Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Live update: Wow, the coyotes in my little area are howling
tonight. Saw one today running down a trail.
Perhaps you visited my profile previously. You may note that it has
changed almost completely. Do not be alarmed. For good or ill, I
remain more or less the same.
I am still a lover of cigars and bourbon - a trait women find
nearly irresistible, no? Still a devoted father. Still a
psychotherapist (they can have my license back when they pry it
from my cold, dead hands).
It may be worth noting that I am now certifiably divorced.
Effectively single for about a year and a half.
Born and grew up (physically, at least) in South Carolina. Lived in
Buffalo, NY, for eight years. In San Francisco since 1996. Once
upon a time I was enthusiastically, perhaps compulsively, active:
running, cycling, swimming. Now I work out grudgingly, mostly with
an eye to remaining alive and something shy of repulsive.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Seeing patients. Trying to get more patients. Raising my boy.
Recovering from raising my boy. Swimming laps. Being tortured by my
trainer. Eagerly awaiting becoming a clinical supervisor. Almost
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Shutting up or not, depending.
Fending for myself.
Building things that solve absurdly specific problems.
Accumulating and applying knowledge.
Keeping an open mind.
Knowing when good enough is good enough.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Giants baseball, on TV/radio or in person. Samuel Beckett. Freud
and friends (Lacan, Winnicott, Searles, Bion). Joan Copjec. Susan
Neiman. Horror movies. WG Sebald. Paul Bowles. Lars von Trier.
Raymond Chandler. Most anything with Robert Mitchum or Viggo
Mortensen. David Cronenberg. Words With Friends. Rice and beans.
Burritos. Peruvian. Steaks. Louis CK. Bill Burr. Amy Schumer.
Eminem. John Cale. Just started watching Ray Donovan. But you know
what? Those mutherfuckers at Comcast lure you in with three free
episodes and then force you to subscribe to Showtime. So no more
Ray Donovan right now.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My son and my work - those are givens. Further:
I have a dozen+ black pocket t-shirts, and this is what I wear up
top pretty much all the time.
My gazillion pairs of sneakers, and the promise of more.
An ample supply of my favorite socks and underwear.
Colorful handkerchiefs! No, not the kind one hangs from the back
pocket to signify a wish to be peed on, or whatever.
The trinkets with which I decorate my office. Alway on the prowl
The aforementioned office.
The odd little corner of San Francisco that I've settled into. I
hear coyotes some nights. What I thought was a mourning dove is
apparently a great horned owl. And the skunks! They amble by all
Coffee. I do not stand in line for coffee. Or anything,
Overcast skies and fog. Seriously.
My eyeglasses. Blind without 'em.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Comedy, especially improv and stand-up. It's far from irrelevant
for my work.
The gulf between is and ought.
Why is New England clam chowder so common, and Manhattan clam
chowder so hard to find?
That smell. What is that smell?
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
My son is with me Friday nights. That could mean we're at a Giants
game or a movie, or else at home chilling after a trip to the
driving range or the tennis courts. Or sometimes the driving range
and the tennis courts. He's hella active. Though he broke (and had
to have surgery on) a finger last month. That has put a crimp in
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I play Words With Friends entirely too much.
You should message me if
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This section has been through more iterations than any other. Too
hot, too cold. Too hard, too soft. I won't say this is just right,
but it's a decent bowl of porridge.
You value conversation and emotional connection over
Being in love matters to you. Sex matters to you.
You don't think you have it all figured out.
You have a pretty good idea of where you come from.
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