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29 M Nashville, TN

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5′ 8″ (1.73m)
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Mostly anything
Graduated from masters program
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Likes cats
English (Fluently), French (Fluently)

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My self-summary
A FRIEND, BACK IN MONTREAL: Are you seeing anyone?
ME: No.
FRIEND: You should be. Why not?
ME: I don't know where to meet nerdy girls now that I'm not going to school.
FRIEND: It has to be nerdy girls?
ME: That's my constituency.
FRIEND: You should try the Internet.
ME: I don't know if that's a good idea.
FRIEND: You don't think there are nerds on the Internet?

That was a few years ago. I joined up, went on good dates and interesting bad dates, romanced some lovely nerds, made a couple of dear friends, and became the type of person who will sometimes, in public, point at a stranger and whisper to the person he's hanging out with: "That girl is on Internet dating!"

I've just moved to Nashville, to do a Ph.D. I am going to school again, only it turns out that now I'm an old man, and outside of my classes, everyone is a dewy millennial. I like my classmates a lot, but otherwise I don't really know anyone here.

Nashvillians, I would like to know some of you.
What I’m doing with my life
Reading and writing, taking classes, futzing around the city in an exploratory way, staying up, sleeping in, bicycling cautiously and wishing for better public transit.
The first things people usually notice about me
At a distance: the sheer quantity of dork on these two legs.

Up close: this beard's beardly majesty, the brownness of these eyes.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food

Madame Bovary, Middlemarch, Kafka's stories, all of Joyce, The Big Sleep, At Swim-Two-Birds, Lolita and Pnin, Hope Against Hope, The Ponder Heart, Lucky Jim, The Earl of Louisiana, Mumbo Jumbo, The White Album, Edwin Mullhouse, Lucinella, From the Fifteenth District, Small World, The Counterlife, Lydia Davis's stories, Every Force Evolves a Form, On With the Story, Never Let Me Go, the Patrick Melrose novels, The Line of Beauty, Fun Home, Home Land, George Sprott, Young Lions, Pulphead, How Should a Person Be?, The Atlas of Remote Islands. Poetry books by WB Yeats, Wallace Stevens, James Merrill, Philip Larkin, Elizabeth Bishop, John Ashbery, Ken Koch. Anthologies of poems. Gossipy books about pop music and electoral politics. David Thomson's Biographical Dictionary of Film for the bathroom.


The Marx Brothers in their glory, Bringing Up Baby and The Philadelphia Story, His Girl Friday, all of Preston Sturges, The Third Man, The Night of the Hunter, Scrooge, Nights of Cabiria, most of Truffaut, A Hard Day's Night, Portrait of Jason, Woody Allen up to Mighty Aphrodite (inclusive: it's a good one), Stop Making Sense, Sherman's March, Flirting, Heavenly Creatures, The Big Lebowski and A Serious Man, Rushmore and Moonrise Kingdom, Wonder Boys, Grizzly Man, Superbad, Sugar, Mutual Appreciation, Museum Hours.


The Simpsons in its salad days, Newsradio, Fry and Laurie as Jeeves and Wooster, Twitch City, Freaks and Geeks, Undeclared, The Daily Show, Arrested Development, The Wire, 30 Rock, Parks and Rec, Bored to Death, Community, Louie, Bob's Burgers, Girls, Orange Is the New Black, Brooklyn Nine-Nine.

And also: This American Life, As It Happens, Fresh Air, The Great Eastern, WTF, and The Savage Lovecast.


Stranger, I made you a mix:


I didn't know about collard greens before I moved here. There is now nothing I don't want to know about collard greens.
The six things I could never do without
For which, I think it goes without saying, read: "Six things I like to keep around."

1. My murse, Murse Cunningham, containing:

2. at least one good book,

3. at least one reliable pen,

4. a not-too-expensive notebook (if the notebook costs too much, I won't want to befoul it with what my high school principal once described as the worst handwriting in Eastern Canada),

5. yes, yes, my phone,

and, not in a germophobic way, or only in a very mildly germophobic way, 6. hand sanitizer.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
I'm going to use this section to complain about, and clarify my entries in, the "My Details" box:

First, there's no option to list my body type as "fat." The choices given are "a little extra," "overweight," "curvy," and "full figured." I try to maintain a not-overdoing-it, young-Orson-Welles style of fatness, but to describe my weight as "a little extra" would be a laughable abuse of the ambiguity in "little." "Overweight" is too negative and clinical. It suggests self-pity, sham liquid diets, sweat clothes stained with frosting and tears. And while I think it's important for cis/straight men to subvert gender norms, I will not be doing so today by describing myself as "curvy." Same goes for "full figured." I've left the field blank.

Second, the "Religion" field should include a "lapsed Catholic" option. I'm an atheist, and I've listed that, but public declarations of atheism seem to me inseparable from a confrontational pose I'm not interested in striking. Also, doctrinally speaking, if you've been baptised, only the church can say you're not a Catholic.

Third, under "Income," read: "I do okay."
On a typical Friday night I am
doing something fun deep into the small hours. Often that thing is reading, but not always.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 20–40
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
- You're serious and funny.
- Growing up, you identified intensely with Lisa Simpson, Elizabeth Bennett, Rory Gilmore, or Harriet the Spy.
- You're somebody's feminist cool big sister. (Or you would make a good one.)
- You like your masculinity with a side order of effete weirdness.
- You have ever, as one of my favourite Internet dates, now one of my best friends, once did, Googled to see whether Zach Galifinakis has a girlfriend.
- You see something of yourself in this video: or this one: or this one:
- Your historical reenactment group needs a Herman Melville or a Henry VIII.
- The fancy takes you.