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  • Ages 35–50
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My details

Last online
Jan 13
5′ 11″ (1.80m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Not at all
Agnosticism, and very serious about it
Gemini, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from university
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Likes dogs and has cats
My self-summary
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I have a dark/dry sense of humor but I always do my utmost to look at the good side of things. I focus on what's possible, not what's impossible. I've surprised and amazed many people by doing a lot of cool things by living this way. I love a challenge.

I live in the solution.

I just moved here from L.A. I was in Denver before that. And L.A. before that. And Chicago before that. And Denver before that. And Oklahoma before that.

I can spend all day learning a song on my guitar, interrupted by cooking and other breaks with my lover. That's a great day.

Nobody was put on earth to make me happy. I'm responsible for my own happiness. But, it would be nice to share my life with someone. There is great power in 2.

I believe that how I do anything, is how I do everything. I strive for my best effort in everything.

I'm not into sports in the least. I just don't get it. I do swim for exercise. And surf.

I have two cats.

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People watching is extremely entertaining.

Grew up in a small town in Oklahoma. My okie accent comes out sometimes. I have an okie sense of generosity and dry cowboy humor/zen outlook.

I was interviewed by The Onion for an original improvised theater show I did in Denver. That was grand.

I have 4 tattoos. One on my inner forearm.

I read a lot. I don't have a tv but I do binge watch shows online.

I like cabins and camping. Campfires are therapeutic.

I'm direct, honest, and say what I mean. I do what I say I will do. I am not a flake and have no room in my life for flakes. I avoid passive-aggressive people and crazy-makers at all costs.

I perform improv (improvisational comedy) I've been doing improv since '97, went to Chicago to train and perform at all the big places there, Second City, Improv Olympic, Annoyance. Improv is important to me. I'm very passionate about it. I coach a high school improv team.

I don't drink alcohol, but I don't have a problem being around it, in moderation.
What I’m doing with my life
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The next right thing.
Figuring out this novel.
Figuring out this short story.
Figuring out this Costa Rica surf camp trip.
Remembering my breath.
Surfing. Long board. Still a beginner.
Drinking large amounts of coffee and espresso.
Making some kind of art.
Rockin' and Rollin' and whatnot.
Taking care of business.
Playing guitar.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Improv. Art. Writing. Making people laugh and feel comfortable. Shutting up and listening. Encouraging. Bringing out the best in people. Looking at what can be done instead of what can't. Getting big things done by taking care of the small things. Keeping my side of the street clean. Parallel parking. Like, I'd be the best parallel parker you'd know. People on the sidewalk stop and clap at my parallel parking. Seriously.
The first things people usually notice about me
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That I have the new mullet; a shaved head and goatee.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Book: Mostly fiction. A Confederacy of Dunces is my all time favorite, She's Come Undone, Cormac McCarthy is a god, Flannery O'Connor is a goddess, Bukowski, Haruki Murakami, Nietzsche is pietzsche, The Cat Inside by William Burroughs is one I pick up a lot, Vonnegut, Tom Robbins, Augusten Burroughs, David Sedaris, The Best American Short Stories series, I read lots of short stories, Tao Te Ching, Hagakure: The Way of the Samurai, Chuck Pahlaniuk (though I'm disappointed that none of his books are as good as Haunted or Fight Club), The Art of War, Camus. I have lots of zen, Buddhist and improv books I love and look at all the time. Thich Nhat Hanh, Pema Chodron, Don Miguel Ruiz (His Mastery of Love is a great read for anyone seeking a partner) Cheri Huber, Zen Mind Beginner's Mind is a standard go to and I always try to have two copies so I can give one away if someone digs it. Jaycee Duggard's A Stolen Life was the most moving autobiography I've ever read and a testament of the resiliency of the human soul.

TV: At a friend's place.

Movie: Her. Birdman. Anything with Javier Bardem. Stepbrothers, Wet Hot American Summer, documentaries, Run Lola Run, Coen brothers, P.T. Anderson, Wes Anderson, Kubrick, Tarantino, the original Red Dawn, Apocalypse Now (Same writer as Red Dawn. How bout that?), Grease, the Found Footage series​, Key and Peele, SNL. Strangers With Candy, Southpark, Sling Blade, Christopher Guest (Waiting for Guffman, Best in Show and the rest of his improvised within an outline movies), indie movies, anything with Will Ferrel.

Music: Nirvana, The Breeders, Pixies, We Were Promised Jetpacks (current fave of bands still together), eels, Radiohead, classic rock, I love acoustic versions, I love covers done well, The Flaming Lips (2007 and before) Iggy Pop, Ramones, Yeah Yeah Yeahs, Pearl Jam (earlier the better), Foo Fighters (earlier the better), The Sea and Cake (big fan), Archers of Loaf, old REM, Wilco, Toad The Wet Sprocket, 80's Cure, obscure 90's indie girl bands, Weezer (earlier the better, anytime I don't feel cool, I think about how I dated the Susanne that Weezer wrote the song Susanne about), Yo La Tengo, Mclusky, Pickin' On series, The Shins, earlier Smashing Pumpkins, 90's alternative. I'm not gonna lie, I like a Pink song now and then. Hate country and Old Time Rock and Roll by Bob Seeger is the worst song ever. I had to play some country in a band in college. But it was a traveling band and it was fun. We had glossy 8 x 10's we would autograph.

Food: I pretty much consist on (low sodium) V8, bananas, walnuts, raisins, craisins, almonds, dried blueberries, apples, yogurt, carrots, but I love steak. Mexican is my favorite and I'm loving San Diego's choices for that. El Zarape is right by me and I've gotten to know know it well! I've been trying gluten-free the past year and I like how it makes me more energetic.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
A cat
Books in baths
Good orderly direction
Good friends talking about good stuff
Cans of flavored soda water
Ocean (Church of the Open Sky)
Coffee and espresso
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
I think about a lot of things and then throw them up on stage doing improv.
How lately I've been having some really great conversations with elderly people where I laugh a lot.
How we're all neurotic hairless apes who can talk and make stuff.
How to quiet my monkey mind.
Becoming an old crazy cat man.
How to play well with others.
Which beach to go to next.
Getting a motorcycle.
Wondering if that person is crazy or just wants attention, or both.
What that dream meant.
Changing my thoughts to change my world.
What did I eat?
What I'm grateful for.
I've GOT to plan my Costa Rica surf camp trip.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Relaxing. Reading. Watching an improv show and being in it as well.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I grew up a hardcore Christian, went to a Christian university, by choice, which had an 11:15 weeknight curfew and midnight curfew on weekends. I'm not a Christian anymore.
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