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62 / M / straight / Single

Jamaica Plain, Massachusetts

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5' 7" (1.70m).
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New friends, Long-term dating
Smokes
No
Drinks
Sometimes
Drugs
Never
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Sign
Virgo but it doesn’t matter
Education
Graduated from masters program
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Education / Academia
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Has children
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Languages
English

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I am creative, intelligent, and determined.

My Self-Summary

I am fully myself when I'm engaged in a creative activity. I'm intense, shy, smart in some ways, persistent, ocassional perfectionist, and ardent lover. A multiple intellligences visual-spatial and intrapersonal type. I really like women and have no interest in gender power games. I have been thoroughly domesticated by two wonderful women (not at the same time!).

I have been trained as an anthropologist, but work as an arts administrator, currently as an independent consultant and director of The Creative Minds Project (a non-profit org). I am an avid photographer and can spend hours in the flow at the computer working with digital images. I write poetry and have completed over 200 oral history interviews with granite workeers and miners.

What I’m doing with my life

I am currently developing a non-profit organization, The Creative Minds Project, which will engage in projects that further the integration of the arts into education. I'm also studying Spanish and taking Tango lessons. Plan on going to Argentina within 2 years to practice both!

I’m really good at

1. Writing
2. Photography
3. Sensuality
4. Cooking Especially stews and plum pudding
5. Gardening when I have a plot
6. Film editing
7. Ironing-- a very satisfying activity

The first things people usually notice about me

I haven't the slightest idea. Depends on the person. Maybe they see my scuffed shoes or graying hair, maybe they see my gentle eyes or look clear into my teeming, seething brain cells.

My favorite books, movies, music, and food

Books-- Anything by Gregory Bateson and other anthropologists, Erving Goffman, Howard Gardner, Ruth Rendell, David Hume and Nietzsche. Dracula, The Shining.

Movies- Picnic at Hanging Rock, Like Water for Chocolate, Manhattan, Fanny and Alexander, 2001, District 9, documentary films

Music- Almost anything depending on place and mood. Jazz, classical, traditional, singer-songwriter, Beatles, Dylan, and many more.

Food- Salmon, avacados, mangos, strawberries, blueberries, sorbet, scallops, tuna, peanut butter, almonds, pine nuts-- actually pretty promiscuous when it comes to food but I draw the line at insects.

The six things I could never do without

1. My children
2. My computer
3. My library
4. My camera
5. My car
6. My iPhone

I spend a lot of time thinking about

1. The environment
2. Politics
3. Writing
4. The arts
5. The interface between the arts and science
6. Brain neurology and the concept of "I"

On a typical Friday night I am

1. Breathing
2. Writing
3. Doing digital photos
4. Dining out
5. Making love
6. On a spaceship to Mars

The most private thing I’m willing to admit here

That I really believe that privacy has been dramatically eroded in our society and that we are becoming a world of Borgs who cannot disconnect from the grid for a microsecond.

You should message me if

1. You are tired of supermen who can leap tall buildings in a single bound and watch sports non-stop for a week.
2. You are really turned on by intellectual discussions and the arts.
3. You know who the Kwakiutl are.
4. You own or have owned a Siberian Husky or other magical dog.
5. You love to garden but may not have the space to do so.
6. You think making love is an essential part of life that connects you with a larger universe, or multiverse. or blank verse.
7. You believe that exercise is a means, not an end.
8. You love the work of Joseph Cornell.
9. You carry on an active creative life.
10. You have swum with dolphins or against the tide.
11. You love the theater either as an actor or audience member.
12. You would love to go on an archaeological dig in the Mediterranean.
13. You liked Star Trek the Next Generation better than Captain Kirk's world.
14. You think that age is (mostly) a state of mind.
15. You love to work on the fringe of disciplines.