It's taken me a while to find my station. I delayed the search by spending ten years in college and grad school, then came here and hung out, listlessly, on the periphery of the tech world. Sick of that, I did a stint in retail and sold stuff on eBay. Somewhere along the way, I found I'd done enough therapy that I could reasonably aspire to be a therapist. And now I am.
Becoming a dad, being a dad - nothing has been more beneficial or influential.
I cannot speak so enthusiastically about being a husband, however. Probably not up for that again. Though this could be a passing attitude, I suppose.
Realistically, I'm probably too early in the divorce process to be looking for more than friends. And I do try to be realistic. It's not something I pull off all the time, though, so no absolute statements from me on this score.