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5′ 11″ (1.81m)
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Mostly vegetarian
Graduated from Ph.D program
Rather not say
Doesn’t have kids
English, French, Ancient Greek, Latin
My self-summary
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I am a native Torontonian who recently moved to Budapest after six years of school in America to take a postdoctoral fellowship for most of the year. I am considering staying around to teach, but this is a long term comittment, and Budapest...

At any rate, I'll soon be relocating to Toronto until September, and most likely much longer. I had hoped to have moved to Toronto already, but I am actually back in my hometown taking care of my father, who very recently had a severe stroke. He's a handful, to say the least, and doesn't stop pointing at the fridge until he gets at least three simultaneous fruit juices. He's diabetic, however, and can't have multiple juice products at all times. so he's basically always pointing at the damned fridge.

Here's a short little memoir I wrote when he lost half of his brain and I was in an airport in Poland.

Personality wise, I suppose that I am some combination of passionate, playful, curious and serious about my values and life. There are certain people and things that are very important to me, people and things that touch me very deeply or drive me a bit crazy, but I try very hard not too closed minded or humorless about them.

I'm a bit like a shivering child in a sandy bathing suit trying to build a castle that I'm deeply engaged with. I know exactly what all of the little lumps are, where the drawbridge goes down, and I'm really excited about it. My mom keeps yelling at me to pull my bathing suit up, but I'm so engrossed in the enterprise of the castle that I'm not paying any attention to her. Deep down, I know that it's not really a castle, and when the waves eventually destroy it, I'll probably just stick my hand in the resultant mud and squish it around because it feels good. But right now, I am really really excited about building it; and if you want to help me and seem like a nice person, maybe we can work together. Or maybe you are making something of your own that I can find out about and help with. Alternatively, we could just stick our hands in the mud. It feels really nice.

I have a lot of energy for intimate friendships and relationships, love expressing myself creatively to those I care about, and really enjoy it when others are comfortable doing the same. I love music, classical, jazz, and pop. I write and record a lot of music in my spare time, and used to sing in choirs when I was a boy. I love being outdoors in all kinds of weather. I enjoy travel, especially in the middle east.
What I’m doing with my life
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I’m really good at
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making people feel comfortable
getting lost in conversation
The first things people usually notice about me
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People find me honest and intimate, although I can be a bit quiet and shy around new people. (this sounds a bit like one of those descriptions intended to find willing adoptees for stray cats, but it's the truth).
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I love to read all sorts of things, but my perennial favorites are Virginia Woolf, Melville, Joyce, Graham Greene, Philip Larkin, and Gerard Manley Hopkins. Tolstoy and Dostoyevsky and Chekov. Over the past bit I've read and loved Roberto Bolano, Laszlo Krasznahorkai, Peter Nadas, Tomas Transtromer, and Andrei Platonov.

I've been reading a lot of non-fiction at the moment. Lots of things about the middle east, religious violence, and religious rituals. I'm a real barrel of laughs.

I love music above all else, and listen to classical, jazz, and pop. Pop-wise, I like the standard 60's and 70's classics, as well as lots of different modern things (Joanna Newsom, Bill Callahan, Will Oldham, and loud non-folk albums)

In the last couple of years, I've really liked The Knife, Joey Bada$$, Oneohtrix Point Never, A$AP Rocky, St. Vincent, and Destroyer.

I like Bergman and Truffaut movies, and almost anything Polish. I love Curb Your Enthusiasm, Louis C.K. and the British Office.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
my sense of humor
the great outdoors
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Why does no one care about *my* highly sexualized dance routines, semi-public meltdowns, and casual drug use?

philosophy. ethics. music. anthropology (gender rituals, marriage ceremonies, funeral rites, etc.). emotions. the middle east. foreign affairs. evolutionary biology. canadian politics.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I taught a philosophy course at a prison last year, and kept thinking about how "raw" I was. "I'm probably the only person in the world who can reach these guys," I would often say to myself. All that just because I'd seen the Wire! And I've only watched the first three seasons.
You should message me if
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you have values of some sort that you are willing to fight for, or put time into promoting, and aren't afraid of making mistakes or being perceived as over-earnest because you believe in something. you don't believe that an attitude of constant sarcasm and cynicism constitutes a well lived adult life, and are more concerned with doing the right thing than being cool.

you have a don't ask don't tell policy regarding whether i've ever killed a person