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33 M Rochester, NY

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Last Online
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5′ 11″ (1.80m)
Body Type
A little extra
Christianity, but not too serious about it
Virgo, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from university
Science / Engineering
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly)

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My self-summary
I laughed hard when I heard someone say: "my idea of hitting on a girl is making eye contact with her twice and then hoping she's braver than I am", but sadly it's probably too close to true.

"I'm hopelessly lost and there's hardly a sound anymore
Coming through that can show me around
'Cause I'm endlessly, endlessly searching the crowd
Looking for something from you
Just one fucking measly clue
Any shitty little tip-off would do
But I'm just an ant in Alaska to you" - Liz Phair

She should love music (it's a big part of my life). Points if she can play an instrument and bonus points if she can motivate me to learn to play my instruments better (I suck due to lack of practice). Points if she loves animals and kids. Points if she's comfortable traveling and can accommodate herself to a normal extent. She has to have a career (or be working toward one), jobs just don't cut it any more at this point. Points if she's a good dancer, bonus points if she's cool with me not dancing. Points if she's neutral or right-leaning politically. I tend to be serious in public and goofy in private.

I'd love to find the time to learn a few other languages, maybe French, German, and Dutch? I took a bit of Latin and Spanish, but i've forgotten a lot of what I learned over the years with no one to speak with.
I enjoy traveling and learning, but sometimes I try to get too much out of trips for my companions. I've got a stack of books i've been meaning to read eventually (largely texts from various religions).
I've always been good with kids and animals (they just seem naturally drawn to me somehow), but I don't have any kids and am not willing to date someone who does (I want children of my own some day, I would not treat children from another father the same, and i'm not willing to put a kid through that).

I work for a software company. I haven't made many new, close friends locally since moving back to Rochester last year. I've had some good times. How many guys do you know that have judged the Cup in Amsterdam, been to Munich for Oktoberfest, or have climbed inside the Pyramid of Khafre? I'm passionate about music and go to concerts (probably too many).

"Why would I try, when you're not even remotely, remotely kind?" - San Cisco

"Fake conversations on a non-existent telephone
Like the words of a man who spent a little too much time alone
When one has spent too much time alone...
I don't want to spend too much time alone" - Andrew Bird

"Don't leave me lonely, don't leave me unhappy
Just bring me up into your fate
If you don't need me then don't deceive me
Letting my freedom turn into stone

Just be my angel if you love me
Be my angel in the night
Be my angel 'cause you need me
Be my angel and treat me right" - Mazzy Star

"Don't do anything by half. If you love someone, love them with all your soul. When you go to work, work your ass off. When you hate someone, hate them until it hurts." - Henry Rollins

The point of dating is to determine if that person is someone you want to spend the rest of your life with, right?

"Fell in love, out of love, still dreaming
I feel like I'm chasing the guy from Lucky Charms" - Moldy Peaches

"My dream girl don't exist
At the age of five she slit her wrist
She didn't know that I'd be hanging around
So her parents buried her in the ground
My dream girl don't exist
Took her photograph from a history book
I believe she had a voice and name
Three children on the coast of Maine
Her life was in a hurricane
Of love and real embrace" - Neutral Milk Hotel

"I want to be a hippy, but I forgot how to love" - Moldy Peaches

"I think I need a new heart
Cause I always say I love you
When I mean turn out the light" - Magnetic Fields
What I’m doing with my life
I recently resumed going to the gym a few times a week. I had tentative plans to see Greece and Turkey in 2012, but my car died on the way back from Bonnaroo instead (my vacation fund turned into a down payment instead). I'm horrible at being places on-time, but do what I say i'm going to do. I could care less what people think in most cases, but I find myself moved by songs. I believe in a strong work ethic.
um i've seen way too many movies..
I find myself watching alot of documentaries these days
one day I sat down and wrote out a long list of things I'd heard of, but didn't know much about or didn't know the context of the event and i've spent a good handful of nights reading online about those topics lately
I play guitar a bit (though fairly poorly) and i've been learning drums and bass a bit (mostly when screwing around with friends while drinking), I enjoy traveling and i've taken brief trips around the US, Central America, Europe, and Egypt
My non-productive nights tend to involve video games.

I'm usually stuck going to shows alone because I don't know anyone that listens to half of the stuff that i'm into - In 2012, I saw: The "Yardbirds", Voodoo Glow Skulls, Henry Rollins (Spoken Word), Jonny Corndawg, Disappears / Lotus Plaza, Clutch / Hellyeah, Kottonmouth Kings / Twiztid, Reverend Horton Heat, Cold War Kids / Kaskade, St. Vincent, Primus, Whose Line Anyway, Flogging Molly, Bonnaroo (Radiohead, Chili Peppers, Ben Folds Five, White Denim, SOJA, Rubblebucket, Bad Brains, Electric Guest, Sharon Jones & the Dap Kings, Avett Brothers, Foster the People, Puscifer, Danzig/Misfits, Dispatch, Alice Cooper, Skrillex, Gary Clark Jr., Grouplove, the Beach Boys, fun., Phish, etc), Big D & the Kid's Table / Goldfinger / Reel Big Fish, Mayer Hawthorn, Bonzai (Eve 6, Gaslight Anthem, Offspring, Our Lady Peace, etc), K-Rockathon (Public Enemy, Korn, Pod, Red Light Kings, Eve 6, Gaslight Anthem, Offspring, etc), Summerland (Marcy Playground, Gin Blossoms, Everclear, Lit, and Sugar Ray), Wilco, Toadies/Helmet, Mighty Mighty Bosstones, Agent Orange/Queers, Hed (pe), Dropkick Murphy's, Sleighbells, Ben Fold's Five, Marilyn Manson/Rob Zombie, Mike Watt, Primus, G Love & Special Sauce, Sleighbells, Cypress Hill, Mrs. Skanetto, State Radio, Reverend Horton Heat, and Ra Ra Riot.

2014 shows so far: KMFDM, Manchester Orchestra / Man Man, Dr Dog, Richie Ramone, Jimkata, I am the Avalanche, Reel Big fish, Less Than Jake, Hold Steady and Deer Tick (Ithaca, Rochester, AND Buffalo :) ), Whigs, Local H, Deerhoof, the Aqua Bats, Manchester Orchestra, Death Cab For Cutie, Ringo Starr, Bonnaroo 2014 [Flaming Lips, White Denim, Cake, The Avett Brothers, Dr Dog, Wiz Khalifa, Vampire Weekend, Cage the Elephant, The Bouncing Souls, Slightly Stoopid, Arctic Monkeys, Skrillex, Fitz and The Tantrums, Mastodon, Neutral Milk Hotel, Nick Cave, Grouplove, Andrew Bird, Head and Heart, Meshuggah, Green Sky Blue Grass, Okkerville River, Thao and the Get Down Stay Down, Jack White, Elton John, etc], Guttermouth, Jello Biafra, Weezer, Primus / Ween, Sublime, Queens of the Stone Age, Megadeth, Ben Fold's, Gogol Bordello, (maybe) Vandals/Offspring/PennyWise/Bad Religion, (maybe) Coupe De' Villes, Presidents of the United States of America, (maybe) the Krockathon, (maybe) Edgefest, (maybe) Bonzai, (maybe) Powerman 5000/Hed PE, (maybe) Bob Weir & Ratdog, (maybe) Fitz & the Tantrums, (maybe) Scott Weiland & The Wildabouts, (maybe) Afghan Whigs, (maybe) Greensky Bluegrass, (maybe) Foster the People, (maybe) Rubblebucket, Tom Petty or Lorde?,(maybe) Black Keys, (maybe) Biz Markie, Pinback, Mad Caddies, and (maybe) Hot Tuna / Donna the Buffalo.

I work at a software company. My dream job is probably video game development, but these days I pay the bills writing regression tests.

I like to take in a variety of foods like Indian, Chinese, Italian, Mexican, Thai, etc. I've been meaning to try Sri Lankan, Pakistani, and Korean eventually.
I’m really good at
This totally does not go with the topic of this section, but I don't care.
Henry Rollins:
"I want a woman who can sit me down, shut me up, tell me 10 things I don't already know, and make me laugh. I don't care what you look like, just turn me on. If you can do that, I will follow you on bloody stumps through the snow. I will nibble your mukluks with my own teeth. I will do your windows. I will care about your feelings. Just have something in there."
The first things people usually notice about me
"I don't know what to say...
I could say I want you,
That would be a bore
Maybe in a font you
Haven't seen before?
I could say I'll haunt you
Till your dying day
I could tease and taunt you,
But what would I say?
See, I don't know what to say...
I could say I crave you
Still, you little brat
I could rant and rave, you
Know I can do that
I could say I gave you
Everything I have
I could say I'll save you
You might think me mad
So I don't know what to say...
I could try and lead you
Down the garden path
I could say I'll feed you
You can do the math
I could say I need you
Offer you a ring
I'll be guaranteed you
Don't believe a thing...
I could try and shove you
Off the nearest cliff
I could say I lo..." - The Magnetic Fields

"Do you ever walk alone?
Like a drifter in the dark
Seeking out what isn't there
Looking only for a spark

From a girl who's all alone
Maybe she's a-driftin' too
Like a shadow in the night
Waitin' just to meet with you

And then perhaps in love you'll stay
Or fall and go your separate ways
Still searchin' for a spark
Like a drifter in the dark" - Ween

"Not everyone who is lost is
Wondering why
Sometimes a lonely way
Taking your name down from the Jumbotron
Find a new place to stay
And a new home for the trumpeter swan" - They Might Be Giants

"I'm so happy, when you're here
And I'm not a happy girl
So like a miracle occurs
I'm happy when you're near
And all my angels appear
And the demons leave my ear
And I want to clean the kitchen
We're two peas from the same pod
Bowing down to the same God
We're not sure exists

We both walk with heavy souls
With bullet holes
And a backpack full of bad affairs and fears
I'm happy when you're here, kinda
I'm so happy when you're here
We both laugh at the same cruel jokes
We both still drink and smoke
Well I'm happy when you're here, kinda" - Jill Sobule

"I can bleed as well as anyone,
But I need someone to help me sleep" - Counting Crows

"I'm in love with rock and roll, but that will change eventually" - Local h
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
(a) the elegant universe by brian greene, ethan frome by wharton, cyrano de bergerac by rostand, forbidden knowledge by roger shattuck, ender's game by orson scott card, various dream intrepretation books, always liked Dean Koontz books, usually buy one for the plane when traveling, etc
(b) falling down, half baked, bringing out the dead, punch drunk love, 10 things i hate about you, fear and loathing in los vegas, donnie darko, mothman prophicies, 7 television commercials, breakfast at tiffany's, brainscan, starship troopers, evil dead trilogy, high fidelity, vanilla sky, fight club, eternal sunshine of the spotless mind, etc
(c) Radiohead, Eels, Tori Amos, The Magnetic Fields, The Only Children, Blake Babies, Juliana Hatfield, Some Girls, Corporate Avenger Tool, bad religion, Big D and the Kid's Table, Grizzley Bear, muse, Sublime, Smut Peddlers, Odetta, Count Basie, Little Walter, John Lee Hooker, Mother Superior, Otis Rush, The Format, Travis, Black Kids, Cold War Kids, Suicide Machines, Cardigans, Butthole Surfers, Toadies, Dr Dog, Local H, Folk Implosion, New Pornographers, Blonde Red Head, Rollins Band, smashing pumpkins, G Love & Special Sauce, Pain, Gogol Bordello, GutterMouth, Her Space Holiday, the Hold Steady, Hum, Jill Sobule, Magic Numbers, Ani Difranco, Oysterhead, Devotchka, God Lives Underwater, Joan Osborn, Mad Caddies, Massive Attack, Mazzy Star, Neutral Milk Hotel, Okkervil River, Pete Droge, Pietasters, Postelles, Rentals, Reverend Horton Heat, Saul Williams, Scott Weiland, Chris Cornell, They Might Be Giants, The Unicorns, Whigs, Ween, Zombina and the Skeletones, flogging molly, drop kick murphy's, andrew bird, bobby darin, everly brothers, counting crows, pantera, I am the avalanche, cat stevens, les claypool, primus, CIV, clash, rugburns, morphine, BML (Rochester band), cake, ben fold's 5, black sabbath, bob and ziggy marley, blind melon, four non blondes, nirvana, meat puppets, mother love bone, temple of the dog, pearl jam, sound garden, big bad voodoo daddy, apples in stereo, the aquabats, veruca salt, al green, alanis morissette (1st cd only), aerosmith, 6th's, future bible hero's, dead kennedy's, sleeper, everything but the girl, everclear, everlast, flamming lips, fiona apple, filter, deam martin, frank sinatra (love the sad songs, not so big on the happy ones), fuel, frank zappa, gg allin, goldfinger, ICP, janis joplin, jewel (1st cd only), johnny cash, johnny tillotson, Zager & Evans, korn (early stuff only), staind (1st cd only), K's choice, lea anderone, less thank jake, therapy, scars on broadway, nada surf, weezer (the albums before their music changed when Rivers went to Harvard), kotton mouth kings, our lady peace, letters to cleo, beck, refreshments, White Denim, Asian Teacher Factory, etc
(d) chinese, italian, indian, thai, mexican, sea food, steak, been meaning to try korean one of these days..
I spend a lot of time thinking about
physics, religion, music, movies, work related topics, psychology, linguistics, how old is the Earth? do multinational leagues have the right to maintain existing borders? is human life sacred? are the bible/torah and qur'an based on the epic of gilgamesh? by what basis do some groups consider electricity spiritual enslavement? should a social reform be carried out even if it is expected to do more harm to the majority than the previous condition did to the minority (and what should happen if this was discovered only after the reform had been imlemented)? can the grand unified theory be experimentally proven? why do most organized religions consider women as second class citizens? did the indigenous peoples have the right idea forbidding property ownership? should the popular vote be used for elections instead of electoral colleges? how old are the stories from the illiad and oddesy really? do those with more have a responsibility to give to those with less and stop human rights violations? why are humans the only species that are not prevented from breeding after genetic deformities are evident? has the arc of noah been found? should voluntary euthanasia be legalized? have we reached the point where survival of the fitest is no longer keeping morons in check? what's the most important aspect of a song to you? are we really any more advanced than our ancestors from antiquity or do we just have more things that a few smart people made for us? of the things you use on a daily basis, how much do you understand about HOW they work? if I sent you out into the woods with a hatchet, how long until you could make something to send me an e-mail? (Thanks Joe Rogan) besides blasphemy, where did curses originate? if there is a being with omniscience, would it be total or inherent? does omniscience preclude freedom of choice? how similar is the bacteria inside of our bodies and the people on the earth? is simultaneous reality just a figment of the imagination? where are the missing natural predators.. why don't they release hungry tigers and knife wielding chimps at nascar events? would a society that shed no tears be inconceivably mediocre? (Thanks Yonlu)
On a typical Friday night I am
playing games, hanging out at a friend's, or at a concert, hockey game, or comedy club
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
i've never had much interest in getting a cell phone
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 21–36
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
um you've actually read this whole thing and still want to?
I've got a reasonably good Software development position, but I did a whole bunch of traveling on credit cards in my 20's figuring I was going to do what I wanted to do and I'd figure out how to pay for it later, and well I guess it's later. I work a lot. I don't get to see friends all that often anymore. I have a couple good friends back in my home town that I visit once a month or so, but they've each lost their licenses due to DWI's (and it's about a 2 hour drive). I had to move away from that place. Everyone I know still there, is stuck there due to things that I want nothing to do with. I went to school in Rochester and there's a lot more to do here than that small town, so I moved back here last year. I probably go to too many concerts. I had been driving from that town to here/Buffalo/Syracuse for concerts like once a week between work shifts and one of these days I was going to fall asleep driving home. I don't dance. I will occasionally sway or bob my head or something when the feeling's right, but I don't think that counts? I guess technically I have to admit that the book from Green Day's 1,039/Smoothed Out Slappy Hours or Kerplunk? (and seeing it done at shows) taught me what to do to skank... you run in place, bob your head, kick your feet back, and swing your elbows out, but otherwise I haven't the faintest clue about "dancing". (I do occasionally mosh, but am more likely to be standing at the edge of a pit blocking moshers from slamming into some random chick standing on the other side of me, while trying to not spill my beer.) I keep to myself mostly. I'm usually alone so i'm used to having to take care of myself. I can hold a conversation. I've got tons of useless facts rolling around and I can describe experiences from visiting Tikal, the Great Pyramids, the Cannabis Cup, etc but I think a better discussion would be to start planning our next adventure.