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48 San Francisco, CA Man


I’m looking for

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  • Ages 32–53
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

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Last Online
Yesterday – 3:44pm
5′ 11″ (1.80m)
Body Type
Not at all
Gemini, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from masters program
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), French (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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Long-term San Francisco resident, originally from AR/TX. Love to travel (been to every continent except Antarctica), mainly for birding. More introverted than extroverted (but not a homebody), like to be spontaneous but also find comfort in routine, a romantic in skeptic's clothing.

What am I looking for? Well, I'm up for dating, just having some fun, or making new friends. Open to LTR, but that'll happen when it happens, right? My 'type' tends toward slim, 30s or 40s. Definitely have a thing for thin lips (weird, huh?). I have no piercings below the neckline.

GOOD freaking spaghetti monster, expand to 1000 words? Do we get copyright on our novellas?! :p

So, let's see what I've left out. Um, a bit of a geek in my interests - D&D, computer games (most recently GW2; played Rift, & EQ & EQ2 before that), & the aforementioned birding. Used to love country-western dancing, but haven't been in years (I keep meaning to get back into it).

I've taken almost 3 semesters of French, mainly because I think Frenchmen are hot (generally speaking). I still struggle to comprehend a word unless it's spoken... very... slowly. Not sure if I'm going to continue or not; I seem to have reached a plateau. I do like taking an evening class in something once a week, though, just to keep learning & growing.

OK, still not 1000. You know, you'd think they could put in a word meter if they're going to have a word count requirement, hmmm?

Anyway... um... oh, I took one of the personality tests which is based on the Myers-Briggs Type Index, & it pegged me as INFP. This is incorrect; I'm INTP. Perhaps I shouldn't protest too strongly, though, considering that the test jokingly shows only the negative personality aspects; switching would mean going from their joke label of Polyanna to... Loser. Ouch. That said, I'm too much of a stickler for accuracy (particularly where self-representation is involved) to just leave it, so I'm sure I'll be taking it a few more times until it comes out right - which possibly proves their point. :p


I am self-reflective, humorous, and > the sum of 3 (or 1000) words
What I’m doing with my life
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Seeking the big 3 (a la Michael Tolliver): a great place, a great job, & a great boyfriend. I think I've just about nailed the 1st one, & it only took 18 years in The City to do it, lol. Clearly either the job market or one lucky member of the local male populace is in for a treat sometime within the next two decades. :p

Recently back from my 3rd trip to the Amazon (this time to Brazil; went to Ecuador & Peru before), where a highlight was NOT breaking my leg (it was close). Looks like Malaysia may be next.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
...arguing for the fun of it. I've been told I'd argue with a signboard stuck crossways. It's all in good fun, though.

Also, riding the hydraulic of a small waterfall in an innertube. Like, scary good. If only someone had told me the market for hydraulic-riding would crash in... well, always.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I have NO idea. I've had people walk up to me & tell me 'smile!' when I was in a good mood, which suggests I have a grim countenance or something. OTOH, I'm the person that is always stopped for directions, which suggests that I have a very approachable look. Weird. *shrug*

Update: Survey of a couple of friends yielded 'how young you look', & 'your voice' as responses. One friend said I have a voice that's 'raspy, but without the rasp' (huh? his words, not mine). Another said that he's always thought my voice had a musical quality - clearly he has never heard me sing. :p
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Music tastes include a little of almost everything, but mostly top-40's pop with the other stuff mixed in here & there. I have to admit I've gone a bit nuts for college acapella groups since the Glee premiere; I love that with iTunes & youtube we can now 'discover' so many groups & songs we might never otherwise hear!

Favorite recent authors include Jim Butcher, Benedict Jacka, Laurell K. Hamilton, Justina Robson, Mark del Franco, Diana Wynne Jones (RIP; way better than Rowling IMHO), A. Lee Martinez, Garth Nix, & Stephen Brust.

A bit of a movie buff, but I rarely see something just to see something. Prefer rom-coms, & also enjoy period pieces & independent film. The Frameline Film Fest each year is a major event on my personal social calendar. Currently pissed that the Academy overlooked "Cloud Atlas"; I believe it's one of the best films I've seen in the past 5 years & I see a LOT of films.

Enjoy a variety of foods & willing to try most everything. Recently semi-vegetarian (still eat fish) for environmental reasons.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Friends, chocolate, reading, imagination, humor, and um... more chocolate.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
any number of things. Including chocolate.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
out with friends for dinner & a movie. And probably eating chocolate.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Some of my friends refuse to be present when I eat certain foods. My reaction can be a bit... dramatic. As in, 'foodgasms'.
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