I love to sing and dance!! Friends and family are actual karaoke fans of mine, and it's a pleasure to play the rockstar frontman that is hidden away in this here heart o' mine. Can you say, "second date"?! Ok, maybe third..

When I'm talking shit, I'm usually aware of it. I am not a big sports fan; Hooray! (If you are into baseball particularly, that could be a sign off the bat that we may not connect so much.. but I'm open to surprises!), However, I do enjoy a good game of tennis, beach volleyball, and love to play pool, a quasi-sport. Also, have gotten pretty into watching mixed martial arts lately, which is a sublime vicarious release for me..

I am a rapturous and sensitive listener, and love to talk it up too (with you though, not at you). I'm becoming more and more a fan of 'uncomfortable silences', probably because they tend to not make me feel too uncomfortable these days. In fact, that pregnant pause between conversational gestalts can be, when opened to, anything but a pause, and among the most intimate moments of living.. I find silence to be the invisible juice and magical elixir of life! This is where my life and 'spiritual path' can converge into nonseparation.. The result can feel like a warm, vast ocean on the inside; what could be better?!

I will really see you, and that will hopefully make you feel good. I am deeply authentic, precisely because I am aware of my inauthenticities, so you can trust me and feel comfortable enough to be truly your deepest, most beautiful and precious self, less defensive and more open. I am a sweet and potent lover who is full of energy and open to experience sexual contact as a path to the present moment, and thus to the Divine; I will bring you with me, and let you bring me with you. I am both serious and playful, full of integrity, and can also keep up with the bullshit. I am at times in touch with grace, and it's contageous! If we connect, I will also make you laugh a lot, which is good for your health!

Sloooooowly, but surely!, obtaining my intern hours towards becoming a licensed psychotherapist. Don't worry, I'm not one of those distant, heady type therapists, I'm the cool kind! Also am learning to enjoy and surrender to the moment, in all of its tumultuous and mysterious glory!

keeping my bullshit detector running in tiptop condition, through regular tuneups and oil changes. It's part of my job as a therapist, and a damn handy tool in meeting the world at large!

drumming, beat-boxing (not a dead artform yet!), making cereal mixes that should be sold as a cereals themselves (hmmm..), feeling, 'getting' people, scrambling up rock formations, saving my first time to get up on a surfboard for that 'perfect wave', boogyboarding!, making apparently pained expressions when I'm ecstatically enjoying food (waiters doing their quality checks a few minutes after the entree arrives are forever confounded by the look on my face in mid-chew..), embodying paradox..

is... from behind, these 3 mysterious stripes on the back of my head, that are actually just wrinkles in my scalp, or is it alien abduction scars..

from the front, the bright holes in my face through which I see.

I've also been told that when locomoting, I tend toward doing so with a swagger.

books: The Bluest Eye by Toni Morrison, This is the only book of
hers I've ever read, and I was absolutely blown away
by her capacity to make the heart and mind of the characters
palpable, reading it was like eating ripe fruit. Jitterbug
Perfume, Siddhartha, The Alchemist, Autobiography of
a Yogi, Fear and Loathing, The Illuminatus Trilogy, Eat Pray Love, and more often than not, non-fiction in the realm of nondual spirituality/psychology (If there's a type of nerd I could fulfill criteria for, it'd be that kind!)

movies: American Beauty, Crash, Crouching Tiger Hidden Dragon, Royal Tennenbaums, I Heart Huckabies, Rushmore (anything with Jason Schwartzman pretty much kills me) Amelie, oh, and I'm gonna go ahead and consider the following shows movies too, because after all it's not tv, it's HBO: True Blood, Curb Your Enthusiasm (funniest show EVER) Six Feet Under, Sopranos, & Tell Me You Love Me (sadly pulled), and what I've seen of Showtime's Dexter, Californication, and Nurse Jackie are pretty damn good too..

music: Interpol, Sigur Ros, Broken Social Scene, De La Soul, Murder City Devils, Belle & Sebastian, Girls Against Boys, Queens of the Stoneage, Stone Roses, and grew up on the following: Joy Division, Pixies, Smiths, The Clash, My Bloody Valentine.. Music is essentially my favorite sense object, next to the female body:), so this is a miniscule representation of what I like, lest I bore you with the details..

food: anything with cheese or corn, stripped-down midwestern casseroles (thanks mom!), risotto, chicken (moist not dry!), dark chocolate, french pastries (a year in france has forever endebted me to the beauty that is gobs of butter and salt mixed with dough and sugar), and last but not least, cereal, the late night snack extraordinaire..

my ears for music, my nose for flowers, oils, food, & for when after it rains...... my eyes for subtle touch, my hands for not so subtle touch, my heart to propel me through it all, and my motorcycle too! and ummmm... silence, without which none of these would mean a thing to me..

who's thinking/feeling/sensing? Although I wouldn't say I'm 'thinking' about this, more of an invitation into raw awareness to see what it's like to just be and not think, without consulting memory or the mind... psychobabble anyone?! A qualifier here; I don't take myself too seriously, but also try not to hide behind humor as a way to avoid being real. It's a delicate balance! but effortless when I'm just letting myself be.

and who will be the woman I spend the greater part of this life with..

tends toward the mellow, whether in or out, occasional dancing or karaoke, which is no reflection of how much I looooove singing and dancing! Drink with a friend or two, dinner, playing tennis, movie night.. there does not appear to be a typical one!

I'm right-brain dominant! more of a be-er, less of a doer. But don't get me wrong, I do stuff! I simply value my state of being faaaaaar more than filling the void with doing stuff all of the time.. Oh, and I'm an 'intuitive feeler', according to Myers-Briggs. That'll likely be either a turn-on, or a turn-off for you. i.e.-- If you're looking for that magical mechanical man, I ain't the dude for you!

.. you can relate to the following..

A woman who is open in heart and mind, knows that learning and growing are a way of life and embraces that, is sensual, sexual, and confident in her capacity to impact others, as well as open enough to be impacted; a potent being, aware, alive, and deeply authentic. At the same time, you love to talk shit and be sarcastic, boogy, rock a stage (or at least open to occasionally being my groupie!) and totally embrace all the fun stuff, so someone who can go there with me too. But again, you tend to value being over doing, even if but just a smidgeon..