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31 San Francisco, CA Woman


I’m looking for

  • Men
  • Ages 26–38
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Jan 30
5′ 6″ (1.68m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Agnosticism, and laughing about it
Gemini, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from masters program
Science / Engineering
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids
Has dogs
English (Fluently), Spanish (Okay), Japanese (Poorly), German (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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One part nerdy, one part artsy, three parts curious.
What I’m doing with my life
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Designing/engineering things for a pretty amazing company in San Francisco.

Failing at picking usernames. Story time! When I realized my go-to username was taken while signing up for OKC, I tried out a few phrases I've always liked. One was "time flies like an arrow..." Lo and behold, timeflieslike was available, but I decided against it because it makes me sound like I'm in the midst of some sort of existential crisis. But, I was on my phone, and instead of hiding the keyboard I accidentally hit "go." Whoops. So here I am.

Photography, getting that perfect candid photo of a friend. Trying new food. Singing to myself and alarming my dog. Update: now accompanied by a ukulele. My dog is becoming quite accomplished at giving me long-suffering looks. Currently working on: Fake Plastic Trees, Dog Days of Summer. I also found a tab for Stairway to Heaven on a low-G ukulele, because the internet is a wonderful place.

I'm in an open relationship with someone fantastic, so I'm not looking for a partner, but I do like meeting great people. I think there's a lot of space for different types of relationships in life, and I hate that traditional dating is set up to treat everyone as either marriage material or a one-time hookup. Just like with friendships, there's a lot of variation out there, and I think we should treat each other with care and respect, regardless.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Learning pointless phrases in new languages. The first thing I learned in German was courtesy of my college roommate: "I don't give a shit."

Recently a coworker taught me to introduce myself in Russian. Less exciting, though perhaps more useful?
The first things people usually notice about me
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My hair (it's red).

Also, my dog. She's quite the conversation starter. An eccentric man on the MUNI told me all about helping to deliver a litter of Irish Setter puppies and successfully giving one of them mouth-to-mouth because he wasn't breathing. I still have no idea if he was bullshitting me or not.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I eat pretty much anything. Food is neat.

I'm a sucker for movies with twist endings, which means I'm usually disappointed (M Night Shyamalan) but sometimes not (Fight Club!). Other favorites: Princess Bride, Hot Fuzz, Little Miss Sunshine. Sometimes Wes Anderson. Recently: Her. Hot damn, that movie.

Books: Snow Crash, World War Z (I have not actually seen the movie), Wool, In The Woods, Bossypants, Surely You're Joking Mr Feynman, Einstein's Dreams, short stories by Neil Gaiman.

TV shows: Sherlock, Parks & Rec, 30 Rock, Breaking Bad, Castle, Firefly, Futurama. Jurassic Bark is the saddest thing of all time (note: that may be hyperbole).

Music: Ida Maria, Passion Pit, Matt & Kim, Arcade Fire, Caro Emerald, Alabama Shakes, OK Go, Phantogram, Tennis, Neutral Milk Hotel, cheesy 80s music.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My camera, ebooks, Rdio subscription, my dog, walking to work. Wow, this section is boring. Hold on, I'll try to think of something more scintillating.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Sometimes when my mind wanders I imagine disaster scenarios and what kind of heroic actions I might take. But judging by my performance in paintball and laser tag excursions, I'd probably be the first to go in [disaster scenario du jour]. (Confession: this used to say zombie apocalypse, but I've been given to understand that's cliche and tiresome and other unfortunate adjectives.)

(I'm starting to realize this section makes me sound more coordinated than I am. I'm sorry to say, my depth perception is crap, and I'm not joking around about being the first to die in a zombie-related public health incident.)
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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So, here's a secret way to read my mind: I often start humming songs based on what I'm thinking about at the moment. Example: I was walking around during Pride weekend thinking "I love this city", which somehow translated to "We Built This City" (on rock and roll) in my head.

... I didn't guarantee that it would make a lot of sense, or necessarily involve *good* music, but there you go.
You should message me if
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You're smart and a bit odd and you think too much. You like highbrow and lowbrow. You talk with your hands.