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  • Ages 32–60
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My details

Last online
Online now!
Relationship Type
Strictly monogamous
5' 6" (1.68m)
Body Type
Atheism and it’s important
Post grad
Has kids and doesn’t want more
English (Fluently), Italian (Somewhat), German (Somewhat)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
To be clear up front (I am the honest type): I am in a marriage that has fallen apart; I am moving out in May (have signed a lease). That said, my two little girls are more important to me than anything; I will do anything for them.

BREAKING NEWS: Houston, we have separation. The module has landed, and i settling into its new environment. Will relay telemetry as it comes in.

Basta (enough) with the disclaimer:

I was born in NYC and lived most of my life in sight of the Manhattan skyline. Now I look out my window and see deer in my back yard. Is this progress?

I was a fat, nerdy, painfully shy, super smart kid. Now I am a pretty fit, covertly nerdy, can-pretend-not-to-be-shy, less smart adult. This is probably progress.

I was always an introvert who lived inside his head and buried himself in books and music. I am now a closet introvert who still lives inside his head but loves the physicality of working out (and other things) and who manages to entertain large groups of musicians by lecturing about the intricacies of great music. This is definitely progress.

OhKay, Laaadies, here's the sexy part: I do cooking, shopping and housework. (Cool down, now...See why I saved that for last?)
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Exploring the great indoors--hiking across my couch, kayaking in my bathtub, foraging for food in my kitchen, and camping out in my bedroom.

And I'm looking at the big sky. (Cue K.B.)
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Thinking about music (and teaching people about it).
Driving a stick (OK, no comments, huh?).
Being self-deprecating. (OK, I'm not even good at that.)
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I shudder to think.
That I shudder to think.
The noticeable shudder.
How old-fashioned a word "shudder" is.
How much I notice things about words like that.
Is anybody watching by this point?
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Can't really answer "favorite".

Music: in my car right now:
Atoms for Peace plus the Eraser
Early Radiohead (there were so cute starting out, weren't they?)
Schubert's A minor String Quartet (Did you see the Avengers? The scene with Loki in Stuttgart? That was the music. Awesome piece.)
Schumann Symphonies on original instruments. (I can go authentic or I can go historical--I'm just that kind of guy.)

All of this on CD, mind you. I'm putting a turntable in my car next week. (Are you old enough to know that is a joke? Or cool enough to have a turntable?)

Obsessed again with the St. Matthew Passion. (No, it's not some soft core porn involving monks.)

Sampling of movies: Lord of the Rings, 8 1/2 (the Fellini movie, not the size of anything). Either an art film where nothing happens for two hours or movie where lots of things blow up (preferably spaceships).

Recent books: Cloud Atlas, The Sense of an Ending. (not much time in my life for fiction, sadly...reading time taken up with work)

Currently: Karl Ove Knausgard's stunningly involving six-volume My Struggle. (Only two translated so far; I may have to learn Norwegian.)
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My daughters
More food
More sex (Oh, wait, I do without these last two all the time)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Yes guessed it: music.

I mean classical music especially. You do not meed to like classical music. I have a personal relationship with pieces of music; it's really one-on-one. (Don't be jealous.)

And lately: trilobites. What did they do for 350 million years? Without Facebook?
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Hopping on SpaceEx for a low-orbit jaunt to my palazzo in Firenze, there to sample the freshest figs and to privately tour frescoes by Piero della Francesca.

Or maybe I'm watching a old episode of Stargate.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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That I first got to know Beyonce's song "Single Ladies" from a version by the Chipmunks on a Pandora's Barney channel. No, that's not the most private thing. the most private is that I like the Chipmunk;s version better.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You wish to join my workshop on Unleashing your Inner Nerd.

You thought my cultural references were so pretentious you want to smack me one.

You know how to pronounce "risotto".

You think it goes against the laws of nature to have Aliens and Predators in the same movie.

You believe the music of Bach to be a deeply transcendent experience (but that Radiohead is pretty good.)

You thought any of this was funny and/or true.