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thecolumnist

32 Vancouver, British Columbia, CA Woman

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I’m looking for

  • Everyone
  • Ages 24–40
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Yesterday – 8:56pm
Orientation
Pansexual, Sapiosexual
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 6″ (1.68m)
Body Type
Fit
Diet
Mostly vegetarian
Smokes
No
Drinks
Rarely
Drugs
Never
Religion
Judaism, but not too serious about it
Sign
Gemini, but it doesn’t matter
Education
Graduated from masters program
Job
Education
Income
Rather not say
Status
Seeing Someone
Type
Strictly non-monogamous
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), German (Okay), Japanese (Okay), Spanish (Poorly), Chinese (Poorly)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I'm from Toronto, Canada, supposedly the most multicultural city in the world. I'm a pretty well-rounded person and I'm interested in many things. Most of my favourite things in life are verbs: cycling, writing, reading, dancing, singing. I like sports too- I've played quite a bit of ultimate frisbee. I have a Master of Environmental Studies. I studied the German anti-nuclear movement and why people become involved in protest. I'm ENFJ if you're into Myers-Briggs.

I'm polyamorous and that's fairly important to who I am. That means I enjoy having more than 1 relationship and I am not bothered about my partner(s) having more than 1 relationship. Right now I have 1 partner and we are engaged. I love food and I'm vegetarian. I enjoy surrounding myself with people who care about the world. I love travelling as well - I've lived in England, Japan, China, briefly in Germany, and have been to 25 countries. I just moved to Vancouver and will take classes at UBC in the fall to prepare for a PhD in either gender studies or social work. In the meantime, I'll probably be an ESL tutor.

Adjectives that describe me: ambitious, engaging, occasionally intense. I think people get intimidated by me because I have a strong personality. I'm also generally a direct communicator. However, I'm also very loyal and I think I'm good at developing relationships. As a note, the OkCupid personality tab says I'm less nerdy, but I really like school and I consider myself a nerd when it comes to love and relationships. I've studied those things a lot for many years.
What I’m doing with my life
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I write poetry. I write a blog where I give relationship advice and I also write about polyamory on there (askmiriam.ca if you want to check it out). I'm planning to hopefully start a PhD in 2016 in either gender studies or social work. I also think about working with couples and helping to improve people's relationships. I think there could always be more poly, and poly friendly, therapists. For the PhD, I'm aiming to do research on polyamory. I want to become like the Kinsey of polyamory - we need some kind of large study showing what poly is actually like, not what people think it is.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I'm a good conversationalist- I love talking and listening. I'm good at languages- I speak German and Japanese at an intermediate level, as I lived in both countries for a period and studied while I was there and at home. I learn pretty quickly. I'm very well organized. I'm a good dancer and writer. Expression is pretty important to me as you can tell.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I get told I'm intense quite often. I'm really laidback, but I don't really do small talk, so I guess people don't really expect me to just start talking about heavy subjects like politics or sexuality. I've been told I have a kind face and I always look like I'm listening. I'm a big flirt.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books- The Time Traveller's Wife, The Unbearable Lightness of Being, Beach Music (horrible title I know, but awesome book). I love reading and I always read before I go to bed. These are just some of my favourites. Recently I read the Windup Bird Chronicle by Haruki Murakami, which I enjoyed. Currently, I'm re-reading White Teeth by Zadie Smith, a great book.
Movies- When Harry Met Sally, American Beauty, Vicky Cristina Barcelona, Before Sunrise, Amelie, Inception, Memento, etc etc
Shows- Right now I'm watching The Good Wife. Past favourites: Seinfeld, Fraser, The Simpsons, How I Met Your Mother, Sex and the City, and Grey's Anatomy.
Music- I love Canadian music like Hey Ocean, Stars, Sarah Slean, Jesse Cook, Our Lady Peace. I tend to like older music. I love dancing to hip hop and cheesy 90s music. I also like jazz and folk music. My tastes are pretty eclectic.
Food- Thai, especially green curry, pretty much anything Japanese, Indian, Chinese. I'll try pretty much anything once, unless it has meat in it. I also love cooking and baking.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Chocolate, cinnamon, bananas, intimacy of various kinds, my notebook, and my bike. 7th and 8th things would be a bowl and a spoon, which is what I tend to eat with.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
what exactly my purpose in life is, my next trip, how to write better, love, and relationships
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
spending time with friends or lovers or dancing or both. I like chilling out and going out. I always love a good potluck.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I'm a pretty open person, so you can ask me anything
You should message me if
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You're up for adventures and you're open and easygoing. In my dating history, I've mainly been with introverted, scientific people. Now I'm looking for someone who's a bit more like me: extroverted, artistic. I would especially like to date people on the female end of the spectrum (and I'm quite happy meeting trans people - I very much respect your way of being). I love direct people and I have little time for passive/aggressiveness. You need to be okay with poly and bonus if you have experience doing it. I've only been doing it since August 2012 and I love learning more about it. Please don't send me a message that says 'hot and beautiful' and please say hi columnist, otherwise I won't reply. I'm a confident person. Tell me why you messaged me of all the people you could have messaged.