Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You can make it to the end of this list and realize the meaning of
it.... Ok. Here goes...
You don't lie.
If you do, you can leave now. Those who lie are nothing more than
You respect yourself, and those around you by applying honesty,
integrity, commitment, and hard work to all that you do and
You don't have the misconception that your a princess. If you in
some screwed up way believe that you are, that's probably why
you're here and still alone, so please reflect upon the following.
To borrow a phrase from the bogans i hate most : "Australia doesn't
have princesses, so you can't be one. Harden the f@#k up."
You're not an Internet scammer. Sending me a copy and paste message
saying you have lived in Brisbane all your life, but your now stuck
overseas with no money in broken English sort of says you haven't
and are not. I hate those who lie with a vengeance.
You have ability to continue a conversation, and not enter into
such without giving up after a day or so.
You're not batshit crazy. I've met women from here. And nearly all
of them have had major mental issues. If that's you, please do
everyone here a favor and remove your profile.
You have done it alone, for long enough to understand what truly
matters and what doesn't, without depending on others. I am looking
for an equal, not a piece of hand luggage.
You understand that okcupid offers descriptions of single, married
or seeing someone here. That being the case I am single. We all
have a past, you included, but if your that petty with the divorced
thing, then perhaps I should be asking why you're single, or how
many guys have you had. Pettiness is just another trait I don't
need in those around me. Divorced is that, it means your not with
someone anymore, this does not make me an alien with three heads,
just wiser, and that is always a good thing.
You're not a bogan. Chain smoking, dole bludging, pension scumming,
alcoholics need not apply.
You might like to teach me to take better photos. The few good ones
I have taken are worth far more than words.
You don't use the comment "But I changed my mind, whatever, or talk
to the hand"
You're actually in awe of the fact i have no interest in fishing,
golf, football, or most other mentally depressing sports.
You see the world just a bit different than the other 98% of n.t's
out there. No I'm NOT n.t., don't ever want to be.
You're not so shallow that you think beauty comes before all else.
But if you are, at least put that in your profile so none of us
waste our time.
You might just know what prolog or miranda was.
You enjoy cooking, and understand the best comes from sharing that
task with another. Food is about conversation, time together and so
many other things most people neglect in their rush to get in front
of a tv set and such.
You know that a real boat has sails.
You have and or do work hard both physically and mentally for what
you desire, yes, drawing a bit of blood in the process is OK, in
doing so it should remind you this is all real.
You enjoy a good road trip to some place you have never been, or
long not visited, for no other reason than you can.
You realize that its better to give more back to this world than
what you take from it.
You have a desire to learn, but perhaps of more importance to teach
what you know, it is this that makes this world a better
You're not superficial, dependent on bling, gossip, new shoes and
credit cards, and expect everyone else to carry you when you should
be learning how to do it for yourself.
You're honest, not misleading, sure about who you are and what you
want, whatever that may be is fine, just be open about it.
Life is to short to be wasted toying with the emotions of
You might like to take me barefoot bowling, or spend a lazy sunday
under a tree somewhere quaint watching the clouds go by.
You're intelligent, you can hold a conversation on topics other and
greater that the new pair of shoes you just bought, etc.
... and you have manners. Even if your not interested you will at
least have the courtesy to reply to messages received. Even if its
to say, "hey I'm not interested"
To give the silent treatment is just a major example that you may
have Princess Bitch-face syndrome,yes, it is real, google it. I
don't need any more of those types of women in my life.
You believe that its OK for a guy to not have to make the first
move all the time... If your interested, you could message me too
You can show me a way to bypass years of bureaucratic bungling and
legal red tape so that my daughter is safe from parental alienation
as soon as possible.
And last but not least, you are strong, and can deal with the fact
i have to fight for my daughter, and the truth, and that battle is
far from over. If you think sometimes I'm a little to hard, and
maybe a little bitter, then have the maturity to understand no-one
should ever be put through what we have. This battle has taken many
casualties, now I am all that is left that is protecting the most
awesome little girl in the world. The time we have together is
still not enough, but when she is with me that time is for her.
Each second lost can never be replaced. I would rather be alone
forever than be asked to substitute our precious time together for
someone else exclusively. We could both do with a few more good
friends, but when she is with me, she comes first, period.
So you made it this far. Thanks for giving me a bit of your time.
On the influence of someone who impressed me greatly I wanted to
add that it seems many may interpret the above as negatives, not
positives. Some would say I come across as angry or narcissistic,
if that be your interpretation, please realize that neither of
these are true. My closest friends define me as fiercely loyal,
committed, trustworthy, dependable and truly intelligent. I would
hope you realize what I'm looking for is unconditional trust and
friendship before anything else. For anything beyond friendship,
these are paramount beginnings.
I'm not here to play games, and foremost I expect that in return. I
understand that for most they want an easy life, but life for some
is not easy, though in many ways the character which builds from
that surpasses all. True measures of happiness and success should
be measured in terms of honesty, self worth and personal
achievement, and never involve monetary gain, and within myself i
have reached that point in my life, what i need now is people
around me to share that with. This doesn't mean anything or
everything listed here is finite and set in stone, if you're headed
in the same direction then great, for if you have read between the
lines you would have realized these are guide markers, way-points
for want of a better term. Having others to share with, and grow
from is always better than being alone.
You took note of the fact that i'm looking for friends, not a
relationship, not friends with benefits etc. Please understand what
is occurring in my life now will destroy so many innocent people if
left unchecked. I fight for the truth, but I haven't won yet. No,
it wont be over in a week, a month or even a year, this is in fact
something that has taken over 15 years of my life thus far... and
has now been a year since my delusional narcissistic x has taken my
most amazing little girl from me. In spite of that hopefully the
truth will prevail such this is the last battle that will win the
war brought on by the problems of one other.