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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 25-40
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My details

Last online
Nov 23
6' 2" (1.88m)
Body Type
Special Diet
Not at all
Atheism and it’s important
Dropped out of University
Doesn’t have kids and doesn’t want them
English (Fluently)
My self-summary
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Right, time to streamline this:

### I should state from the outset that I don't want kids. Also, if you already have kids, I'm sure they're great and you're a wonderful mother but again, I'm not the guy for you. ###

Quietly awesome guy (not in a big headed way, I'm just good at some stuff and a nice person): I'm monogamous but I'm looking for a bossy ethically non-monogamous girl who wants a primary relationship with a guy that will focus his attention on your happiness/pleasure and that you can boss around. It's complex so feel free to ask...

I identify essentially as an intellectual/emotional submissive cuckold (not into beatings or being vacuum packed and kept under the stairs etc...) who wants to share in your experiences with others and be the guy you come home to. I'm into kink and have a number of fetishes I enjoy Like I said, it's complicated so do ask.

I should also clarify that play partners are also welcome.

sound technician by trade for conferences and events, musician by passion, web developer by sideline business/interest, nerd, photographer and general creative type with tattoos. INTJ if you put any stock in these things...

Not really into the whole travelling thing, (controversial, I know...); I like North America/Canada and would happily live over there but I have no urge to go to some developing country to sit on a beach with some trust fund hippies called Tarquin and Echinacea listening to them "finding themselves".

General geek really. A good listener/hugger/sofa buddy and handy with computers, extensive TV/Video/Music collection on an HDD that you're more than welcome to rinse for all it's goodies (this is the digital equivalent of bribing you with cake...)

I do have a type:
- petite (either skinny or curvy but most definitely short),
- younger than me, generally under 35
- nerdy/dorky,
- shy,
- funny/silly,
- glasses a plus :D
- tattoos/piercings a bonus
- pale skin (the paler the better, points for being a cute albino!)
- funny women. Apparently many guys are put off by a woman that cracks all the gags but I love it. Make me laugh and I'm all yours.
- kinky/perverted, into fetish fun

I'm not a particularly outdoorsy person; if you're looking for a country walks/camping buddy then I'm not for you... I like the buzz and bustle of the city and don't like to be too far out of 24hr bus country!

I'm intelligent, kind, attentive, funny in a Blackadder kind of way, generous, not jealous, open minded, tall, tattooed and geeky. I enjoy the company of people that can teach me new things and that want to learn stuff from me. Smart, curious women are sexy women.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Sound Tech at a London conference venue; freelance WordPress website builder/manager; musician (bass guitar); sometime photographer.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Creative stuff, tech stuff, pop-culture, music, photography, web stuff.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'm big with tattoos and a shaved head. Underneath the big, gruff exterior I'm actually a giant teddy bear of a human. I also have a nice voice and calm manner.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Not much of a fiction reader, more into my learning books.


Action, sci-fi, comedy, drama, political thriller, thrillers, some world cinema, docs and a whole lot more. There's really not too many types of film I'll not watch but I won't bother with chick-flciks, period dramas, most of Eddie Murphy's recent output or generally things that I'm told I HAVE to see.


Metal, Rock, Blues, Jazz, a dash of "good" Country, Folk, D'n'B, dark electronic stuff like Burial. Anything that someone's actually sweated to create.


Funny stuff, docs, intelligent stuff, interesting dramas (loving Fortitude at the moment), sports, science docs, cop shows

Tasty things; not squid or mushrooms though.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
I recently got rid of most of everything I had so now my life is essentially:

My bass guitar
My laptop (and peripherals)
A suitcase with some clothes in it
My camera
The requisite paperwork to prove I am who I say I am.

beyond that, I guess I can live without most material things but I do love

Peace and Quiet
The Internet

That's it really. :D
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
music, movies, sex (and a whole host of things that go with it), the internet, web design, tv shows, comedy, the universe. Oh, and food. And why the general background smell of humanity is onions...

how frustrating it is that the non-monogamous women i like on here have primary partners already...

exactly what okcupid's algorithm uses to define someone as sloppy...
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Either in watching stuff online/TV, at the cinema, in a bar trying to listen to some good music. I don't drink so pubs and bars are quite boring now.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I've had a vasectomy. I wasn't kidding about the "no kids" bit in my summary. I put this here as both full disclosure and to separate out the women who really, truly DON'T want to have kids from those who say it and hope they can change a guy's mind later.
You should message me if
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You are pale, intelligent, silly, geeky and you like tall, beardy, older, creative blokes with tattoos and brains who are a little scruffy around the edges, that you can boss around and who'll have the kettle on when you come home.

You fancy a brew and a chat sometime.

Also, if you're Australian, American, East European or from Northern England then that would be very nice, sexy accents one and all. :D (and Northern doesn't include Birmingham I'm afraid, it's my sexual Kryptonite)