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thxash

40 / M / Straight / Single

Campbell, California

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Time to pop back into reality

Oct 2, 2010

I've realized over the past few months that this online thing just doesn't work for me.  I need to physically meet people to get a sense of who they are.  This whole email thing just isn't conducive enough to seeing if there is anything more there than looks and similar interests.

So, the time has come to quit looking in the online world, and meet real people in the real world, which I find a lot easier than online anyway.  Met a lot of great people on here, don't get me wrong, but it's just not realistic to find that one woman that can inspire me to be better on here.

I think that part of the problem, is that it's hard to keep up the motivation when meeting people online.  With meeting in reality, there is that immediate chemistry that tells you whether you are compatible as friends or not.  Online, there is no feeling of that until (if ever) you meet in person, and you can start up a great friendship online and meet in person only to discover that there is nothing there.

There is no way to really learn about somebody online.  Everything they say is most likely enhanced to attract others.  I'm guilty of it, when I first started my account here, but then I realized that the person I'm hoping to attract is somebody I want to know for long enough that they will get to know everything about me, so why bother exaggerating things, which always come back to bite you in the, well, you get the point.

So, I'll keep this account alive, but not paying as much attention to it.  I'll check my emails every once in a while, but my expectations for meeting the right girl on here are not high.

 

I've realized over the past few months that this online thingjust doesn't work for me.  I need to physically meet people toget a sense of who they are.  This whole email thing justisn't conducive enough to seeing if there is anything more therethan looks and similar interests.

So, the time has come to quit looking in the online world, andmeet real people in the real world, which I find a lot easier thanonline anyway.  Met a lot of great people on here, don't getme wrong, but it's just not realistic to find that one woman thatcan inspire me to be better on here.

I think that part of the problem, is that it's hard to keep upthe motivation when meeting people online.  With meeting inreality, there is that immediate chemistry that tells you whetheryou are compatible as friends or not.  Online, there is nofeeling of that until (if ever) you meet in person, and you canstart up a great friendship online and meet in person only todiscover that there is nothing there.

There is no way to really learn about somebody online. Everything they say is most likely enhanced to attractothers.  I'm guilty of it, when I first started my accounthere, but then I realized that the person I'm hoping to attract issomebody I want to know for long enough that they will get to knoweverything about me, so why bother exaggerating things, whichalways come back to bite you in the, well, you get the point.

So, I'll keep this account alive, but not paying as muchattention to it.  I'll check my emails every once in a while,but my expectations for meeting the right girl on here are nothigh.

 

Time to pop back into reality

Coolest use of Star Wars Action Figures

Oct 31, 2009

This has got to be the most interesting use of Stormtrooper action figures ever.  They must've had a LOT of time on their hands.

http://www.flickr.com/photos/st3f4n/sets/72157616350171741/

 

This has got to be the most interesting use of Stormtrooperaction figures ever.  They must've had a LOT of time on theirhands.

http://www.flickr.com/photos/st3f4n/sets/72157616350171741/

 

Coolest use of Star Wars Action Figures

How to Meet and Woo a Nerdy Girl

Aug 21, 2009

Found this posted on a blog somewhere, thought I'd share.

 

How to Meet and Woo a Nerdy Girl

Recently, I’ve noticed a lot of folks Googling “how do I meet a nerdy girl?” Hopefully, this is not the manifestation of some creepy new human trafficking trend but instead is the result of more people wanting to find and date the nerdy woman of their dreams. With that in mind, I offer the following tips:

Tip #1: Know where to look.

The number one thing to know about nerdy girls -- they're probably not going to be doing body shots at the local sports bar on a Friday night. If they're out partying, it's over a micro-brewed pale ale in the quiet corner of their local hole-in-the-wall watering hole. Other good places to spot nerdy women: libraries, bookstores, used bookstores, any other place with books you can think of, comic book stores, knitting stores, craft stores, sitting in the park...reading a book, the local cat fanciers convention, at a midnight showing of "Alien" or in their living rooms, watching "Firefly" again.

Tip #2: It helps to look like this guy (photo of David Tennent that shows when I'm editing, but not when viewing.):

On the other hand, it helps to look like this guy too (Pic of the PC guy from apple commercials I think, again, shows when I edit, but not when viewing):

  

You're pretty much good either way.

Tip #3: Read lots of books.

Here’s the brutal truth: the nerd girl of your dreams is a brainiac. She’s going to know a lot of stuff about a lot of stuff. You’re going to need to study up -- none of that sitting at the coffee shop with an unread copy of “The Waste Land” in your hand, trying to impress the shallow ladies. Your nerd girl will check to make sure that the spine on the book is cracked and cracked good. She likely also will ask you to compare “The Waste Land” to “The Love Song of J. Alfred Prufrock.” If you have to resort to Cliff's Notes, do it surreptitiously. It’s like getting a butt implant – the nerd girls will know you’re faking it.

Tip #4: Don’t slack off on your video game skills.

One of the prime perks of dating a nerdy woman is that she will not yell at you for playing video games rather than, say, going shoe shopping with her. In fact, she likely will sit down next to you and pick up a controller. Here’s the thing though: she’s probably good at whatever game you’re playing so you better be good at it too. Whether it’s Mario Kart or Tiger Woods Golf or the bloody carnage of Grand Theft Auto, she will show no mercy. Practice, practice, practice!

Tip #5: Listen to NPR.

Nerd girls like to stay up to date on their current events…and they like to do it with the dulcet, sometimes somnolent tones of NPR broadcasters. Beware, though, of the onset of NPR depression which stems from listening to so much news and sad stories about flooding in Nova Scotia or the inequities facing migrant workers that you become convinced the world is doomed and there’s no use leaving your house in the morning. This will put a damper on your dating. However, this prevalent disease also will give you an out if you've had to slack off on your NPR duties – just say, “I had to take an NPR break. Sometimes it makes me sad.” This serves two purposes: it gets you off the hook AND it makes you look sensitive. Bonus!

Tip #6: Be interesting.

Whereas a lot of ladies want you to be rich, nerdy women just want you to be interesting. Do you have a comic book collection that spans decades and rests in a vault somewhere untouched by human hands? That’s kinda cool. Are you learning how to do animation so you can one day post the adventures of a hobo cat online? That’s kinda cool too. Maybe you build houses for the poor on weekends or spend an afternoon teaching creative writing to high school kids? Awesome and more awesome. It doesn't matter what you do, just do it well.

Tip #7: Know your pop culture references.

Know the complete works of the Nerd Holy Trinity: Joss Whedon, J.J. Abrams and Peter Jackson. Know that Nathan Fillion will always be on your girl’s “freebie” list. When she goes to church and thanks God that Robert Downey Jr. survived the 1980s so he could play Iron Man, say “Amen” right alongside her. And for the love of all that is sacred and holy, do not EVER get “Star Wars” and “Star Trek” confused: one has Wookiees, one has Shatner, it’s not that hard.

Tip #8: Compliment her by saying, “You remind me so much of Liz Lemon.”

This is truly the highest form of flattery for just about any nerdy woman. Liz Lemon is our patron saint. Her inability to wear high heels, keep food off her face or refrain from making penis jokes while holding a tower made of Legos in her hands makes us reflect fondly on our own quirks. We love her…and you should too.

Tip #9: Embrace her collectibles.

That is not a euphemism for something pervy. It’s just a fact. When you walk into her apartment for the first time and notice a glass cabinet filled with a miniature TARDIS, a sombrero-wearing Giles, a 17-inch Han Solo and a two-foot long replica of the Enterprise NCC-1701-D, do not say, “What the hell is all this stuff?” Instead say, “What the hell? Why don’t you have MORE of this stuff? And may I mail order something for you?”

Tip #10: Be willing to go to conventions.

It’s just a thing we do. Relax and embrace it…and know that nine times out of ten, you’ll catch a glimpse of some nubile young woman dressed as a Princess Leia slave girl. It’s what the universe does to reward patience of our significant others.

Tip #11: Know what to do in a zombie attack.

We've been practicing for this one for a long time. We don't want to have to leave you behind.

 

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Found this posted on a blog somewhere, thought I'd share.

 

How to Meet and Woo a NerdyGirl

Recently, I’ve noticed a lot of folks Googling “how do I meet anerdy girl?” Hopefully, this is not the manifestation of somecreepy new human trafficking trend but instead is the result ofmore people wanting to find and date the nerdy woman of theirdreams. With that in mind, I offer the following tips:

Tip #1: Know where to look.

The number one thing to know about nerdy girls -- they're probablynot going to be doing body shots at the local sports bar on aFriday night. If they're out partying, it's over a micro-brewedpale ale in the quiet corner of their local hole-in-the-wallwatering hole. Other good places to spot nerdy women: libraries,bookstores, used bookstores, any other place with books you canthink of, comic book stores, knitting stores, craft stores, sittingin the park...reading a book, the local cat fanciers convention, ata midnight showing of "Alien" or in their living rooms, watching"Firefly" again.

Tip #2: It helps to look like this guy (photo ofDavid Tennent that shows when I'm editing, but not whenviewing.):

On the other hand, it helps to look like this guy too (Pic ofthe PC guy from apple commercials I think, again, shows when Iedit, but not when viewing):

  

You're pretty much good either way.

Tip #3: Read lots of books.

Here’s the brutal truth: the nerd girl of your dreams is abrainiac. She’s going to know a lot of stuff about a lot of stuff.You’re going to need to study up -- none of that sitting at thecoffee shop with an unread copy of “The Waste Land” in your hand,trying to impress the shallow ladies. Your nerd girl will check tomake sure that the spine on the book is cracked and cracked good.She likely also will ask you to compare “The Waste Land” to “TheLove Song of J. Alfred Prufrock.” If you have to resort to Cliff'sNotes, do it surreptitiously. It’s like getting a butt implant –the nerd girls will know you’re faking it.

Tip #4: Don’t slack off on your video gameskills.

One of the prime perks of dating a nerdy woman is that she will notyell at you for playing video games rather than, say, going shoeshopping with her. In fact, she likely will sit down next to youand pick up a controller. Here’s the thing though: she’s probablygood at whatever game you’re playing so you better be good at ittoo. Whether it’s Mario Kart or Tiger Woods Golf or the bloodycarnage of Grand Theft Auto, she will show no mercy. Practice,practice, practice!

Tip #5: Listen to NPR.

Nerd girls like to stay up to date on their current events…and theylike to do it with the dulcet, sometimes somnolent tones of NPRbroadcasters. Beware, though, of the onset of NPR depression whichstems from listening to so much news and sad stories about floodingin Nova Scotia or the inequities facing migrant workers that youbecome convinced the world is doomed and there’s no use leavingyour house in the morning. This will put a damper on your dating.However, this prevalent disease also will give you an out if you'vehad to slack off on your NPR duties – just say, “I had to take anNPR break. Sometimes it makes me sad.” This serves two purposes: itgets you off the hook AND it makes you look sensitive. Bonus!

Tip #6: Be interesting.

Whereas a lot of ladies want you to be rich, nerdy women just wantyou to be interesting. Do you have a comic book collection thatspans decades and rests in a vault somewhere untouched by humanhands? That’s kinda cool. Are you learning how to do animation soyou can one day post the adventures of a hobo cat online? That’skinda cool too. Maybe you build houses for the poor on weekends orspend an afternoon teaching creative writing to high school kids?Awesome and more awesome. It doesn't matter what you do, just do itwell.

Tip #7: Know your pop culturereferences.

Know the complete works of the Nerd Holy Trinity: Joss Whedon, J.J.Abrams and Peter Jackson. Know that Nathan Fillion will always beon your girl’s “freebie” list. When she goes to church and thanksGod that Robert Downey Jr. survived the 1980s so he could play IronMan, say “Amen” right alongside her. And for the love of all thatis sacred and holy, do not EVER get “Star Wars” and “Star Trek”confused: one has Wookiees, one has Shatner, it’s not thathard.

Tip #8: Compliment her by saying, “You remind meso much of Liz Lemon.”

This is truly the highest form of flattery for just about any nerdywoman. Liz Lemon is our patron saint. Her inability to wear highheels, keep food off her face or refrain from making penis jokeswhile holding a tower made of Legos in her hands makes us reflectfondly on our own quirks. We love her…and you should too.

Tip #9: Embrace her collectibles.

That is not a euphemism for something pervy. It’s just a fact. Whenyou walk into her apartment for the first time and notice a glasscabinet filled with a miniature TARDIS, a sombrero-wearing Giles, a17-inch Han Solo and a two-foot long replica of the EnterpriseNCC-1701-D, do not say, “What the hell is all this stuff?” Insteadsay, “What the hell? Why don’t you have MORE of this stuff? And mayI mail order something for you?”

Tip #10: Be willing to go toconventions.

It’s just a thing we do. Relax and embrace it…and know that ninetimes out of ten, you’ll catch a glimpse of some nubile young womandressed as a Princess Leia slave girl. It’s what the universe doesto reward patience of our significant others.

Tip #11: Know what to do in a zombieattack.

We've been practicing for this one for a long time. We don't wantto have to leave you behind.

 

How to Meet and Woo a Nerdy Girl