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34 • Rochester, NY • Man
I’m looking for
- Ages 21–37
- Near me
- Who are single
- For long-term dating, short-term dating
- Last online
- Yesterday – 8:26am
- 5′ 11″ (1.80m)
- Body type
- A little extra
- Christianity, but not too serious about it
- Virgo, and it’s fun to think about
- Graduated from university
- Science / Engineering
- Rather not say
- Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
- Likes dogs and likes cats
- English (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly)
My last vacation was amazing. It was a Mayian ruins tour around the Yucatán Peninsula (Mexico, Guatemala, and Belize) at the end of 2011. I enjoy learning when I travel. I try to hit every interesting art gallery, museum, or structure that I can. On this trip, I also got to try out cave diving, cenote diving, and snorkeling around the reef.
"And I need you to give it meaning,
I need you to share the view" - Hum
I love live music. Living in Rochester again meant that I can see concerts in town, get to Buffalo in like an hour, or Syracuse in like an hour and a half. Meaning that I now had much more convenient access to upstate New York shows again (compared to the 2-3 hours I was driving a few times a month from the previous town to see concerts). I've been going to shows I wanted to see, pretty much as often as I could (average 3-5 a month), for the past 15 years or so. I just get lost in the music and feed off of the energy from the crowd. I have trouble telling myself no and there are so many shows I would like to see. For instance, it's July and i've got a running list of announced shows that I would like to see which extends into December... Someday, i'll meet the right girl, get married, and have kids hopefully.
"I must have missed the grow-up sign I thought we were still having fun.
So good luck, with not forgetting who you are, even though it seems you have to
Good luck, finding your own way not setting in where your not happy
Good luck, remembering it's only life
Good luck, not following what you don't believe in
Good luck, seeing many problems are only a big deal if you make them ...
So good luck, being someone who can always help someone out
Good luck, in remembering how much you can effect someone else
Good luck with not being selfish
Good luck with not being alone
Good luck in this world we're all just trying to get along
Good luck with not getting caught up
Good luck with not getting stressed
Good luck with figuring things out
Good luck with doing your best
Good luck with not losing yourself
Good luck for standing for what's right
Good luck for being happy when you sit to review your life" - Big D & the Kid's Table
I thought that I would reunite with people I used to know from the last time I lived in Rochester (around 2007), but I seem to be on my own these days. About 1-2 weekends a month, I see some old friends from my previous town (I drive down there because most of them have lost their licenses to dwi's or are married with kids and cannot get away), but the rest of the time it's just me anymore. I've got a lot of extended family in the area, but they are very religious and i'm a bit less inhibited. So I go my way and they go theirs (though we're friendly, see each other on holidays, and we know we could count on each other if needed). I drink at every show I go to, but rarely drink otherwise unless it's a friend's idea. I rarely ever actually get drunk anymore though, I just try to count out how much I can have and still be under the dui limit for the return trip. Though i'm the type that doesn't get much from alcohol (it just loosens me up a bit).
At least Valentines day is on a Saturday this year so you can just wake up and start drowning your sorrows without having to wait for pesky things like work to be over.
"I wanna hold you
til the mountains turn into sand
what happened to all those days
before we were bruised
before we were cut loose
to drown in your wake
I can't breathe underwater
like I used to
'fore I met you
I, just can't remember
January, straight through December
my collective memories are in shambles
so are my scruples
i'm outside your window
throwin' bricks at the moon"
"The heart is a motherfucker
I'm positive of that.
So deep cover is not a place,
It's a state of mind
To have your heart go incognito
And hide away for a while"
"Throw me to piranhas, if you won't be with me
Feed me to koalas, if you won't be with me
I'm not a barracuda, even though I flash the teeth
Throw me to piranhas, if you won't be with me
Is it all about the highs and the lows
of losing all you love sometimes and letting go
You feel like you can't deal
the worlds doing cartwheels
The world is a shit show, as bad as the sequel
And if you gotta smash some plates to relax
I say do it d-d-d-d-d-do it
And if you gotta crash your car in a lake to feel sane
I say do it, just do it
And if you gotta dance until the earth quakes,
and your boyfriends a dick and you gotta regulate
I say think about it he might destroy you
think about it he might destroy you
think about it he might destroy you
Tear his limbs off.
And I don't wanna be the stranger in your rear view mirror
I just wanna be the man you bring home for dinner" - Man Man
"You can't make someone love you with a song" - Her Space Holiday
"Your disinterest is driving me mad
You're so fine
If you were mine I'd love you up
Give me a sign my darling
Well, I can shine
If you'd just let me know
What's a fella gotta do
To spend a little time with you?
I'm so tired of feeling I could be more
I need a purpose
What am I for?"
"Well if you need me, I'm right here
No mater what, I'm always near
Yeah, I've been through a lot
And you can't scare me
Now go on baby, if you just dare me
I'll break through any wall
Just give me a call
I'm a dynamiter
I'm a prizefighter
Well if you get sad, I'm your friend
I got an ear I'll always lend
You know that you can always talk to me
Now come on baby, take a walk with me"
"You're not sure, well that's okay
Cause I am and I'm not afraid
It's up to you and me
And who's to say
These could be the good old days" - The Eels
I'm lucky enough to have a job that I can perform from anywhere with a strong internet connection (Software "Test Engineer"), but i've got a lease in Rochester for the time being. I really don't mind Rochester, but i've been spending a lot of time alone unintentionally these days (I just don't have many local friends anymore). Talking to a co-worker, I guess maybe that's not all that unusual, but at my last place, I used to have friends dropping by like 5x a week. I wouldn't mind moving to a bigger city for a few years (some place big enough to get all the bands to come around with reliable public transit so I don't have to worry about driving home). It'd be so nice to be able to drink at concerts without counting your drinks (so you know you'll get home without incident). Right now, I can't afford a place like NYC because i've got too much debt from feeding my passions like a glutton. I almost moved to Amsterdam in 1999. I was accepted at the University of Amsterdam, but they didn't get back to me until after I had to give RIT my decision.
I'm nearly always alone at shows and what not, so I mostly keep to myself. I generally know where i'm going and have everything I need so there usually isn't much reason for me to interact with strangers. The friends I do have left are close friends. I may not see them often, but i'd trust them with my life. Just got back from the Netherlands again yesterday (another fun Cup). I kind of had my eyes on Greece / Turkey (where I haven't been before), but this was my first chance to travel with a friend (all my previous trips have been alone or with groups of strangers that mostly, eventually became acquaintances). Besides judging the Cup is a hell of a lot of fun anyways, so he didn't exactly have to twist my arm to get me to go with him instead of my originally intended destination. I aggressively pay down my debts, but frequently lose progress because I don't want to say no to the next fun thing. I guess i'm not so spontaneous because I always have plans down the road and resources pre-allocated. I'm not anti-social, but i'm just generally not one to initiate conversations with people that I do not know. I haven't met a single new person (who's name I can recall) since I moved back here two and a half years ago.
I guess that I might come off as a touch anti-religious, but that's not exactly true. It's been many years since I attended church services, but I do still hold some tenets of (Baptist) Protestant beliefs. I just don't believe it all. I'm interested in other religions too and i've been gradually reading through various religious texts.
Believe it or not, most people that have met me casually would describe me as one of the most laid-back, relaxed guys they know. I can be verbose if the topic is something that actually interests me. Admittedly, I do keep my cards pretty close to my chest.
The point of dating is to determine if that person is someone you want to spend the rest of your life with, right?
Sorry, I cannot date someone with kids already, but I hope to have kids of my own some day.
um i've seen way too many movies..
I find myself watching a lot of documentaries these days
one day I sat down and wrote out a long list of things I'd heard of, but didn't know much about or didn't know the context of the event and i've spent a good handful of nights reading online about those topics lately
I play guitar a bit (though fairly poorly) and i've been learning drums and bass a bit (mostly when screwing around with friends while drinking), I enjoy traveling and i've taken brief trips around the US, Central America, Europe, and Egypt.
My non-productive nights tend to involve video games.
I don't expect you to know all these bands (though i'd be pleasantly shocked if you did), nor do I expect you to want to go to see bands that aren't your cup of tea, but an eagerness to learn would go a long way with me. I've said before that if I ever find a girl that LOVES the Beatles, the Eels, Sublime, and Rollins Band, i'd probably end up marrying her.
I'm usually stuck going to shows alone because I don't know anyone that listens to half of the stuff that i'm into - In 2012, I saw: The "Yardbirds", Voodoo Glow Skulls, Henry Rollins (Spoken Word), Jonny Corndawg, Disappears / Lotus Plaza, Clutch / Hellyeah, Kottonmouth Kings / Twiztid, Reverend Horton Heat, Cold War Kids / Kaskade, St. Vincent, Primus, Whose Line Anyway, Flogging Molly, Bonnaroo (Radiohead, Chili Peppers, Ben Folds Five, White Denim, SOJA, Rubblebucket, Bad Brains, Electric Guest, Sharon Jones & the Dap Kings, Avett Brothers, Foster the People, Puscifer, Danzig/Misfits, Dispatch, Alice Cooper, Skrillex, Gary Clark Jr., Grouplove, the Beach Boys, fun., Phish, etc), Big D & the Kid's Table / Goldfinger / Reel Big Fish, Mayer Hawthorn, Bonzai (Eve 6, Gaslight Anthem, Offspring, Our Lady Peace, etc), K-Rockathon (Public Enemy, Korn, Pod, Red Light Kings, Eve 6, Gaslight Anthem, Offspring, etc), Summerland (Marcy Playground, Gin Blossoms, Everclear, Lit, and Sugar Ray), Wilco, Toadies/Helmet, Mighty Mighty Bosstones, Agent Orange/Queers, Hed (pe), Dropkick Murphy's, Sleighbells, Ben Fold's Five, Marilyn Manson/Rob Zombie, Mike Watt, Primus, G Love & Special Sauce, Sleighbells, Cypress Hill, Mrs. Skanetto, State Radio, Reverend Horton Heat, and Ra Ra Riot.
2014 shows so far: KMFDM, Manchester Orchestra / Man Man, Dr Dog, Richie Ramone, Jimkata, I am the Avalanche, Reel Big fish, Less Than Jake, Hold Steady and Deer Tick (Ithaca, Rochester, AND Buffalo :) ), Whigs, Local H, Deerhoof, the Aqua Bats, Manchester Orchestra, Death Cab For Cutie, Ringo Starr, Bonnaroo 2014 [Flaming Lips, White Denim, Cake, The Avett Brothers, Dr Dog, Wiz Khalifa, Vampire Weekend, Cage the Elephant, The Bouncing Souls, Slightly Stoopid, Arctic Monkeys, Skrillex, Fitz and The Tantrums, Mastodon, Neutral Milk Hotel, Nick Cave, Grouplove, Andrew Bird, Head and Heart, Meshuggah, Green Sky Blue Grass, Okkerville River, Thao and the Get Down Stay Down, Jack White, Elton John, etc], Guttermouth, Jello Biafra, Weezer, Primus / Ween, Sublime, Queens of the Stone Age, Megadeth, Ben Fold's, one day of GrassRoots (Anders Osborn, Joe Spektor, and Donna the Buffalo), Gogol Bordello, Bonzai (Chevelle, Tove Lo, A Day to Remember, etc), Edgefest (Weezer, Brand New, etc), Powerman 5000/Hed PE, Presidents of the United States of America, Our Lady Peace, X-canceled-Bob Weir & Ratdog ("Grateful Dead"), AraabMuzik, Fitz & the Tantrums, Tom Petty, Foster the People, Pinback, Mad Caddies, MxPx, Soulfly (Buffalo and Rochester), BML, Big D & the Kid's Table, Isotopes, Jimkata, Primus, Sloan, a few Cup shows at the Melkweg, (maybe) Flogging Molly, (maybe) Hot Tuna / Donna the Buffalo, (maybe) hed pe/Nonpoint, (maybe) Chevelle, and Mighty Mighty Bosstones for New Years.
Upcoming shows of interest:
02/14 Preservation Hall Jazz Band - Eastman Theatre
02/20 Umphrey McGree - Landmark
02/20 Jimkata - Westcott
02/21 TR3 (Tim Reynolds) - Tralf
02/27 *Bush - Main Street Armory
02/27 XChadwick Stokes (from Dispatch and State Radio) - Water Street
03/01 *Juliana Hatfield 3 - Bowery Ballroom, NYC
03/02 XSleater-Kinney - Toronto
03/05 XSt Vincent - Water Street-sold out
03/06 JD McPherson - Downstairs Cabaret @ Winton Place
03/13 Tom Waits TRIBUTE BANDS - Buffalo Iron Works
03/14 Kat Williams - Blue Cross
03/15 G love - Anthology, Rochester
03/15 Dr Dog - Cornell
03/19 *Cold War Kids - Water Street
03/20 *Mushroomhead - Montage
03/27 Coal Chamber - Rapids Theatre
03/28 Jeff Foxworthy - Seneca Allegany
04/01 Kung Fu - Buffalo Iron Works
04/03 Jimkata - Waiting Room
04/05 *Suicide Machines - Lost Horizon
04/11 Rubblebucket - Haunt
04/16 Rubblebucket - Westcott
04/21 XNeutral Milk Hotel - Babeville - sold out
04/21 *Primus - Landmark
04/24 Jimkata - Water Street
04/25 Bill Cosby - Roc Auditorium
04/25 Rev Payton's Big Damn Band - Waiting Room
05/11 Agent Orange - Waiting Room
05/15 Hatebreed - Montage
05/20 Mastodon, Clutch, and Graveyard - Rapids Theatre
05/26 Craig Finn + Jason Isbell from DriveBy Truckers solo - Water Street
06/05 Buddy Guy - State Theatre Ithaca
06/05-07 Governor's Ball (NYC island) - Black Keys, DeadMau5, Florence & the Machine, Lana del Ray, My Morning jacket, Bjork, Noel Gallagher, Tame Impala, St Vincent, Flying Lotus, Atmosphere, Weird Al, Marina & the Diamonds, Mayer Hawthorn, etc
06/11-14 Bonnaroo - Billy Joel, Tears for Fears, DeadMau5, Kendrick Lamar, Flo & Machine, My Morning Jacket, Alabama Shakes, Slayer, Ben Harper, Childish Gambino, Ben Folds, Gary Clark Jr, Dawes, Tove Lo, Run the Jewels, etc
07/29 Slipknot and Lamb of God - Darien Lake
I work at a software company. My dream job is probably video game development, but these days I pay the bills writing regression tests.
I like to take in a variety of foods like Indian, Chinese, Italian, Mexican, Thai, etc. I've been meaning to try Sri Lankan, Pakistani, and Korean eventually.
I've been gradually checking off visiting places like:
Places I have visited
Louvre, Metropolitan Museum of Art, Vatican Museums, National Gallery of Art, Museum of Modern Art, Rijksmuseum, Galleria degli Uffizi, Musée d'Orsay, Art Institute of Chicago, Van Gogh Museum, Pergamon Museum, Galleria dell'Accademia, Guggenheim Museum (Venice and NYC), National Portrait Gallery (DC), Stedelijk Museum Amsterdam, Art Gallery of Ontario, Philadelphia Museum of Art
(I know i've also been to a bunch of little places that didn't make the list too)
Places I may have visited?
(we drank every night for the 3 weeks of that tour :) )
Musée National d'Art Moderne (Paris), Grand Palais (Paris), Institut Valencià d'Art Modern (Venice), Kunsthistorisches (Vienna), Doge's Palace (Venice) - pretty sure I saw the facade, but don't think I entered?
Hopefully, I can work out a way to see the Acropolis and Hagia Sophia next year.
I see so many places on this list are in London, I may have to find a way back there someday.
I only had 21 hours when I was there last.
(Figuratively) Bashing my head up against a wall until I find a solution to problems (I put in more time at work than I have to sometimes, trying to come up with "good" solutions).
Fixating on tasks until they are complete.
Probably looking ridiculous while bobbing my head and singing along (mostly under my breath) at concerts, while standing alone, double-fisting beers.
I could say I want you,
That would be a bore
Maybe in a font you
Haven't seen before?
I could say I'll haunt you
Till your dying day
I could tease and taunt you,
But what would I say?
See, I don't know what to say...
I could say I crave you
Still, you little brat
I could rant and rave, you
Know I can do that
I could say I gave you
Everything I have
I could say I'll save you
You might think me mad
So I don't know what to say...
I could try and lead you
Down the garden path
I could say I'll feed you
You can do the math
I could say I need you
Offer you a ring
I'll be guaranteed you
Don't believe a thing...
I could try and shove you
Off the nearest cliff
I could say I lo..." - The Magnetic Fields
"Do you ever walk alone?
Like a drifter in the dark
Seeking out what isn't there
Looking only for a spark
From a girl who's all alone
Maybe she's a-driftin' too
Like a shadow in the night
Waitin' just to meet with you
And then perhaps in love you'll stay
Or fall and go your separate ways
Still searchin' for a spark
Like a drifter in the dark" - Ween
"Not everyone who is lost is
Sometimes a lonely way
Taking your name down from the Jumbotron
Find a new place to stay
And a new home for the trumpeter swan" - They Might Be Giants
"I'm so happy, when you're here
And I'm not a happy girl
So like a miracle occurs
I'm happy when you're near
And all my angels appear
And the demons leave my ear
And I want to clean the kitchen
We're two peas from the same pod
Bowing down to the same God
We're not sure exists
We both walk with heavy souls
With bullet holes
And a backpack full of bad affairs and fears
I'm happy when you're here, kinda
I'm so happy when you're here
We both laugh at the same cruel jokes
We both still drink and smoke
Well I'm happy when you're here, kinda" - Jill Sobule
"I can bleed as well as anyone,
But I need someone to help me sleep" - Counting Crows
"I'm in love with rock and roll, but that will change eventually" - Local h
(Movies) falling down, half baked, bringing out the dead, punch drunk love, 10 things i hate about you, fear and loathing in los vegas, donnie darko, mothman prophicies, 7 television commercials, breakfast at tiffany's, brainscan, starship troopers, evil dead trilogy, high fidelity, vanilla sky, fight club, eternal sunshine of the spotless mind, Screwed, 40 Year Old Virgin, Forgetting Sarah Marshall, Primer, Pie, Anchorman, Tommy Boy, Black Sheep, Her, etc
(TV) Futurama, Dr Who, Louie, The Increasingly Poor Decisions of Todd Marget, Fringe, Law and Order, the Americans, Sons of Anarchy, Fargo, the Shield, Battlestar Galactica, That's 70's Show, Wonder Years, Quantum Leap, Hero's, Andy Rictor Controls the Universe, Married With Children, Star Trek, Twilight Zone, the Hitchhiker, Continuum, MacGuyver, A-Team, Walking Dead, Ancient Aliens, 10 Things You Don't Know About with Henry Rollins, How The States Got Their Shapes, America's Secret Slang, Brain Games, Whitest Kids You Know, Chappelle's Show, Robot Chicken, Moral Oral, etc
(Comedy) Dennis Leary, George Carlin, Louis C.K., Joe Rogan, Jim Gaffigan, Dave Chappelle, Henry Rollins (Spoken Word), Lenny Bruce, Eddie Izzard, Dom Irrera, Kevin Hart, Amy Schumer, Aziz Ansari, Dave Attell, Dustin Diamond (Screech From Saved by the Bell) - saw him do a pretty funny set at ComixCafe on Winton once, etc
(Music) Radiohead, Eels, Tori Amos, The Magnetic Fields, The Only Children, Blake Babies, Juliana Hatfield, Some Girls, Corporate Avenger, Tool, bad religion, Big D and the Kid's Table, Grizzley Bear, muse, Sublime, Smut Peddlers, Odetta, Count Basie, Little Walter, John Lee Hooker, Mother Superior, Otis Rush, The Format, Travis, Black Kids, Cold War Kids, Suicide Machines, Cardigans, Butthole Surfers, Toadies, Dr Dog, Local H, Folk Implosion, New Pornographers, Blonde Red Head, Rollins Band, smashing pumpkins, G Love & Special Sauce, Pain, Gogol Bordello, GutterMouth, Her Space Holiday, the Hold Steady, Hum, Jill Sobule, Magic Numbers, Ani Difranco, Oysterhead, Devotchka, God Lives Underwater, Joan Osborn, Mad Caddies, Massive Attack, Mazzy Star, Neutral Milk Hotel, Okkervil River, Pete Droge, Pietasters, Postelles, Rentals, Reverend Horton Heat, Saul Williams, Scott Weiland, Chris Cornell, They Might Be Giants, The Unicorns, Whigs, Ween, Zombina and the Skeletones, flogging molly, drop kick murphy's, andrew bird, bobby darin, everly brothers, counting crows, pantera, I am the avalanche, cat stevens, les claypool, primus, CIV, clash, rugburns, morphine, BML (Rochester band), cake, ben fold's 5, black sabbath, bob and ziggy marley, blind melon, four non blondes, nirvana, meat puppets, mother love bone, temple of the dog, pearl jam, sound garden, big bad voodoo daddy, apples in stereo, the aquabats, veruca salt, al green, alanis morissette (1st cd only), aerosmith, 6th's, future bible hero's, dead kennedy's, sleeper, everything but the girl, everclear, everlast, flamming lips, fiona apple, filter, dean martin, frank sinatra (love the sad songs, not so big on the happy ones), fuel, frank zappa, gg allin, goldfinger, ICP, janis joplin, jewel (1st cd only), johnny cash, johnny tillotson, Zager & Evans, korn (early stuff only), staind (1st cd only), K's choice, lea anderone, less than jake, therapy, scars on broadway, nada surf, weezer (the albums before their music changed when Rivers went to Harvard), kotton mouth kings, our lady peace, letters to cleo, beck, refreshments, CCR, Led Zeppelin, Doors, MC5, Beiruit, White Denim, Asian Teacher Factory, She Wants Revenge, Jonathon Wilson, Reverend Payton's Big Damn Band, Deap Vally, Man Man, Jessica Lea Mayfield, St Vincent, Sleighbells, Greensky Bluegrass, Phoenix, Damon Albarn, etc
(Food) chinese, italian, indian, thai, mexican, sea food, steak, been meaning to try korean one of these days..
I've got a reasonably good Software development position, but I did a whole bunch of traveling on credit cards in my 20's figuring I was going to do what I wanted to do and I'd figure out how to pay for it later, and well I guess it's later. I work a lot. I don't get to see friends all that often anymore. I can hold a conversation. I've got tons of useless facts rolling around and I can describe experiences from visiting Mayan temples, Egyptian monuments, the Cannabis Cup, etc but I think a better discussion would be to start planning our next adventure.
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