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46 Boston, MA Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 35–50
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

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Last Online
Today – 5:05pm
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Agnosticism, and laughing about it
Taurus, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from Ph.D program
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Has cats
English, Spanish (Okay), French (Okay)

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My self-summary
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Intelligent, quirky, interested and interesting, attracted to smart, unconventional women. Politically left, eclectic, dynamic, urban loving, adventurous, and fun. I have wide-ranging tastes for dense street life, good food, cosmopolitanism, the intellectual and artistic world, politics, etc. I like sarcasm, but I care. I think things are bleak, but I love life. I crave the absurd, but temperamentally I'm an optimist. Every personality threads a needle; my needle-eye is just mine.

I am a writer and professor but am equally at ease at a baseball game or the theater, love laughing, cooking, and music from Nina Simone and Sade to Janis Joplin and seventies arena rock. My interests and heroes are diverse and prevent me from being easily pigeon-holed.

I can be surprisingly sexy, very serious, incredibly silly, alarmingly sincere, disarmingly funny, and mostly I like the basics: family and friends, good food and music, a little adventure, and lots of mostly mellow times doing fun and interesting things. I am athletic, having been involved in various sports all my life - I have in my day biked, swam, played ultimate frisbee competitively, played tennis, and hiked/camped all over the West. I generally keep in good tone and shape. I don't do any of these things obsessively, but I enjoy being active, being in my body so to speak, and I am captivated by, and fascinated with, the human form in action. Physicality is important to me in life and in relationships.

I can be shy at first and open up in stages. I am flexible but in the ways that matter I am predictable, and you can really count on me. I may love a pair of shoes or take an idea too seriously, but in the end I appreciate and revel in the ultimate absurdity of life. I believe that things like a good omelette, wine, Sundays in the snow, a woman's eyes, and naps during the week are among the things that make life worth living.

I am drawn to free-thinking women who are strong, independent, and engaged in the world, but who are also unafraid to be vulnerable and to care openly and unapologetically about their partner. Most important to me: sense of humor, intelligence, earthiness, passion, adventurousness, curiosity, fitness, perspective, compassion, affection, independence. A best friend, a confidant, and passionate between the sheets.

You can make me laugh - and laugh with or at me depending on the situation. You can adore a pair of boots or a nice skirt but also realize the ultimate absurdity of life. You take things as they come but a little planning now and then doesn't frighten you. In the morning, you can read the New York Times and passionately disagree with something you read about or curl up next to me in bed and talk reverently about waffles.
What I’m doing with my life
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I’m really good at
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French toast
Killing house plants
Standing on my toes to make a point
Getting along with kids
Right turn on red
Making lemonade from lemons
The first things people usually notice about me
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I'm sincere but not naive; attentive but not obsequious; easily amused but not annoying; quietly erotic.

Also, I'm told my legs rock.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: Biographies, Barbara Ehrenreich, Susan Faludi, Robert Reich, Doctor Seuss, Pablo Neruda, Walt Whitman, Shakespeare dammit.

Movies: Two words--Cary Grant. Wait, also Barbara Stanwyck, Clive Owen, Robert Mitchum, George Clooney, Tilda Swinton, basically the entire cast of Michael Clayton, Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, old Woody Allen, and (though I hate to admit it) Bourne.

Music: Blues, jazz, seventies soul.

Food: Watcha got?
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Down comforter
Nice shoes
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Why so much dirt collects along the top of picture frames. Where the money will come from. How to make sure I'm just late enough but not too late. How it will all get done? Does this look okay? Is one more pair of pants too many? The deep stuff.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Movie, dinner with friends, working, hanging out in another city, chilling at home, many things. Hammering in the nails that have come up in the hardwood floor. Fixing a hole. Peppering the steak just right.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I don't like to stretch the collars of v-neck sweaters.
You should message me if
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Hell has frozen over, the little green men rule the earth, and I am the last human being, other than you, alive.

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