Back on okcupid as of Jan '13, after a four year hiatus. Last relationship just ended amicably, but still a bit tender. Looking for friends for now, maybe something deeper once I'm sure my transition is healthy.

I am very liberal when it comes to others, can be personally conservative or off the deep end depending on the issues. Happy go lucky, heart on my sleeve. I don't spray testosterone everywhere I go, so if you are looking for the badboy type, it's not me. I love rain, rainforests, anything green. You may find me at (look them up!) Oregon Country Fair, Burningman, Pride, Maui, Timberline Lodge, Victoria B.C., Dog Beach, live music, working late, or lately, back at the gym.

Small business owner/slave, building my future, enjoying all of my free time.

Hammering, wrenching, creating, building, writing, spelling, fixing, playing, relaxing, flossing, vacationing, puttering, waiting, humoring, accepting, being, wining(no whining!), napping, dining.

Books: The Princess Bride, A Brief History of Space and Time, The House, The Grapes of Wrath, Last Chance to See, So Long and Thanks for all the Fish, Cook's Illustrated, Scientific American, Devil in the White City, Rich Dad Poor Dad.

Movies: The Princess Bride, Snatch, Magnolia, Edward Scissorhands, Pulp Fiction, Kill Bill, A Fish Called Wanda, Big Night, Dogma, Fargo, Goodfellas, Harold and Maude, Office Space, The Fifth Element, Trainspotting, The Big Lebowski, The Last Picture Show, What a Way to Go!, Life is Beautiful (only the subtitled version!), Pay it Forward, Best in Show, The Big Blue.

Music: No Doubt, Diana Krall, Alyson Krauss, Nickel Creek, Zero 7, Morcheeba, The Eagles, Henry Mancicni, Brazilian Girls, Bitter Sweet, Patsy Cline, HAPA, Norah Jones, ABBA, Rush, City Boy, The Andrews Sisters, The Brian Setzer Orchestra, Dwight Yokum.

Foods: Well I'm not overly fond of water chestnuts, liver, kale or carrots. Everything else is awesome, and should be re experienced often.

Music, toothbrush, books, hot showers, Hagen Daas Caramel Cone ice cream, friends, my dog.

Quantum physics, the grand unification theory, chia pets. Did the Professor and Ginger ever have sex? What about Gilligan and Mary Ann? What about Gilligan and the Professor? Who was top? Was there coconut cream pie involved? I also want to know why no matter how hard I tried, my Sea Monkeys never grew to look like advertised on the package?

Spending it with my best friends doing something/anything together.

Sappy movies can sometimes make me do the macho sniffle, cough and eye wipe.

Why should you message me? Well, here's how San Diego demographics work out according to me, Wikipedia and the 2010 census.

Population total in the county of San Diego = 2,450,000. Less the 50% who of course are women = 1,225,000. Less all registered right wing extremist republicans who would like nothing better than to stomp out your right to choose = 658,000. 66% of which are (really, no, really!) unmarried = 434,000. 18% of which are 40-59 years old = 78,000, less 50% of which who are at, or below, the poverty level = 39,000. Less 35% undesirable because gay/bi/poly/diaper fetish/bimbo fetish/flaccid/wear speedos/etc. = 25,000. Lets face it, only 1 out of 3 guys aren't just plain weird in some other odd way = 8,000. Less the 25% who clothes shop only at WalMart, or in 15 year cycles whether they "need it or not" = 6,000. Of these decent finalists, only 10% don't already have girlfriends who will kick your ass for just talking to him, or being skinnier than her, or for wearing a tight blouse in his presence = 600. 45% are clinically obese couch potatoes who spend Saturdays watching Girls of Fear Factor or Celebrity Poker, or spending hours in internet chat rooms talking to other guys pretending to be nymphomaniac teenage girls = 330. 35% of those remaining are embarrassingly bad spellers with terrible grammar = 210. 35% of those chew noisily with their mouth open or scratch their ass/crotch in public = 136. Only 28% are not still living with parents, having mom do his laundry or spending his next ten year's income on boy-toys at 19.8% interest = 38. Of the last 38 men you met, you know really only 10 that may have been truly emotionally available = 10. One of those thought your sister/mom/roommate "is REALLY hot!" = 9. Of the last 9 men you dated, one was a terrible kisser = 8, one was terribly boring = 7, one didn't like any of your friends = 6, one had friends who were all genuine assholes who never stopped checking you out = 5, one thought you were really 'cute', but didn't think your opinions had any substance = 4, and of course half of all men are liars = 2. Finally we eliminate the last 50% of the men who just want to get laid, leaving only me. The one. Get your message in quick!

I am looking for a co-conspirator. A playful friend. A teammate. A partner. A trusted companion. An adventurer. A discoverer. Someone who will never stop reaching, learning, growing, and trying new things. Someone to share secrets with. Someone who is willing to laugh at me, with me, and to be laughed at. Someone who can be silly, but is still willing to talk in depth about the difficult issues and the great rewards of life and relationships. Someone who appreciates the connection between good health, and happiness. Someone who understands love is ultimately about care, and respect. Someone who will love my 140 lb. (that's not a typo!) lap dog. Someone who knows the difference between their, there, and they're. I hope I have finally found you!