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tophergray

31 M Portland, OR

My Details

Last Online
Today – 2:17pm
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 7″ (1.70m)
Body Type
Average
Diet
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Atheism, and laughing about it
Sign
Aquarius, but it doesn’t matter
Education
Graduated from masters program
Job
Art / Music / Writing
Income
$30,000–$40,000
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Pets
Likes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), Latin (Fluently), Sanskrit (Fluently), French (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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I'm a wanderer and a writer, not sure of the order. I ended up in the Northwest by mistake; it's simply where my last set of travels ended and I ran out of money.

While I'm here, I'm obsessively trying to explore every corner of Oregon and Washington, every tree, mountain and turn of the Coast. I'd rather be in the woods (or the desert) than any of her cities, and I'm even an urban person. I most recently hiked Olympic NP, although magnificent, I was surprised how crowded it was. My peak experience this summer was either hiking up to the timberline at St Helens or losing myself in the Mount Thielsen wilderness, where I didn't see a soul for 22 hours. Currently itching to get back to the desert, as well as a new stretch of the Coast and maybe Mount Rainier.

I spent most of my 20s in Chicago, which will forever be my favorite city. I know it down to the alley, and could recount its neighborhoods and many sights, flavors and sounds by heart. It's as great of a messy complicated melting pot as New York, but so much more friendly. And Lake Michigan beaches really are better than Oregon's. You don't have to wear a coat in summer.

I grew up in a small blue-collar Ohio town in a warm blue-collar family where the men all have good union jobs and can fix anything with their hands. And I ran away from all that, unable to fix anything beyond a poorly written sentence. I did college. I later did grad school. I spent much of my adulthood living in large cities on the cheap and cheating the system. The rest has been here in Oregon or traveling aimlessly around this country of ours, whether at the wheel of a car, by the whims of my thumb at the side of the road, the seat of a bus, a jet plane or a train passenger and freight, I've seen it all.
What I’m doing with my life
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I'm a journalist, and I've done every unorthodox life move that I can to keep that common thread from withering into tatters.

I've worked as a bulldog healthcare reporter for the past two years, but I spent 2012 hopping freight trains and traveling the country with my underground vagabond companions on a grant-funded research project into the culture. I've undertaken many ambitious projects from a novel to counter-cultural lefty studies of foreclosure, food deserts and transportation apartheid on the South Side of Chicago.

I like to flip back and forth between the practical and the whimsical.

I'm a functional atheist Buddhist, floating as I can down Siddhartha's river.

These are my principles. If you don't like them, I have others.

I'm newly single again after several months and I feel like I've been given a fresh chance to look into my 30s at what I really want and whom I might want to spend many of my days with. But in the meantime, I'm also recovering from an imperfect eye surgery, so you'll have to work with me.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books. I like them, here's more than a few:
Catcher in the Rye, Slaughterhouse-Five, The Golden Notebook, Fear of Flying, The Bell Jar; Portnoy's Complaint, Tropic of Cancer, The Dhammapada, The Power of Myth, Watership Down, Rabbit Run, You Can't Win, Ironweed, Goodbye Columbus, On the Road, The Road (--Jack London, not Cormac McCarthy) Mother Night, Revenge of the Lawn, Another Country, The Big Sleep, What We Talk About When We Talk About Love, Tender is the Night, Adventures of Augie March, Letters to Sartre, My Mistress's Sparrow is Dead, Origin of Species, anything by Alice Munro

Favorite Poets: Eliot, Ginsberg, cummings, Larkin, Coleridge, Keats, Dickinson, Plath. But probably W.S. Merwin most of all.

Movies, also good: Royal Tenenbaums, Big Lebowski, Shawshank Redemption, Annie Hall, Chinatown, Midnight in Paris, Moonrise Kingdom, Raiders of the Lost Ark, Argo

Television. Don't watch it. I hope radio counts: Morning Edition, All Things Considered, Car Talk. I do like the new Cosmos series. And David Attenborough.

Music, in a past life, I was a sing-er: Modest Mouse, ELO, Stevie Wonder, Elliott Smith, Bob Dylan, Beatles, Neutral Milk Hotel, Arcade Fire, Head and the Heart, Rolling Stones, Shins, Sufjan Stevens, Andrew Bird, Amy Winehouse, She & Him, Talking Heads, The Smiths, The Cure, Bruce Springsteen. Lately I've really been digging Nina Simone. Love the fuck out of that chick.

Food: Divey ethnic restaurants, please. I was raised on a diet of fish and potatoes, with a touch of sauerkraut.

Sports: Da Bears, Da Blackhawks, Da Blazers, Da Buckeyes, Da Beavers, but when it comes to Da Baseball, Da Yankees. (Actually I don't care about sports that much, but wanted to work this line in.)
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Bicycle/Public transit/Shoes/Those who pick up hitchhikers
Record Player*/Singing
Typewriter/Good Pen
Books
Introspection/Natural World
People/Human Urbanized World

*My turntable and healthy record collection have been locked up in Chicago for over a year now. I guess I sadly can live without them.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Was I clever enough? Was I charming?
Did I make at least one good pun?
Was I disconcerting? Disarming?
Was I wise? Was I wan? Was I fun?

Did I answer that girl with white shoulders
Correctly, or should I have said
(Engagingly), "Kierkegaard smolders,
But Eliot's ashes are dead"?

And did I, while being a smarty,
Yet some wry reserve slyly keep,
So they murmured, when I'd left the party,
"He's deep. He's deep. He's deep"?
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'm like Rain Man when it comes to public transportation.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 26–34
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You're looking for someone to guide you through the natural areas of Oregon and Washington. Or if you just want someone to take along as you be the guide.

I'm also looking for fresh takes on Portland. It's my third stint in this city, but there's still much I have to learn.

But I always feel like a pint of PBR or IPA is good for an icebreaker. Perhaps you agree?