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38 F Sherman Oaks, CA

I’m looking for

  • Straight guys only
  • Ages 37–48
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Sep 17
5′ 4″ (1.63m)
Body Type
Agnosticism, but not too serious about it
Scorpio, but it doesn’t matter
Space camp
Art / Music / Writing
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Strictly monogamous
Doesn’t have kids
Has dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Okay)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
06.11.14--just signing back on this thing for the first time in a long while, so this profile is outdated by a few years, or at least the part about recent movies, etc...I've updated my pics and a couple other things.

Ok, so this is trial number three on here... I was on here for a little while before, but never really went on any dates because the whole idea of internet dating sort of freaked me out, but I'm ready to give it a go again. I'm not really meeting "the one" in the real world, so let me give this cyber thing another try.

Let me preface my profile summary with this--take time to read this--I'm looking for a particular kind of guy and don't really want to waste my time sifting through random emails from guys who email me based solely on pictures. Anyhow, read my profile--I only want to hear from you if you have depth and share my interests. I'm so over getting short emails from guys who have nothing else to say other than, "hey sexy"...haha. The worst was an IM I got that said, "would you please have my baby?" or something to that effect. ..and then they wonder why they get blocked and no girls will talk to them. I mean, come on--on what planet does that actually work? ;)

My rant about dating on the Interwebs:
I'm sort of dipping my feet in the water here rather slowly, as I'm skeptical about the whole online dating thing. I do miss the good old days when you could spot someone from across the room, exchange a glance & a smile, then awkwardly stagger over to each other and try to think of something witty to say on the fly...then they either open their mouth and you are amazed at how awesome they are...or you learn instantly that they are in fact a complete idiot and it only went as far as looks. Then you try to figure out how to retreat, looking at your phone, hoping it will ring...then you pretend you get a text and say, "OMG--I'm so sorry, but my friend is having issues in the restroom...I must go...nice meeting you...". haha. ...or it could go the other way, you're totally enthralled after that initial meeting and you end up having a whirlwind of a romance before realizing you have nothing in common at all. Ok, ok...maybe the Internet dating thing is a good idea. You can at least grasp a persons likes & dislikes and sort of compare things to see if you are compatible ahead of time. Then again, people lie.

And now, back to our regularly scheduled program... ;)

Overall, I am fun loving, free spirited and a tad bit quirky (ok, "tad bit" is sort of an understatement). I would like to meet someone who is like me--open to all kinds of music (except for country or death and has an all around passion for life! No close minded guys need apply. I want someone just as diverse as I am, nothing less. I want someone who doesn't care what people think and can make an ass of himself for the fun of it, but knows when and where to be serious. I want to find someone to go camping with, dancing with, a workout buddy, a partner in crime, the yin to my yang, the sugar for my coffee...oh wait, I don't drink coffee...well, I'll be the sugar for your coffee then. ...someone to go out on the town with or just lounge around on a rainy day with a good movie or conversation. I want to find the person I can do everything or absolutely nothing with and still have fun (keep in mind, he should also have his own life outside of our relationship...that is definitely important to me). Most of all, I want to think that the sun shines out this person's, well for lack of a better word--tushy (do they screen this thing??), and vice versa. In my eyes, he will be the sun and the moon...and in his eyes, I'll be everything in between. Ok, maybe this is asking for too much in LA, but I've never been one to settle. To me settling just isn't worth it--I love my life way too much to waste it with the wrong people. :) I would be happier single for the rest of my life as long as I didn't just settle for any warm body...I'm looking for someone who also feels the same.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I've gone almost every route in my career life, but never really veered in the direction of what I went to college for. I think I could write a shorter list of all the things I haven't done. I've been a teacher, a veterinary assistant, a creative coordinator, an art buyer, an event coordinator/producer, a business owner, a freelance writer, a legal assistant, an IT manager, and I'm sure I left a couple things out--yes, a Jackie of all trades...

...but what I'm really doing with my life is dancing, singing, reading, writing, hiking, stargazing, going to Disneyland (a lot), enjoying good music, film, art & poetry, nature, sunsets, sunrises & rainbows, discovering, learning, acting silly, being passionate and just all around trying to live my life to the fullest.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
daydreaming, cooking, roller skating, being sarcastic, being overly analytical, rambling nonsensically, smiling, making my friends smile & also making them feel appreciated as often as I can, laughing incessantly, loving my friends unconditionally, kissing, cuddling, using proper grammar, spelling & punctuation, using ellipses...whenever I feel they are necessary--even when they are not...and of course I'm good at writing lists...
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My eyes or the fact that I'm really sarcastic.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
- Books? Yes, I'm literate. Palahniuk (Fight Club, Invisible Monsters & Choke are on the top of my's too bad Choke didn't have an awesome Director for the film), HST, Bukowski, and some others...

- Movies? I love good film. Paul Thomas Anderson (Magnolia, Boogie Nights) and a million others. I used to have my dvds organized by director, then by genre, then actor and so on. Thankfully I'm not as OCD as I used to be. ;) I'm also a fan of Disney and also a little bit of sci fi, but I am in no way a "Trekkie", although I did like Star Trek as a kid, but Star Wars always took front seat. Last movie I saw in the theatre was Moonrise Kingdom and the last three movies I saw at home (from my collection) were High Fidelity, Magnolia, and Royal Tenenbaums (just to give you an idea). I have quite a few "default" movies as well (movies I can watch ANY time that always make me smile). Adding to the aforementioned, those include Amelie, Almost Famous, and a smattering of other happy go lucky flicks.

This is probably the most important factor in finding my other half--you absolutely MUST be a music lover--no way around this one. I like an eclectic mix of genres including bossa nova (Antonio Carlos Jobim, Astrud Gilberto, Elis Regina), house, jazz (all kinds), blues, R&B, disco, orchestral disco, funk, 80's, soul, hip hop (especially oldschool & intelligent hip hop--ATCQ is one of my well as The Wu, especially Method Man), classical, big band, standards (love me some Sinatra & Dean Martin), techno, old skool tekno, breaks, acid breaks (one of my all time faves), drum n bass, ambient, trip hop (DJ SHADOW!), dub, dubstep (only if it's produced & mixed well though--otherwise my ears will bleed), alternative, classic rock, Zeppelin, Rolling Stones, Beatles, Steely Dan, Ambrosia, Depeche Mode, Radiohead, Stevie Wonder, MJ, Billy Joel, Elton John, Zero 7, Massive Attack, Theivery Corporation, Prince, Frou Frou, etc... It would literally take me days to list out all of my musical interests...I better just stop now. I pretty much LOVE all music, period. Music is a huge part of my soul--always has been, always will be. It's also a plus if you like to get super cheesy and have epic sing alongs on road trips. ;)

- Food? I don't really have an absolute favorite restaurant, but have a few I frequent. I love sushi, but doesn't everyone? I love just about every type of food (Peruvian, Thai, Argentinian, Brazilian is a definite fave, etc etc etc). And I'll try anything once.

- Television: Favorite shows were Dexter, Mad Men, Boardwalk Empire, Californication, Family Guy, How I Met Your Mother, reruns of Friends & Seinfeld...but I really haven't been watching much tv these days.

You still reading? Good. ;) I'm not really a fan of brevity...I also figure we (well, a lot of us) are here to find the perfect match, not waste our time, right? I'll be as specific as I need to be. :)
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1-my friends & family...yes, even the dysfunctional ones
3-good conversation
(hey, I'm being realistic here...)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
I wonder what would happen if I screamed really loud in this library? I wonder what would happen if I decided to take this road and see where it goes? I wonder what they would think if I... Yes, I really think about silly things like that. I also spend a lot of time thinking about the fact that I think too much. ;) Oh, and NYC in the fall--I spend a lot of time thinking about that and I get out there as much as possible to see the changing of seasons.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
I'm never doing the same thing every Friday night. Some nights are spent having dinner with friends (I'm usually the one who's doing the cooking), dancing, movie nights, going to a good concert, etc...but then sometimes I just like to stay in and relax.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I love singing in my car to really cheesy music, but that usually ends up to be a not so private moment as people always catch me in the act...but hey, it's nice to make a stranger laugh.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
you're a tad bit eccentric & embrace it
you're intelligent, sarcastic & witty
you can make me laugh
you love music (all genres--you REALLY must have a passion for music!!!)
you love film
you're a great kisser & don't just THINK you are
you're somewhat nerdy
you're passionate
you're diverse
you love to snuggle
you're nonjudgmental
you love to learn new things
you love being silly but also know when to be serious (I mean like seriously silly...)
you love camping and all things nature
you don't have a lot of facial hair (sorry guys--just not into it)
you're happy & healthy (body & mind)
you're confident & secure
you're not fake, know how to be yourself & feel comfortable in your own skin
you know who you are & aren't trying to "find yourself"
you love Disneyland (ok, not a prerequisite, but definitely a plus...and even better if you have an annual pass) like ellipses...
you want to know more about me & want to tell me more about you
you got through this profile alive and don't think I'm too wordy and overly opinionated, in fact--you dig it ;)

Did I mention you MUST love music?

Oh and most importantly--you're not just trying to hook up, because I am NOT looking for that. Hookups are easy to find...I'm looking for something deeper than that, not just a booty call. Only contact me if you're looking for something REAL & long lasting.