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thomasinbk

40 / M / Gay / Single

Brooklyn, New York

His Details

Last Online
Today – 3:17pm
Ethnicity
White
Height
6′ 2″ (1.88m).
Body Type
Average
Diet
Anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Not at all
Drugs
Religion
Atheism
Sign
Sagittarius but it doesn’t matter
Education
Graduated from college/university
Job
Other
Income
Rather not say
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Pets
Likes dogs and dislikes cats
Speaks
English

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My self-summary
(INFP) I'm sensitive, clever and creative. My humor can trend dark, yet I'm an optimist and idealist at heart. Also politics- and news-obsessed; I like to remain informed and am naturally curious. I can be shy and unsure of myself as easily as I can be outgoing. I've been a digital director for a sports org, written movie reviews, freelanced for nonprofits, worked for an indie film studio and various dot coms, and had magazines as clients. I take pleasure in having experienced a number of industries and work environments and am now figuring out what's next... (Currently working for a bank.)

C'est moi: My flight attendant Madre first met Padre on a plane. Born in 'Bama. Got beat up at recess. Running was (once, and will hopefully become again) joyful after an asthmatic childhood. Grew up with MD Dad describing gruesome surgical procedures at the dinner table. Baptism by dunking. Visited relatives in the Deep South. Teen years = dark, dark, dark. Christian prep school. Coming out (in a pink house, no less) was messy. Waited tables with drag queens and diesel dykes. Interned wide-eyed next to half-naked swimmers at the Atlanta Olympics. Greenwich Village, home for 1/2 a decade. Dot com employment = eventual unemployment. Greeted the new Millennium at the Pyramids. The rare homo who's self-conscious dancing. 9/11 and the Atlanta park bombing tore me apart. Camping Peru's Inca Trail to Machu Picchu healed me. Daily journals for a dozen years. A lovely family sprinkled along the East coast. I've had the privilege to enjoy wonderful friendships, too many of which have come and gone or scattered to the four winds. I look young for my age. After 5 years in LA, I moved to Brooklyn in '08 and resurfaced from a (tidal) wave of life changes in the second half of '12, topped off by Sandy and the election! The year was one for the books... And perhaps you'll add to the storyline.

Postscript (4/2/13): My life has continued to change at a frenetic pace since the end of '12 -- in fact, I'm experiencing a renaissance of sorts: practicing meditation, learning to cook and journaling again (so therapeutic); I quit drinking for now and am eating healthier: down 23 pounds in 3+ months! (40+ lbs. since LA.) Exercising daily, for the first time in years. Next on the agenda: rethinking my professional goals, resuming running & yoga, and volunteering for the Trevor Project (which I always wanted to do). This is honestly among the happiest and most exciting times of my life.
What I’m doing with my life
[Under Construction]
I’m really good at
Political shop talk, spelling, editing, making (some) people laugh, entertaining emails, movie factoids, dinner table banter, running meetings (chop chop!), public speaking. And I'm great with parents. :)
The first things people usually notice about me
Smile. Height. Sense of humor. That I don't look 40. My sweetness. :)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Quality film. Reading. (From my "library.") Editing. Political discourse. Hiking. (Seeking a gay Meetup group for this.) Exploratory walks through the city. Weekend treks. Travels abroad. Laughing with family. Catching up with old friends. Journaling. HBO. Netflix streaming. 80's tunes. Love all food, noteworthy restaurants, the theater, museums. Newly into cooking!
The six things I could never do without
A sense of humor
An open mind
Family
My journal
Books
Murray's pomade
Bonus 7th: Hummus
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Politics & current events. Fam. Continually improving the quality of my life. Injustice. Getting healthier. Self-actualization. Leaving the country. Boys. And, lately, cooking.
On a typical Friday night I am
Dinner with friends or Netflixin'.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm as insecure as the next guy (and this site doesn't help with insecurities); I've had one long-term relationship, for two years, and it ended 7 months ago; and I don't enjoy profiles centering on how perfect one's life is -- why are you on this site then? I want to know as much about your challenges as your successes.
I’m looking for
  • Guys who like guys
  • Ages 20–45
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, activity partners, casual sex
You should message me if
I'd ultimately love to meet someone sweet and emotionally mature; with a good sense of humor; who loves their family; has experienced an interesting life and is learning from it; and who can think for -- and laugh at! -- themselves. Someone who likes to read too would be nice.

If we find each other interesting, let's make a date -- emailing for weeks is silly. I value honesty and straight-forwardness; games are for little ones. If you're complicated, sensitive, flawed: welcome to the club! If you live only for your job, then buh-bye -- no one regrets on their death bed not spending more time at the office. And lastly, be sweet, polite and know how to spell!