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thisisheaven

60 Boulder, CO Man

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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 36–59
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My details

Last online
Today – 6:44pm
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 5″ (1.65m)
Body type
Athletic
Diet
Anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Rarely
Drugs
Never
Religion
Agnosticism, and very serious about it
Sign
Education
Graduated from Ph.D program
Job
Banking / Finance
Income
Rather not say
Status
Single
Type
Offspring
Has a kid, and might want more
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Security is mostly a superstition. It does not exist in nature, nor do the children of men as a whole experience it. Avoiding danger is no safer in the long run than outright exposure.... Life is either a daring adventure, or it is nothing.
-- Helen Keller

Do you sometimes get the feeling that there is something inside of you, something buried, something special, that you have no way of expressing or getting out? And you know that if you could express that deeper you, that greater freedom, then you could be more than what appears on the surface, the outside view. You can see it, almost, but it stays in its place because of a pragmatism - an over riding need for security and approval - that we all fall into at some point. Almost all of us. If you know what I mean; then read on.

Hamlet:
There are more things in heaven and earth, Horatio,
Than are dreamt of in your philosophy.


Do you want an adventure? Or are you the kind of person who uses that word lightly? Do you live in a well defined comfortable box, or can you break out of society's confines? Do you do things; or is adventure to you watching other people do things?

I am very independent and I have been living in a Colorado ski resort for the last 11 years. I ski, hike, mountain bike and I have been working on an algorithmic trading system. When my dog died I carried her on my back and buried her in the mountains at 11,000 feet. Her grave is the only grave I have ever visited. I worked on wall street for about 20 years as a derivatives quant and risk guy but it wasn't challenging anymore. I need to constantly be challenged intellectually and physically, but not by trying to get along with dishonest or bureaucratic people. One can make lots of money by looking the other way or not making waves. You don't have to be smart to do that. And it is easy. But it is a waste of life.

Life is brief and I find trying to fit into one of society's boxes claustrophobic and a waste of precious time. I think society is evolving my way but too slowly. I know that this is a turn off to most people who feel comfort in conformity and the perception of security that it brings; even if they are loath to admit that out loud to themselves. I have had and continue to have an exceptionally happy, joyful and fulfilling life because I see the weakness in society's norms. If you could only see from higher up, you would perceive the comfortable safety rail you hold on to as one of the bars of a cage provided at great cost to you by a generous society.

If you are still reading then I have filtered out most of the people who are looking for the conservative, the mundane, the make believe secure. Congratulations. Hopefully someone is left. But one thing I know for certain is that if you are not reading on then you should not be with me.

There is one more filter i need to state clearly. I am simplifying but there are two kinds of people who do not fit in to society's boxes. If you could measure humans in some way for characteristics like independence, intelligence, thinking out of the box, strength of character, inner security, kindness and caring, empathetic, etc., and arrange these measurements into a histogram; then the measurements would form a bell-shaped normal curve. Most people would cluster in the middle. There are two tails of the remaining distribution. There are people who are in the left tail; those who do not fit in because they have problems and are not happy with life. Then there are people in the right tail who capture the characteristics I am looking for. If you are in the left tail, please assume that we will not match. If you are in the right tail, please give it a shot - no matter what your age or background because you are a diamond in a field of coal. (By the way I do know it is more complicated than that but you get the idea)

I am working on several projects which I will be happy to discuss if we meet. I have to create or I'd go nuts and that is more important to me than stability. I don't like manipulative or dishonest people. I don't like bureaucrats. I think they just live off of other people by manipulating rules. Conformity is a weakness to me that I don't have. I don't do well with people who see things in very simplistic ways; the kind of person who makes a statement of belief without even thinking through implications. I like intelligent, confident, passionate, adventurous, caring, empathetic, decent people. Not too easy to find. Perhaps not possible. Know that being with me is a ride that you have to be willing to take. If you are looking for the white picket fence; I burned mine a long time ago.

I haven't been with anyone for a long time. People tell me I'm too picky. But I want a woman I am attracted to, who is intelligent and has it together. Any one of those three characteristics is hard to find. I don't want to compromise on those basics because I know you pay for those compromises in the end.

And it is not so easy to find those three things. It is if you are an average person because most people are like you. And I am not putting down being average or near average, hell, society is designed for you. But suppose you are not average. Take this with a bit of humor but figure you are attracted to one in ten people. That I would say is very optimistic. Don’t you think? Now let’s say for somebody who is looking for intelligence and whatever they mean by that, it is maybe one in twenty people. Now when I say I want someone who has it together, I mean I just don’t want to be with someone who has serious problems. That also may be relative but we can probably all agree on the extremes. Anyway, say one in twenty. Now of course, I am a mathematician and this could only be fun for someone like me but it means that even with these somewhat optimistic estimates, you’d have to meet 10 * 20 * 20 = 4,000 people. So you can only be with one in 4,000 people. And then you might meet that 1 in 4,000 person and they also are looking for that 1 in 4,000 and you are not it. I think more reasonable estimates are 20 * 20 * 100 = 40,000. So if we meet each other and we like each other; it’s a big deal. That is why most non-average people end up compromising lots - more than they are likely to admit. If we like each other, have dynamite all-afternoon sex, and we don’t have to compromise all that much; we are very lucky. And although I am looking for something that fits all this and a connection, if you have nice legs; nice legs can go a long way.
What I’m doing with my life
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At the moment working on several projects of my own choosing, living in Colorado, ski season is now over and so I have more time to devote to my projects. I am in Boulder now until June staying with my 23 year old son and getting into rock climbing with him. I am working on a proprietary model which consists of mathematics and programming in Matlab. I am working on two papers I would like to turn into books. I spend a lot of time on my computer. I am enjoying life.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I'm a mathematician and I am better than most at applied math. My intuition is very strong. I know how to look at a real world problem and really feel it and then turn it into mathematics. But that is just the first step because then it has to be programmed and tested and I do the whole thing. Most of my work background is in financial mathematics. I also have managed and developed technical people and people who have ended up as traders. I can also write well and have written a novel. I started with business writing but then evolved to fiction, etc. I also ski all the steepest stuff and I love big moguls. I also mountain bike and hike. I have also dirt biked (a motorcycle that rides on dirt, rocks, boulders. I eventually drove it off a cliff and jumped off the back just in time).
The first things people usually notice about me
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I think enthusiasm and energy would be the first things. But it depends on the person and the circumstances. I can relate to most people but not all people. I have grown a full beard recently and so I am certain people would notice that. In the mountain town I live in I found people react in a much more friendly way now that I have the beard. Most people react differently to perception of the physical. That is interesting because you can actually live alternative lives just by looking different. And that allows you to look out at reality through more than one window.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I don't watch TV anymore but there is so much good stuff available online that you don't need TV. I like science fiction stuff especially involving time travel and interesting concepts that derive from time travel. . I like the movie Total Recall because it plays with nested concepts. I like Memento and Inception for the same reasons. One of my favorite books is Einstein's moon. It is about Bell's theorem and it's application to one of the deeper issues in the interpretation of quantum mechanics. Unfortunately, although it is very clear and easy to follow for most of it, it gets very fuzzy and skips when it comes to the crucial points which makes you wonder about the validity of the argument or it's understandibility even to those who claim to understand.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
In no particular order:
Freedom
Independence
My Brain
Enthusiasm
My Son
My Body
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
“Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.” Winston Churchill

Philosophy, life, deeper meaning. What reality really is. Once upon a time humans thought Earth was the center of the universe and then they found that they were circling the sun, not it circling them. Then they found that the sun was just one of many stars in the Milky Way galaxy. Then they found that the Milky Way was just one of billions of galaxies. Then they found that Earth was just one of countless planets, some very similar to Earth, orbiting other stars. Humans do not seem to be the center of anything. Continuing this logical process, perhaps reality is just one of many realities and not central to anything at all. Each one contained in another, like Russian matryoshka dolls,,,,

...Solving problems. Caring about human suffering and worrying about the future of the human race.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
working on my computer or working out in the gym.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Sometimes when I think about things or I see something that makes me feel bad for people, I will have tears in my eyes but I never let anyone see. I did not do enough of the right things. I could have been more active in civil rights. I could have been more anti-war in an active way. I could have done lots of things but never seemed to find the time and the time goes by. I care about these things and life gets busy and it is easier to live and just enjoy it and most of us do. I also am sorry I didn't have six kids. I love my son and just didn't start early enough to have more. If I found a woman of child-bearing age, I'd be game to have another family. Having a bunch of kids and dogs and raising them in a log cabin with a wood burning fireplace and a waterfall outside would be really cool and cozy.
You should message me if
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You like intellectual conversation, ideas and you want a buddy who you can get close to and enjoy. Or if you want a lover. For either a friendship or a lover, you want a risk taker (in every area of life) who loves the outdoors and especially skiing (you do not have to ski) , and you like adventure both intellectual and physical. And you like sex. Of course, if we are just going to be friends, which is fine as long as it is interesting, the sex part is not a requirement. I enjoy and appreciate differences in people; that is what makes us people. I do not put people in boxes or think of them as easily classified or defined. I like diversity in all things. Diversity in one individual makes for an interesting multi-faceted person. So you do not have to be in agreement with everything about me. We can be polar opposites. I am interested in people who know who they are and they like being themselves, have self-confidence, and are not threatened by someone who is different or who is not in agreement with everything they can think of. If you are a racist or a bigot in any form, do not bother writing to me. If you have a strong need for a group identity, do not write to me. I am looking for the strong independent woman who wants to be with a man who can think. If you like intellectual debate without infringing emotion then I am interested in you. If you like to argue for the sake of argument, I am not.

We forfeit three-fourths of ourselves in order to be like other people.
Arthur Schopenhauer