pets
Has dogs
Speaks
English (Fluently), German (Fluently), Dutch (Okay), C++ (Poorly), Spanish (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Apparently I come off a bit intense -- but if that doesn't scare you, read on. (INTJ, if it matters.) And seriously, if you're not above 80% compatibility on the survey questions, I'm probably not worth your time. Those are an amazing gauge of what might work.

I have somehow developed a talent for creating massive amounts of life change in a big hurry, and am now all about getting out of ruts. I'm a lifelong, impulsive world traveler and like to drag unwitting souls along with me. I've lived in a couple of boring European countries and dream of ditching it all to do language preservation work in Central America.

I'm married to a shy, meditative homebody who is happy for me to have outgoing female friends. And no, not poly or "ethically nonmonogamous" or whatever the hip kids call it these days. I don't want to have sex with you. Really. But I will happily be your companion in finding the next greatest grungy taqueria, see your band (or someone else's), day drink, or go running.

For what it's worth, I ended up going to Iceland (platonically) for 10 days with the last OK Cupid person I hit it off with. (Planned after having met in person three times, and yes, OK with the wife.) There are likely more of you out there.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I've taken the realization that I've hit 40 to heart and decided to kick the living up a notch. I travel a lot for work (as well as fun) but I do really relish having some genuine connections to keep me rooted, and to create a set of people that make "home" worth coming back to. I'm all about finding ways to make the most of quality time.

In practice: weekend activities may include day drinking, running, or both.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
dramatic life change (yours or mine)

fixing your computer/tablet/dumbphone/smartphone/router

considerate and clever gifts (material ones)
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
messy hair and/or deep, radio-ready voice. (A long time ago I was a radio DJ and amateur actor.) I'm told I have a nice ass, but I find that hard to judge.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Food: anything, and I really mean it. I went to Vietnam just for the food, and I have eaten some truly gnarly things, even nasty Icelandic stuff. My preferences are carb-heavy cuisines like Italian or (yum) German. That said, I live with a vegetarian and do just fine.

Music: I listen to a lot of electronic/IDM like Boards of Canada, Tycho, Aphex Twin. In a previous phase of existence, I was in a noise-rock/stoner metal band, and I truly love stoner metal (Pelican, Kyuss, Sleep) and stuff like The Sword or Black Sabbath. I can keep it to the car or headphones, though.

Books: I was a German Lit major as an undergrad and will go toe-to-toe with any English or Classics major. I still read stuff like that, lately lots of modern Russian authors.

Movies: mostly documentaries. Cheesy action flicks are fine, too.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Bourbon
Passport
Running shoes
Reading material (dead trees preferred since they're not subject to being turned off during taxi and takeoff)
My dog (a pint-sized, rescued, girlie pit bull)
...and another reliable human to take care of said pup when I'm gone
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
My next meal, and my Burning Man to-do list. (Getting my burner cherry popped this year.)
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
wiped out, but ready to rally.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I can't grow a socially acceptable beard and it makes me feel unmanly. I've tried, and it looks horrible.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You loathe autocorrect.

You would like to hit Zooey Deschanel with a shovel.

You're serious about meeting in person for a Manhattan, beer, etc. and just looking for people to hang with. Or go to Iceland with.