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5' 11" (1.80m)
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Doesn’t have kids
Has cats
My self-summary
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I have a dark/dry sense of humor but I always do my utmost to look at the good side of things. I focus on what's possible, not what's impossible. I love a challenge. I don't like to complain.

I'm weird, unconventional, introspective, loyal and I am quite content with myself and my life.

I've done long-form improvisation (not "Whose Line is it Anyway?" style and not stand up comedy) since '97. I'm passionate about it and do it as much as I can.

I work evenings (3pm-11:30pm) in healthcare. Healthcare is very rewarding. Being of service. Making sick and hurt people feel comfortable.

I'm not into sports in the least. I just don't get it. I do swim for exercise. And surf.

I have two cats.

People watching is extremely entertaining.

Grew up in a small town in Oklahoma. My okie accent comes out sometimes. I have an okie sense of generosity and dry cowboy/zen outlook.

I was interviewed by The Onion for an original improvised theater show I did in Denver. That was grand.

I have 4 tattoos. Two on my forearm.

I read a lot. I don't have a tv but I do binge watch shows online.

I like cabins and camping. Campfires are therapeutic.

I'm direct, honest, and say what I mean. I do what I say I will do. I am not a flake and have no room in my life for flakes. I avoid passive-aggressive people and crazy-makers at all costs.

I don't drink alcohol, but I don't have a problem being around it, in moderation.
What I’m doing with my life
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The next right thing.
Figuring out this novel.
Figuring out this short story.
Figuring out this Costa Rica surf camp trip.
Remembering my breath.
Surfing. Long board. Still a beginner.
Drinking large amounts of coffee and espresso.
Making some kind of art.
Rockin' and Rollin' and whatnot.
Taking care of business.
Playing guitar.
I’m really good at
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Improv. Art. Writing. Making people laugh and feel comfortable. Shutting up and listening. Encouraging. Bringing out the best in people. Looking at what can be done instead of what can't. Getting big things done by taking care of the small things. Keeping my side of the street clean. Parallel parking. Like, I'd be the best parallel parker you'd know. People on the sidewalk stop and clap at my parallel parking. Seriously.
The first things people usually notice about me
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That I have the new mullet; a shaved head and goatee.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Book: Mostly fiction. A Confederacy of Dunces is my all time favorite, She's Come Undone, Cormac McCarthy is a god, Flannery O'Connor is a goddess, Bukowski, Haruki Murakami, Nietzsche is pietzsche, The Cat Inside by William Burroughs is one I pick up a lot, Vonnegut, Tom Robbins, Augusten Burroughs, David Sedaris, The Best American Short Stories series, I read lots of short stories, Tao Te Ching, Hagakure: The Way of the Samurai, Chuck Pahlaniuk (though I'm disappointed that none of his books are as good as Haunted or Fight Club), The Art of War, Camus. I have lots of zen, Buddhist and improv books I love and look at all the time. Thich Nhat Hanh, Pema Chodron, Don Miguel Ruiz (His Mastery of Love is a great read for anyone seeking a partner) Cheri Huber, Zen Mind Beginner's Mind is a standard go to and I always try to have two copies so I can give one away if someone digs it. Jaycee Duggard's A Stolen Life was the most moving autobiography I've ever read and a testament of the resiliency of the human soul.

TV: Breaking Bad is the best show ever made. Dexter, but the ending was lame. LOST, but the ending was very lame, Portlandia, SNL, currently watching Vikings, Game of Thrones, Key and Peele, Strangers with Candy

Movie: Her. Birdman. Anything with Javier Bardem. Stepbrothers, Wet Hot American Summer, documentaries, Run Lola Run, Coen brothers, P.T. Anderson, Wes Anderson, Kubrick, Tarantino, the original Red Dawn, Apocalypse Now (Same writer as Red Dawn. How bout that?), Grease, the Found Footage series​, Sling Blade, Christopher Guest (Waiting for Guffman, Best in Show and the rest of his improvised within an outline movies), indie movies, anything with Will Ferrel.

Music: Nirvana, The Breeders, Pixies, We Were Promised Jetpacks (current fave of bands still together), Spoon, Oasis, Elliott Smith, Beastie Boys, The Decemberists, Hozier, The Killers, Nick Drake, eels, Radiohead, classic rock, I love acoustic versions, I love covers done well, The Flaming Lips (2007 and before) The Tragically Hip, Iggy Pop, Ramones, Beck, Yeah Yeah Yeahs, Pearl Jam (earlier the better), Foo Fighters (earlier the better), The Sea and Cake (big fan), Archers of Loaf, old REM, Wilco, Toad The Wet Sprocket, Bowie, 80's Cure, 80's rap, obscure 90's indie girl bands, Weezer (earlier the better, anytime I don't feel cool, I think about how I dated the Susanne that Weezer wrote the song Susanne about), Yo La Tengo, Mclusky, Pickin' On series, The Shins, earlier Smashing Pumpkins, 90's alternative. I'm not gonna lie, I like a Pink song now and then. Hate country and Old Time Rock and Roll by Bob Seeger is the worst song ever. I had to play some country in a band in college. But it was a traveling band and it was fun. We had glossy 8 x 10's we would autograph.

Food: Mexican and pot roast are my staples. Trader Joes nuts and raisins. Ice cream is my weakness and when I eat it, I'm very serious about eating it.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
A cat
Books in baths
Good orderly direction
Good friends talking about good stuff
Cans of flavored soda water
Ocean (Church of the Open Sky)
Coffee and espresso
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
I think about a lot of things and then throw them up on stage doing improv.
How lately I've been having some really great conversations with elderly people where I laugh a lot.
How we're all neurotic hairless apes who can talk and make stuff.
How to quiet my monkey mind.
Becoming an old crazy cat man.
How to play well with others.
Which beach to go to next.
Getting a motorcycle.
Wondering if that person is crazy or just wants attention, or both.
What that dream meant.
Changing my thoughts to change my world.
What did I eat?
What I'm grateful for.
I've GOT to plan my Costa Rica surf camp trip.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Relaxing. Reading. Watching an improv show and being in it as well.
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