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tophergray

32 Salem, OR Man

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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 21–40
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Today – 8:47am
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 7″ (1.70m)
Body type
Average
Diet
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Atheism, and laughing about it
Sign
Aquarius, but it doesn’t matter
Education
Graduated from masters program
Job
Art / Music / Writing
Income
$40,000–$50,000
Status
Single
Type
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Pets
Likes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), Latin (Fluently), Sanskrit (Fluently), French (Poorly), Spanish (Poorly)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I'm a bohemian and nonconformist living in my own little hut in a shaded grove of big-leaf maples in the decidedly uncool Salem, Oregon. I'm currently obsessed with finding my zen in the endless dharma of the Northwest wilds. At other times, I've consumed myself with the edgy underbelly of cities and culture, of art and music and literature, as expression, as entertainment, as brain food. I'm a political junkie, too, and lean pretty far left, but I'm also a practical and hard-knuckled Midwesterner about it. I also work hard to preserve my goofy lower Great Lakes accent and identity and will only ever recognize a fizzy beverage as pop.

I've floated across most of the cities and countryside of North America, easily typecast as a proto-hipster or a neo-beatnik. I first came to Portland in 2005, chasing Modest Mouse, but I've fallen out of love with the place. I feel like the scene has passed me by as perhaps it should, with a younger, more materialistic group of millennials taking over. As my 20s rescind farther into my rear-view mirror, I'm still trying to figure out what's next.

I typically fly solo, but dammit if it wouldn't be better to have a woman for company. I've got a great lot of life and the world yet to explore. And for now -- I've got a stack of hiking guides to the Northwest inviting me to places unknown. Want someone to come with.

Seeking someone sexy, witty, charming, kind-hearted and intelligent. For sex, for fun, for companionship, for that ever-elusive love.

I grew up in in a small blue-collar northern Ohio town [the ironically named Defiance] in a warm blue-collar family where the men all have good union jobs and can fix anything with their hands. And I ran away from all that, unable to fix anything beyond a poorly written sentence. I did college. I later did grad school. I lived in Chicago for a few years as a starving artist. The rest has been here in Oregon or traveling. I've driven cross-country five times; taken Amtrak five times and spent a summer hitchhiking and hopping freight trains. My family thinks I'm Alexander Supertramp, but that's not quite true. (I've never been to Alaska).
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I'm a writer and journalist, and I've done every unorthodox life move that I can to keep that common thread from withering into tatters.

I've worked as a bulldog healthcare reporter for the past two years, but I spent 2012 hopping freight trains and traveling the country with my underground vagabond companions on a grant-funded research project into the culture. [27 states in 6 months, hopping freights from Chicago to Oakland and Puget Sound to Massachusetts]. I've undertaken many ambitious projects from a novel to counter-cultural lefty studies of foreclosure, food deserts and transportation apartheid on the South Side of Chicago. Some of those I finished, others I did not.

Beyond that, I'm a godless atheist with Buddhist sympathies, floating as I can down Siddhartha's river.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Readin' maps.
'Ritin'
'Rithmetic.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Well, I've been with the professors, and they all liked my looks
With great lawyers, I've discussed lepers and crooks
I've been through all of F. Scott Fitzgerald's books
I'm very well-read. It's well-known.

Alice Munro is probably my favorite author currently. If I picked two books at the moment it'd be Philip Roth's "Letting Go" and James Baldwin's "Another Country."
Of course Kerouac, Salinger and Vonnegut affected me at an early age. Also read a lot of noir and sci fi pulp.
I love Modest Mouse and Elliott Smith and Neil Young and Blind Pilot. Bob Dylan, also, of course.
And I watch anything Wes Anderson and Woody Allen put out.

Et il y a cette--
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FktNzLg_te4

C'est la vie, cette ennui.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1960 Red Montgomery Ward Hawthorne Cruiser
Public Transit
Smith-Corona Typewriter
Library card
The Woods
Burt Bacharach's "This Guy's In Love With You"
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
There is nothing either good nor bad but thinking makes it so.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Last Friday night
We went streaking in the park
Skinny dipping in the dark
Then had a ménage à trois
Last Friday night
Yeah I think we broke the law
Always say we're gonna stop
Op-oh-oh
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
... you want to drink drinks with me and just walk around a bit. That's usually the best first date.

... you like walking, bicycling and public transit.

... you like the outdoors and want a wilderness explorin' pardner.

... you know what it means to steal, to cheat, to lie. What it's like to live and die.