"My timing is off
But sometimes that's how it all works
Believe it or not
We don't have a choice
In matters of the heart
Just gotta be brave enough
To love and let yourself be loved" - Eels
"Don't do anything by half. If you love someone, love them with all your soul. When you go to work, work your ass off. When you hate someone, hate them until it hurts." - Henry Rollins
The point of dating is to determine if that person is someone you want to spend the rest of your life with, right?
A few years ago, I was dating this great girl.
She was sufficiently pretty, we had fun every time we got together, the sex was great, and we never fought as long as we didn't discuss religion, politics, or related topics.
It came time where we were ready to move beyond dating, but then we realized that we had no future because we disagreed on every serious topic.
She felt there is clearly no God and superstitions are nonsense. She thought teaching Creation or Intelligent Design to potential offspring was foolish (even as alternative ideas, giving them options). I am very aware that I don't have all the answers and am still seeking. She was very liberally indoctrinated. She believed that most people were good. She felt that welfare, minimum wage, and unemployment should be substantially increased and that almost every one receiving it deserved it as long as they needed it. I hold the opposite view of people where I find that there are very few good people out there. I've personally seen too many people abuse any entitlement they could and laugh about it.
I believe in sink or swim. If someone cannot find a way to take care of themselves and their family, there's got to be a reason for it, and there should be consequences.
She was an engineering student, I appreciated her sense of logic, but there were just too many things we were never going to agree on. Any attempts to have a discussion on these topics led her to clenched fists or tears of frustration where she was firmly entrenched. Eventually, we realized it wasn't meant to be.
I haven't had any luck finding anyone even slightly like me who was interested, so i've been single for the past 4 years since then.
"Fell in love, out of love, still dreaming
I feel like I'm chasing the guy from Lucky Charms" - Moldy Peaches
I'm beginning to think Neutral Milk Hotel and Big D are right:
"The girl I want is just a myth
imagination girl please come save me, imagination girl
imagination girl please come save me in an imagination world
one day she'll come around and find me, I know
one day she'll come around and find me 'cause I know" - Big D and the Kids Table
"My dream girl don't exist
At the age of five she slit her wrist
She didn't know that I'd be hanging around
So her parents buried her in the ground
My dream girl don't exist
Took her photograph from a history book
I believe she had a voice and name
Three children on the coast of Maine
Her life was in a hurricane
Of love and real embrace" - Neutral Milk Hotel
Anyone dare to prove them wrong?
"I want to be a hippy, but I forgot how to love" - Moldy Peaches
She should love music (it's a big part of my life). Points if she can play an instrument and bonus points if she can motivate me to learn to play my instruments better (I suck due to lack of practice). Points if she loves animals and kids. Points if she's comfortable traveling and can accommodate herself to a normal extent. She has to have a career (or be working toward one), jobs just don't cut it any more at this point. Points if she's a good dancer, bonus points if she's cool with me not dancing. Points if she's neutral or right-leaning politically. I tend to be serious in public and goofy in private.
I'd love to find the time to learn a few other languages, maybe French, German, and Dutch? I took a bit of Latin and Spanish, but i've forgotten a lot of what I learned over the years with no one to speak with.
I enjoy traveling and learning, but sometimes I try to get too much out of trips for my companions. I've got a stack of books i've been meaning to read eventually (largely texts from various religions).
I've always been good with kids and animals (they just seem naturally drawn to me somehow), but I don't have any kids and am not willing to date someone who does (I want children of my own some day, I would not treat children from another father the same, and i'm not willing to put a kid through that).
I work for a software company. I haven't made many new, close friends locally since moving back to Rochester last year. I've had some good times. How many guys do you know that have judged the Cup in Amsterdam, been to Munich for Oktoberfest, or have climbed inside the Pyramid of Khafre? I'm passionate about music and go to concerts (probably too many).