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thebonj

43 Woodridge, IL Man

Man

I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 27–47
  • Near me
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My Details

Last Online
Today – 8:23am
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
6′ 2″ (1.88m)
Body Type
Average
Diet
Strictly anything
Smokes
Yes
Drinks
Often
Drugs
Never
Religion
Sign
Education
Dropped out of university
Job
Construction
Income
$80,000–$100,000
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Has a kid, but doesn’t want more
Pets
Speaks
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I'm like Baskin Robins, but I'm all out of vanilla. I'm available in one scoop or two; on a sugar cone, waffle cone, but never a cup. I'm always sweet but too much of me at once could result in a headache. Best idea to avoid the headache... no teeth.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Living life to the fullest every single moment of every single day. I do that by; spending as much time as possible with my little girl, working really hard, and playing just as hard. Occasionally I sleep, but only when none of those other three are options.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
What a lovely question. Really wants one to jump out with full ego engaged. But I'm happy to share.
Being a father.
My job.
Making strangers laugh.
Making friends laugh.
Making strange friends.
Making my friends strange.
Strange answers to friendly questions.

I'm creative, intelligent, and witty. I'm modest and sincere.

And since I'm being so modest, I will say that I do take pride and enjoyment in being a really good and giving lover. Everybody has to leave happy from my boudoir, or I just keep trying. I take as much satisfaction from giving as receiving, and to clarify, I really and truly like receiving.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
It's difficult to say if its my dazzling wit, sparkling personality, or the way I tend to fill a room with both. My physical presence is as impressive as my gregarious nature. Nothing about me is small. Well nothing I'm sharing on this site.
Oh, and people try to tell me its my deep blue eyes, but they are just trying to pick one thing to focus on.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My daughter. Everything else is gravy. But I really like gravy, so here's five more I'd rather not live without. I'm leaving out basics of food, shelter, etc. Those are assumed.
A good drink with a good woman who understands the good time that neither of else would feel good without. That would usually include a good meal and a good and sleepless night.
Got it? 5 things there, all good. Drink, woman, time, meal, sleepless nights.
If you have questions, please move on to the profile of some sensitive ponytail guy. I'm respectful, caring, decent, but know what I want and with whom. Capisce?
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
There are three basic topics that occupy my time outside of work hours. I do take my work seriously. All three topics can be summed up as relating to getting the most out of life, but there are shades of how I choose to do that.
I think about the nature of being. Being the best father I can be. The best friend I can be. But really, I want to be the best version of me possible, which feeds the rest. That means that there is a philosophical side to this loud boisterous hunk of man that I am. I don't sit around and brood, but I'm happy to discuss it. We've all had our paths, and mine has helped me become a person I'm proud to be and to share.
Number two on the list is thinking about how to keep the good times rolling. Time is short, but I don't like to rush. Achieving the balance of always showing up at the right party, being the life of said party, but knowing when to leave and whom to leave with. That takes a lot of centering and patience to achieve. Then I just have to let go and tear it up. I'm rather adept at tearing it up.
Lastly, I do spend a lot of time thinking about sex. Not about how to get it. I know how to do that. But how I want to make sure that whomever I'm sharing my time and bed with (or couch, or kitchen counter...), that they are having as much fun and satisfaction as I am. Woody Allen once said it best when he said, "Sex between two people can be a beautiful thing, as long as you're between the right two people."
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Every other Friday I'm with my daughter. When I am with my daughter I am with no one else who is not my family. That time is defended like a lion. Know that. Respect that.
Every other Friday night is another story. There are always good meals and good drinks with good people. Those could be my friends or my lovers. Reservations are required. Message me for more information. Ask about our chef's tasting menu.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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This question is wasted on me. I am not one for secrets. If you are one for secrets, don't tell me. I'm likely to have them put up in sky writing over Lake Michigan. Well, that's an exaggeration. Here's a private thing I'm willing to admit. I am friendly with everybody, but I'm very selective as to who gets to truly be my friend. If someone gets that honor, they're secrets are safer with me than anywhere. For all my bluster, I actually pride myself on my loyalty.
You should message me if
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...you actually understand my profile and why I list long-term dating, short-term dating, and casual sex. Dating is dating. If you want a husband, you should absolutely not message me EVER. I have been a husband. I was very good at it. Now, I am done with that. Now I am very good at dating and enjoying casual sex. Strings are for tying, that's it. I have caring and compassion, and we can share good times for a long-term, but never expect it to "go to the next level."
If that level sounds good, why haven't you written to me yet? References available upon request. Equal opportunity expected.