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tophergray

31 M Portland, OR

I’m looking for

  • Everybody
  • Ages 25–35
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Online now!
Orientation
Bisexual
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 7″ (1.70m)
Body Type
Average
Diet
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Atheism, and laughing about it
Sign
Aquarius, but it doesn’t matter
Education
Graduated from masters program
Job
Art / Music / Writing
Income
$30,000–$40,000
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Pets
Likes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), Latin (Fluently), Sanskrit (Fluently), French (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I'm a wanderer and a writer, a sort of proto-hipster once known as a beatnik, minus the chauvinistic worldview. I ended up in the Northwest by mistake; it's simply where my last set of travels went off the rails and I ran out of money and was forced to claw my way back from the abyss. The Great Lakes are my homeseas but I still feel like I'm only midway through my odyssey and it will be a long time till I return to their peaceful shores.

While I'm here, I'm obsessively trying to explore every corner of Oregon and Washington, every tree, mountain and turn of the Coast. I'd rather be in the woods (or the desert) than any of the Northwest's cities, and I'm even an urban person. I most recently hiked Olympic NP, although magnificent, I was surprised how crowded it was. My peak experience this summer was either hiking up to the timberline at St Helens or losing myself in the Mount Thielsen wilderness, where I didn't see a soul for 22 hours. Currently itching to get back to the desert, as well as a new stretch of the Coast and maybe Mount Rainier.

I grew up in a small blue-collar Ohio town [the ironically named Defiance] in a warm blue-collar family where the men all have good union jobs and can fix anything with their hands. And I ran away from all that, unable to fix anything beyond a poorly written sentence. I did college. I later did grad school. I've spent much of my adulthood living in Chicago as a starving artist and cheating the system. The rest has been here in Oregon or traveling aimlessly around this country of ours, whether at the wheel of a car, by the whims of my thumb at the side of the road, the seat of a bus, a jet plane or a passenger train. Or from the thicket of the hobo jungle, waiting for hours for that split-second chance to leap to an open freight car.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I'm a journalist, and I've done every unorthodox life move that I can to keep that common thread from withering into tatters.

I've worked as a bulldog healthcare reporter for the past two years, but I spent 2012 hopping freight trains and traveling the country with my underground vagabond companions on a grant-funded research project into the culture. [27 states in 6 months, hopping freights from Chicago to Oakland and Puget Sound to Massachusetts]. I've undertaken many ambitious projects from a novel to counter-cultural lefty studies of foreclosure, food deserts and transportation apartheid on the South Side of Chicago.

I like to flip back and forth between the practical and the whimsical.

I'm a godless atheist with Buddhist sympathies, floating as I can down Siddhartha's river.

I'm newly single again after several months and I feel like I've been given a fresh chance to look into my 30s at what I really want and whom I might want to spend many of my days with. But in the meantime, I'm also recovering from an imperfect eye surgery, so you'll have to work with me.

I'm a big believer in the notion that living is in the doing, that if you don't do anything, you can't be anything. I'm less interested in theories as I am in applications. Indiana Jones was more interesting outside the museum and university and the same should be said for you. Or me. Or us.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
These are my principles. If you don't like them, I have others.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Well, I've been with the professors, and they all liked my looks
With great lawyers, I've discussed lepers and crooks
I've been through all of F. Scott Fitzgerald's books
I'm very well-read. It's well-known.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1960 Red Montgomery Ward Hawthorne Cruiser
Public Transit
Smith-Corona Typewriter
Library card
The Woods
Burt Bacharach's "This Guy's In Love With You"
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Was I clever enough? Was I charming?
Did I make at least one good pun?
Was I disconcerting? Disarming?
Was I wise? Was I wan? Was I fun?

Did I answer that girl with white shoulders
Correctly, or should I have said
(Engagingly), "Kierkegaard smolders,
But Eliot's ashes are dead"?

And did I, while being a smarty,
Yet some wry reserve slyly keep,
So they murmured, when I'd left the party,
"He's deep. He's deep. He's deep"?

Also, why are the Koch Bros advertising on OkCupid to get rid of Jeff Merkley? And how can I get rid of them?
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I think maybe I'm just partly yellow and partly the type that doesn't give much of a damn if they lose their gloves.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You're looking for someone to guide you through the natural areas of Oregon and Washington. Or if you just want someone to take along as you be the guide.

I'm also looking for fresh takes on Portland. It's my third stint in this city, but there's still much I have to learn. Bike rides are good, though you're never going to get me to wear a helmet.

But I always feel like a pint of PBR or IPA is good for an icebreaker. Perhaps you agree?