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29 M Boston, MA

My Details

Last Online
Today – 12:18pm
5′ 11″ (1.80m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Trying to quit
Atheism, and somewhat serious about it
Pisces, and it’s fun to think about
Art / Music / Writing
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Strictly monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), French (Okay)

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My self-summary
I'm a romantic, driven, sensitive, intelligent, passionate, confident, arts-obsessed blue-eyed Irish bastard (literally) from Southern California. I offer my opinions freely (and mostly sans solicitation), am widely considered fuckkkkking intense, can recite Rich, play Bach's chaconne, or sing some Donny Hathaway from memory (parlor tricks, see), and I've been known to wilt like a wallflower over saccharine shit like videos of puppies playing in a field of daffodils or, well, any of the many insufferable romcoms wherein Hugh Grant plays lead.

I find life and relationships most fulfilling when I'm being exposed to something new or challenged to reconsider something long standing. Growth, in short. I'm certainly a work in progress, but that being said I know what I want and am not afraid of getting it: a partner (in both mischief and monogamy)—someone compelling, challenging, and inexhaustibly curious.


"I have always lived violently, drunk hugely, eaten too much or not at all, slept around the clock or missed two nights of sleeping, worked too hard and too long in glory, or slobbed for a time in utter laziness. I've lifted, pulled, chopped, climbed, made love with joy and taken my hangovers as a consequence, not as a punishment."—Steinbeck

[According to a good friend/dude I met on this ish and dated back in the day, my "self-summary" is pretty solid. He did, however, suggest I mention that I'm real bossy. Mostly because it's true.]
What I’m doing with my life
After several years in local media—writing and art directing for various local and national mags and broadsheets + writing/hosting/producing for TV—I went rogue and am now a freelance "consultant." [consultant ≠ a euphemism for prostitute. promise.]
I’m really good at
... you can be the judge.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
BOOKS // All things Sartre; Life and Death Are Wearing Me Out, Mo Yan; Dream of a Common Language, Rich; The Defense, Nabokov; Extemely Loud & Incredibly Close, Safran-Foer; Love in the Time of Cholera, Márquez; Tulips & Chimneys, Cummings; This Side of Paradise, Fitzgerald; Confessions of an Advertising Man, Ogilvy; The Journal of Jules Renard, Renard; the poetry of Broumas, Neruda, Creeley, Atwood, Kumin, Sexton, Parker, Eliot, Rimbaud, Auden....

MOVIES // Mysterious Skin. Vivre sa vie. The Cook, the Thief, His Wife, and her Lover. Amélie. The Opposite of Sex. Conversation(s) with Other Women. Awakenings. The Departed. The Science of Sleep. Half Nelson. The Royal Tennenbaums. The Life Aquatic.

MUSIC // Beach House. Scriabin. Fionn Regan. Sam Cooke. Lykke Li. Nina Simone. The Decemberists. Jon Brion. The Bird and the Bee. Joanna Newsom. The Concretes. Liszt. Jeff Buckley. D'Angelo. Vincent Delerme. Mahalia Jackson. Jazmine Sullivan. The Rolling Stones. Louis Prima. Nouvelle Vague. Josh Ritter. Keb' Mo'. Luke Temple. Amel Larrieux. Nick Drake. Vetiver. Elliott Smith. Camille. Andrew Bird. Blonde Redhead. Voxtrot. Bessie Smith. Camera Obscura. Gregory and The Hawk. Joni Mitchell. Chavela Vargas. Brahms. Ruthie Foster. Edith Piaf. Ray LaMontagne. Starsailor. Granados. Muddy Waters. Howlin' Wolf. The Faint. Spoon. Pedro the Lion. Sly and the Family Stone. Mates of State. Van Morrison. Debussy. Bertrand Belin. Cat Power. Guillemots. James Brown. Kings of Convenience. Lauryn Hill. Wilco. Amalia Rodrigues. The Shins. Oasis. Fats Domino.
The six things I could never do without
I just can't bring myself to imagine that great bonds are formed over the shared pseudo necessity of, say, an iPhone.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
A // Why folks ask questions they think they should ask instead of asking the ones they want to ask.
B // The many ways in which gin is, truly, a gift from the heavens.
C // Why Elgar's violin concerto— a richly expressive monument of Romanticism—is so rarely performed.
D // Why I invariably use about 1247812367812356123 more adjectives than are called for/necessary/acceptable.
E // Whether I can survive another New England winter.
On a typical Friday night I am
Blahblah something about roman candles exploding like spiders across the stars blahblahblah something about there never being a typical night because, "Dude seriously, I'm so clever and interesting" blahblahfuckingblah.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm a pretty open person—heart on my sleeve, all that.
I’m looking for
  • Guys who like guys
  • Ages 28–44
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
If you're curious, if you're charming, if you're passionate, if you're idiosyncratic, if you're funny, if you read all of the above (points for stamina), and definitely if you winced a few times while doing so.

Or if you're none of those things but want to share something, about anything, with me. I'm the oldest of four boys. I appreciate sharing.