I need you to share the view" - Hum
"I want a woman who can sit me down, shut me up, tell me 10 things I don't already know, and make me laugh. I don't care what you look like, just turn me on. If you can do that, I will follow you on bloody stumps through the snow. I will nibble your mukluks with my own teeth. I will do your windows. I will care about your feelings. Just have something in there." - Henry Rollins
The point of dating is to determine if that person is someone you want to spend the rest of your life with, right?
I kind of live for the next highlight (the next fun event, whether it's a concert, trip, whatever). I just find it depressing if I can't point to the next one that's lined up. It's how I motivate myself to dredge through long days of work without (much) complaining. ;) On nights without plans, I try to make the gym a priority (aiming for three days a week), but otherwise play games, read, or watch a glowing screen as a means to pass time until the next event. I tend to have little phases and am eager to complete projects once started (even if it's something light like watching the rest of the seasons of a show, reading a book, learning a song, playing a game, etc).
My last vacation was amazing. It was a Mayian ruins tour around the Yucatán Peninsula (Mexico, Guatemala, and Belize) at the end of 2011. I enjoy learning when I travel. I try to hit every interesting art gallery, museum, or structure that I can. On this trip, I also got to try out cave diving, cenote diving, and snorkeling around the reef. I returned home to discover my closest friend (I've known him for 25 years and he was my roommate) had been hiding a serious drug addiction from me for the past few months and some guests he had over in my absence had robbed us. On top of cleaning up that mess, I also discovered that it had been 3 months since he had paid rent. He has since cleaned himself up using religion as his anti-drug, but his negligence cost him my trust. So I moved out of that small town (a couple hours South East of here) and came back to Rochester.
I love live music. Living in Rochester again meant that I can see concerts in town, get to Buffalo in like an hour, or Syracuse in like an hour and a half. Meaning that I now had much more convenient access to upstate New York shows again (compared to the 2-3 hours I was driving a few times a month from the previous town to see concerts). I've been going to shows I wanted to see, pretty much as often as I could (average 3-5 a month), for the past 15 years or so. I just get lost in the music and feed off of the energy from the crowd. I have trouble telling myself no and there are so many shows I would like to see. For instance, it's July and i've got a running list of announced shows that I would like to see which extends into December... Someday, i'll meet the right girl, get married, and have kids hopefully.
"I must have missed the grow-up sign I thought we were still having fun.
So good luck, with not forgetting who you are, even though it seems you have to
Good luck, finding your own way not setting in where your not happy
Good luck, remembering it's only life
Good luck, not following what you don't believe in
Good luck, seeing many problems are only a big deal if you make them ...
So good luck, being someone who can always help someone out
Good luck, in remembering how much you can effect someone else
Good luck with not being selfish
Good luck with not being alone
Good luck in this world we're all just trying to get along
Good luck with not getting caught up
Good luck with not getting stressed
Good luck with figuring things out
Good luck with doing your best
Good luck with not losing yourself
Good luck for standing for what's right
Good luck for being happy when you sit to review your life" - Big D & the Kid's Table
I thought that I would reunite with people I used to know from the last time I lived in Rochester (around 2007), but I seem to be on my own these days. About 1-2 weekends a month, I see some old friends from my previous town (I drive down there because most of them have lost their licenses to dwi's or are married with kids and cannot get away), but the rest of the time it's just me anymore. I've got a lot of extended family in the area, but they are very religious and i'm a bit less inhibited. So I go my way and they go theirs (though we're friendly, see each other on holidays, and we know we could count on each other if needed). I drink at every show I go to, but rarely drink otherwise unless it's a friend's idea. I rarely ever actually get drunk anymore though, I just try to count out how much I can have and still be under the dui limit for the return trip. Though i'm the type that doesn't get much from alcohol (it just loosens me up a bit).
"And every evening when he gets home
To make his supper and eat it alone
His black shirt cries
While his shoes get cold
It's just a dream he keeps having
And it doesn't seem to mean anything
It's just a dream he keeps having..." - Wilco
"You can't make someone love you with a song" - Her Space Holiday
"Your disinterest is driving me mad
You're so fine
If you were mine I'd love you up
Give me a sign my darling
Well, I can shine
If you'd just let me know
What's a fella gotta do
To spend a little time with you?
I'm so tired of feeling I could be more
I need a purpose
What am I for?"
"Well if you need me, I'm right here
No mater what, I'm always near
Yeah, I've been through a lot
And you can't scare me
Now go on baby, if you just dare me
I'll break through any wall
Just give me a call
I'm a dynamiter
I'm a prizefighter
Well if you get sad, I'm your friend
I got an ear I'll always lend
You know that you can always talk to me
Now come on baby, take a walk with me"
"You're not sure, well that's okay
Cause I am and I'm not afraid
It's up to you and me
And who's to say
These could be the good old days" - The Eels
I'm lucky enough to have a job that I can perform from anywhere with a strong internet connection (Software "Test Engineer"), but i've got a lease in Rochester for the time being. I really don't mind Rochester, but i've been spending a lot of time alone unintentionally these days (like 26 days a month, I just don't have many local friends anymore). I wouldn't mind moving to a bigger city for a few years (some place big enough to get all the bands to come around with reliable public transit so I don't have to worry about driving home). It'd be so nice to be able to drink at concerts without counting your drinks (so you know you'll get home without incident). Right now, I can't afford a place like NYC because i've got too much debt from feeding my passions like a glutton.
I'm nearly always alone at shows and what not, so I mostly keep to myself. I generally know where i'm going and have everything I need so there usually isn't much reason for me to interact with strangers. The friends I do have left are close friends. I may not see them often, but i'd trust them with my life. I'm going back to the Netherlands again in Thanksgiving 2014 (booked it a week ago :) ) with a friend. I kind of had my eyes on Greece / Turkey (where I haven't been before), but this was my first chance to travel with a friend (all my previous trips have been alone or with groups of strangers that mostly, eventually became acquaintances). Besides judging the Cup is a hell of a lot of fun anyways, so he didn't exactly have to twist my arm to get me to go with him instead of my originally intended destination. I aggressively pay down my debts, but frequently lose progress because I don't want to say no to the next fun thing. I guess i'm not so spontaneous because I always have plans down the road and resources pre-allocated. I'm not anti-social, but i'm just generally not one to initiate conversations with people that I do not know. I haven't met a single new person (who's name I can recall) since I moved back here two and a half years ago.
I guess that I might come off as a touch anti-religious, but that's not exactly true. It's been many years since I attended church services, but I do still hold some tenets of (Baptist) Protestant beliefs. I just don't believe it all. I'm interested in other religions too and i've been gradually reading through various religious texts.
Believe it or not, most people that have met me casually would describe me as one of the most laid-back, relaxed guys they know. I can be verbose if the topic is something that actually interests me. Admittedly, I do keep my cards pretty close to my chest.
Sorry, I cannot date someone with kids already.