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wylderness_

35 Helsinki, Finland Woman

Woman

I’m looking for

  • Everyone
  • Ages 18–99
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends, long-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 3:01pm
Orientation
Bisexual
Ethnicity
Height
5′ 6″ (1.68m)
Body Type
Thin
Diet
Smokes
No
Drinks
Not at all
Drugs
Never
Religion
Sign
Taurus
Education
University
Job
Student
Income
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English, Finnish (Fluently), Swedish (Poorly), German (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
If you are looking only for sex or short-term dating, please move to the next profile. Thank you.

(Friendship and responsible poly are then again more than ok.)

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Jutellaan toki suomeksikin.

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Some of my interests are for example meditation, yoga, tantra, bhakti yoga/bhajans/kirtan, shamanism, dancing, going to gigs, nature, long walks in the forest or by the seaside, writing, reading, literature, poetry, history (HERstory), Victorian age (especially in England), art, dark art, aesthetics, fashion (dark, haute couture...), museums, classical music concerts, opera, ballet, art museums, theatre, music, alternative medicine/holistic healing/reiki etc...

Sapiosexual & bibliophile.

I like to spend my time mostly nowadays just peacefully at home, in the nature or in some meditation evenings etc. Would like to add some more play/fun aspect to my life again though... So if you have some nice ideas what we could do together (without alcohol/drugs or if you drink one or two it´s ok, just that you stay conscious and I can feel safe... ), I would be happy to hear. :)

If you are very adventurous, extroverted and you need to be all the time entertained, it may be best for you to jump to the next profile. I am quite peace-loving & introverted (even though also social & talkative) and I need quite a lot of my own time or peaceful and silent together-time. My ideal would be that we both could have our own projects that we could work on silently in same space. Maybe something artistic or scientific/research or just if you like to spend time reading/on the internet/doing handicrafts etc. Not all the time needing to talk.

But don´t get me wrong, I also love to be together, be close to you, talk with you, laugh with you, have fun etc. Just not ALL the time. (You can google "social introverts"...)

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INFP ( http://www.personalitypage.com/INFP.html )

HSP ( http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Highly_sensitive_person )

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These are very important things in my life and I can warmly recommend them to you too:

Mindfulness meditation: http://goo.gl/QP4cD

Mooji (Ramana Maharshi´s lineage): http://mooji.org/videos.html
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Studying again after working ten years as a teacher. Practicing yoga, meditation, energy medicine and learning different kinds of natural healing methods. Reading a lot.

Reading & writing (living & breathing) poetry.

I like to move my body in different ways, feel the connection to my physical side. I dance a lot and have always loved it very much. It is just so ecstatic and blissful. I am not so fond of guided dance lessons, but free and spontaneous, primal movement (mostly house & techno, but also some psytrance, African rhythms etc). I also like to swim, go to gym, do pilates and yoga, ballet & bellydance (mostly workouts) and go for long walks in the nature and by the seaside.

But I´m not a fitness fanatic, too much hedonism in me for that... I usually get so much pleasure from moving my body, that it is just what I often like to do.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Feeling general vibes in different places and situations, feeling and understanding what other people are feeling and what they want/need. Understanding, helping, advising and healing people.

Writing (in Finnish) is also an easy and natural way for me to express myself. I have a very vivid imagination and I´m quite creative, quick-witted and imaginative/innovative. Also I´m quite funny, playful, lively and bubbly and love to have fun, organize parties, cook and eat and enjoy with friends. I´m loving, gentle (but sometimes also rough... ;) and I like to cuddle, massage and take good care of the people I love.

But I´m this happy and lively me only when I feel secure and I can be quite shy at first or with people I don´t know that well or in big crowds. Sometimes I can be even quite fearful and stagnant in some situations that I feel threatening because of some traumatic things that I have faced in the past. But I´m trying to learn to trust people and life more and more again and that´s why I´m now very cautious that I let only loving and stable people near me.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I think it has always been my naturally wavy/curly hair, often changing its colour and shape dramatically... (at the moment it is short silver-white goth/punk rockish quiff/pompadour; google "blonde pompadour") or sometimes I have these longer periods that I just let it grow and flow naturally.

I usually dress in black. My style is quite simple, minimal, classic, timeless or even dandy - androgynous or feminine. I´m also interested in dark avant-garde(ish), rocker chic, nu goth and other alternative style & fashion.

I don´t have the lip piercing anymore.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Music:

Mostly at the moment classical, opera and then again also some harder and darker rock/metal, deathrock, darkwave, coldwave, minimal, synth, dark ambient, post-punk etc.

I love baritone/deep voiced male singers, who´s animalistic, primal singing goes straight to your hips... Like Glenn Danzig, Jim Morrison, Howlin´ Wolf, Peter Steele...

I love dancing and am happily addicted to bass.

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Books:

Belles lettres...

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TV & Movies:

I don´t even remember anymore when I have opened the tv last time, but I enjoy watching some series/movies on my laptop.

Mostly art film, fantasy, gothic (aesthetic, victorian etc..) horror, vintage fairytales and classic royal/novelty movies & series, also old hollywood & classic musicals and anime. Sometimes also sitcoms, I love a good laugh. Even some reality goes sometimes if it has a really interesting subject. For example the aesthetic side in me loves the model competitions like ANTM. I find also these polyamory series like My Five Wives and Sisterwives strangely compelling. (Even though I don´t like at all any kind of religious fanaticism or the fact that in mormon community only men can have more spouses than one.)

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Food:

My body gets ill from vegetarian proteins, so it seems that I have been born in a body of a beast in this lifetime. It has not been an easy thing to accept, but I try not to get too melodramatic about it. Not a best match with strict vegetarians & vegans because of this, because I really like to cook and enjoy the food together. Conscious and moderate but also relaxed and practical omnivorism is the name of the game.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Meditation (Ramana Maharshi´s lineage)
Imagination & creativity
Long walks in the nature
Silence & peace(fulness)
Music & dance
Togetherness/oneness/community/tribe
My own time & space (lots of!)
Humour/laughter/playfulness
Touch
Darker/wilder/mystical side of life

(ok, that´s quite many things but who cares.... ;)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
In fact I try not to think too much and be mostly in a meditative mood/state. But when I think (and it is often, my mind is very active..), it is usually something to do with these things that I have mentioned on this profile.

Creating & inventing.

Miraculous things, beautiful things, strange things, funny things.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
-relaxing at home
-in the nature
-at the gym, swimming etc
-in some meditation/bhajan singing/shamanic drumming circle evening etc
-in classical music concert, opera, ballet...
-at some gig, club, dancing etc
-watching a movie (cinema or home)
-at some other cultural/art event
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I have faced very traumatic things in my past and I´m diagnosed with PTSD (post-traumatic stress disorder) and I´m in intesive trauma therapy because of that. So I´m feeling quite often anxious and there´s social anxiety involved also. But I´m working on it all the time and starting to be - little by little - once again my happy and people-/life-trusting self.

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I like (to give and receive) roughness AND gentleness. Primal play, animalistic physicality, passion, vitality...

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I need my regular fix of the darker, wilder and more mystical side of life, otherwise I get restless and bored. Luckily I have managed to find some more constructive ways to satisfy that urge in me. This may sound a bit scary, but I think we all have our so called "shadow side", which is just more dormant or suppressed in others, but that has to be faced at some point of life. And even though it can be a scary ride, it can also make our life feel so much more interesting and satisfying. To surrender to that we all have both "good" and "bad", light and dark sides/aspects in us. It releases so much energy if you just let yourself to be who you really are.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
...you practise meditation/mindfulness/shamanism etc

...you love nature.

...you like more the classical, timeless, aesthetic, elegant type of art/music/culture/fashion/style - maybe with a twist of darkness & edge in it.

...you are open-minded, humorous, relaxed and not fanatic about anything.

...you are loving, warm-hearted, deep and funny.

...you like to touch and be touched.

...you understand what I talked about facing the darker side of life/yourself and about the combination of gentleness and roughness...

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It would be nice to see your picture, because you can see many of mine too. Okay? Don´t send me a message where you say that "I can send you my photo, if you are interested". Just send it with your first message already. I´m sorry if this sounds harsh, but I am so visual person that I need to know with whom I´m conversing. Right?

You can contact me & send your photos etc by e-mail: tiinaumau @gmail.com