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38 M Seattle, WA

My Details

Last Online
Today – 7:39pm
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Very often
Atheism, and laughing about it
Gemini, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from university
Science / Engineering
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Mostly non-monogamous
Doesn’t have kids
Likes cats
English (Fluently), German (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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I wanted to be Hawkeye from MASH when I was growing up, except not a doctor. I wanted to be sarcastic and clever, ready with a quick comment. I wanted to cultivate an anti-authoritarian streak that stops just short of open rebellion. I wanted to be charming and rakish and a good companion for cocktails. I wanted to be the kind of friend people knew they could turn to for help.

I think I've done okay on these.

Some more specific and probably more pertinent information:
* If I'm outside of an area roughly penned in by Capitol Hill, Pioneer Square, Ballard, and Wallingford I am probably out of the state, or on my way.
* In 2013 I was out of Seattle about one night in every six, down from one in five the previous year.
What I’m doing with my life
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I love my job, but I'm not a careerist. It's fortunate that I can do something I love for a living, It's a means, not an end.

The last five years I've been travelling heavily, some work, some fun, and usually a healthy mix between the two. I ran out of pages in my passport last fall, six months before it was set to expire.

I'm taking the summer off to write what I am calling my memoirs, a series of short stories about some of the weirder chapters of my life.
I’m really good at
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All kinds of things. I'm the person in my various circle of friends who people ask when they don't know what to do about a problem.

I tell stories well, both because I've had a pretty interesting life and because I know how to keep a listener engaged.
The first things people usually notice about me
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Sadly, the haircut. Apparently it encourages unpleasant political comparisons from a significant percentage of people. I just like a very severe look, there are no deeper meanings behind it.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I absolutely love _The Razor's Edge_ by W. Sommerset Maughm. It's a contender on the short list for my favorite books along with the better bits of Vonnegut, some Herman Wouk, and a smattering of William Gibson novels. I read a lot of non-fiction too, but most of it doesn't age well.

Over the last few years, I've been memorizing T.S. Eliot's "The Waste Land". I think it's one of the most important things written in the twentieth century. I've got about 20% memorized; "II A game of Chess" and "III The Fire Sermon" are tricky.

I am unapologetically into dark scene music; goth/industrial/electro. During the summer, I hit the German music festivals. It's fascinating to see a band that can only get a few hundred people in Seattle play to a crowd of ten thousand people. That said, I have no trouble separating the rest of my life from the club/concert scene. I'll wear a VNV Nation hoodie to work, but not my full "going out" regalia.

I am not food-motivated. I harbor a low-grade mistrust of foodies. Much like jazz musicians, I suspect most chefs are doing novel things to amuse themselves more than their putative audience. It's an overstatement to say that I'm all "meat and potatos", but when I see the word "re-imagined" on a restaurant menu I tend to suspect the worst.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
The loyalty of friends.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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In personal conversation I am startlingly open about a lot of things. Infinitely less so in writing, and definitely not on the Internet.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 26–48
  • Near me
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex
You should message me if
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If it sounds like we'd have a good conversation.

If you think we'd hit it off.