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38 New York, NY Man


I’m looking for

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  • Ages 18–44
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

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6′ 3″ (1.91m)
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Graduated from university
Science / Engineering
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly), C++ (Fluently), LISP (Fluently)

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My self-summary
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Ask me if you'd like to know something, I'm an open book and love to meet interesting people.

I am an artist (visual arts mostly), and sometimes work as a software engineer, most recently at The New York Times.

Otherwise, traveling around the world, focusing on that which I enjoy most -- I've yet to find a place or culture I haven't absolutely fallen in love with.
What I’m doing with my life
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I tend not to think of "my life". I believe life is fundamentally simple, that the complexities and beauty of nature can be uncovered when we look beyond our own imagined complexities

I believe the purpose of life is to live; follow your heart, follow your bliss, just be-- when there is no goal there is a spontaneous and uninhibited energy, an emergent freedom of being and the continuous discovery of life in each moment --and with that awareness life is transformed into a joyous innocence of being.

I think and meditate a lot on kundalini tantra, meditative states of nondualism, and nirvikalpa samadhi. These are themes that show up in my artwork, and give language to transcendent experiences.

* there's often a lot of confusion surrounding tantra, specifically about tantric sex. I wish we lived in a more sex positive culture where this was easy to explain -- think of Tantra as an approach to Love, Sex, Food, Friends, Travel, and Art. If you're interested or even curious I'm more than happy to discuss and/or learn more.
I’m really good at
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Computational Mathematics?
Letting go of ego, maintaining an almost childlike awe to the world around us
The first things people usually notice about me
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shy awesomeness?
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Joseph Campbell, Krishnamurti, Rumi, Nietzsche, Proust (only when I'm feeling vain), Oscar Wilde, and various science/nature writing-- I tend towards non-fiction.

I love movies, from terrible B-list cult classics like Buckaroo Banzai to the more mainstream classics like Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, A Clockwork Orange, Amelie, The Big Lebowski, Into the Wild, Trainspotting, Twelve Monkeys, The Princess Bride, Tampopo, etc ... I recently fell in love with Only Lovers Left Alive

I eat almost everything (no matter where on earth I find myself, if I see someone eating something, then it must be edible so I'll happily dig in), I especially love Korean and Vietnamese food, French desserts, delicious wines too complex for my limited understanding of wine, well-brewed beers without pretense, and most of all new foods I've yet to experience!
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Life, it seems, has an ironic sense of humor, everytime I think "I could never do without this", that thing will usually be lost.

So perhaps my current, soon to be lost, necessities includes:

+ relaxing
+ transcendent bliss
+ awareness of beauty
+ loving kindness
+ travel
+ art
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Everything! Often times I think about thinking; cognitive heuristics are one of my favorite subjects for thought experiments.

And while I think a lot, I find the process limiting and self-exhausting.

In the exhaustion of thought, there is a silence of mind and the experience of the inexhaustible, a blissful beautiful freedom, a choiceless awareness of the world as it truly exists. The experience seems similar to Mescaline or Salvia, but only in that it's impossible to describe articulately in words.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
I don't think I've had a "typical" night since moving to NYC, this city is amazing.

I guess my absolute favorite times of the week are the midday weekdays, say Tuesday around 2pm, you'll often find me at a cafe or diner, headphones on, sitting quietly reading and sipping on tea. The joy of these moments I cannot fully express.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I strangely never cried during movies, but I cried a little during Lilo & Stitch-- that scene where he runs into the wilderness with the story book, without family or home he stares existentially into the stars and says, "I'm lost" -- I'm about to cry just thinking about it
You should message me if
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you're curious, and perhaps want to chat about possibilities, or chat about life or travel or food or art ... you have something to teach me, or think we'd have an amazing time together.

I adore loving kind-hearted people; strange people, normal people, smart people, silly people, GGG people, poly people, non-poly people, people who love animals, people who love life ...

I find the most attractive people are those with an honest lust for life, a sentimentality, a willingness to be vulnerable appreciating beauty