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tophergray

32 Salem, OR Man

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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 22–39
  • Located anywhere
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 9:42pm
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 7″ (1.70m)
Body Type
Average
Diet
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Atheism, and laughing about it
Sign
Aquarius, but it doesn’t matter
Education
Graduated from masters program
Job
Art / Music / Writing
Income
$40,000–$50,000
Status
Single
Type
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Pets
Likes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), Latin (Fluently), Sanskrit (Fluently), French (Poorly), Spanish (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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Rule-breaker, non-conformist, nomad, misfit, perpetual outsider, black sheep, etc., etc. In the land of chimpanzees, I was a monkey.

I have a high need to explore. That's basically been the drive that's ruled my life from the time I was a little boy, playing in the river islands back East, pretending to be Huck Finn, or doing my best Augie March as an adult in Chicago's many neighborhoods.

In the Northwest, I love the mountains, the deserts, the coastline and all of the wild places. I hit up Mount Rainier this autumn, and Olympic NP and St Helens this summer. (Washington>Oregon). I also love to get around on foot or bike without ever getting in a car.

The Great Lakes are my homeseas and I have a very Midwestern demeanor and sensibility, albeit the deep blue liberal variety. (As a self-identified Chicagoan, I feel like I'm to the left of everyone here). I grew up near Lake Erie in a small blue-collar Ohio town [the ironically named Defiance] in a warm blue-collar family where the men all have good union jobs and can fix anything with their hands. And I ran away from all that, unable to fix anything beyond a poorly written sentence. I did college. I later did grad school. I've spent much of my adulthood living in Chicago as a starving artist. The rest has been here in Oregon or traveling aimlessly around this country of ours. I've driven cross-country five times; taken Amtrak five times and spent a summer hitchhiking and hopping freight trains. My family thinks I'm Alexander Supertramp, but that's not quite true. (I've never been to Alaska).

I ended up here by accident three years ago when I had to stop hopping trains as winter hit and find a fuckin' job. I feel far from home in the middle of my odyssey. But that's all part of the adventure.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I'm a writer and journalist, and I've done every unorthodox life move that I can to keep that common thread from withering into tatters.

I've worked as a bulldog healthcare reporter for the past two years, but I spent 2012 hopping freight trains and traveling the country with my underground vagabond companions on a grant-funded research project into the culture. [27 states in 6 months, hopping freights from Chicago to Oakland and Puget Sound to Massachusetts]. I've undertaken many ambitious projects from a novel to counter-cultural lefty studies of foreclosure, food deserts and transportation apartheid on the South Side of Chicago.

Beyond that, I'm a godless atheist with Buddhist sympathies, floating as I can down Siddhartha's river.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Readin' maps.
Ritin'
Rithmetic.

I'm trying to learn Spanish and taking a class at PCC. Here was the essay I wrote myself:

"La chica de mi sueños"

Mi novia vive en California. Ella es muy bonita y muy inteligente. Ella tiene ojos cafes y ella tiene pelo largo y castaño. Ella tiene labios grandes y tetas grandes y un culo grande. Mi novia bonita toca la guitarra y ella canta. A mi, me guste caminar con ella en el parque. Nosotros besamos y tomamos de manos. Ella come mucho helado de chocolate y mucho dulces, pero ella no es la gordo. Yo escribo cartas sucias a ella en Inglés, pero ella no puede leer.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Well, I've been with the professors, and they all liked my looks
With great lawyers, I've discussed lepers and crooks
I've been through all of F. Scott Fitzgerald's books
I'm very well-read. It's well-known.

Alice Munro is probably my favorite author currently.
I love Modest Mouse and Elliott Smith and Neil Young and Blind Pilot.
And I watch anything Wes Anderson and Woody Allen put out.

Et il y a cette--
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FktNzLg_te4

C'est la vie, cette ennui.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1960 Red Montgomery Ward Hawthorne Cruiser
Public Transit
Smith-Corona Typewriter
Library card
The Woods
Burt Bacharach's "This Guy's In Love With You"
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
There is nothing either good nor bad but thinking makes it so.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Last Friday night
We went streaking in the park
Skinny dipping in the dark
Then had a ménage à trois
Last Friday night
Yeah I think we broke the law
Always say we're gonna stop
Op-oh-oh
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
... you want to drink drinks with me and just walk around a bit. That's usually the best first date.

... you are smiling in a majority of your photos. No frowning hipsters allowed! Christ, this town is dreary enough this time of year without those fuckers.

... you can help me curl up with a good book to get us through this dampness.

... you like walking, bicycling and public transit.

... you don't consider texting your sole or even primary mode of communication, and kinda recognize it as the lowest form of human interaction

... you can let yourself go on the dance floor.

... you like the outdoors and want a wilderness explorin' pardner.

... you know what it means to steal, to cheat, to lie. What it's like to live and die.