And by Eccentric I mean:
"Eccentricity is not, as dull people would have us believe, a form of madness. It is often a kind of innocent pride, and the man of genius and the aristocrat are frequently regarded as eccentrics because genius and aristocrat are entirely unafraid of and uninfluenced by the opinions and vagaries of the crowd."
-Edith Sitwell

I'm often off-putting to folks who first meet me, but you will never find someone more loyal than I if I call you friend. I love conversation that has meaning or purpose.

I'm hardened, tough, soft, sensitive, non-crying (although, strangely I will cry at some movies), empathic, intelligent and wise, lazy sometimes, unsmotherable, stoic and hard to affect, cheerful 78% of the time, observing instead of interacting at parties, interacting over observing in deep conversation or debate, overreaching attempts at balance, but finding balance just the same.

I should warn you that while I care about grammar and spelling I'm prone to verbizing words and sometimes the occasional malapropism.

I have a pretty different outlook on life than most. I feel like an observer in a way. I am meta-cognitive, so to speak, and that makes it hard for me to get wrapped up in life. Which is both positive and negative, but I definitely seek people who can get me wrapped up, even for a short period of time. Because of this stuff that is usually crazy, extreme, horrible, amazing, wonderful, fantastic, etc. all have less of an effect on me than one might expect. This means I can handle a lot of shit, negativity, and so forth. But also means I seek ways to feel deeply and because of that I seek out people who can help me feel deeply.

Which is probably why I am at a point where I get to know people so that I can get them to drop their guard enough to tell me about the real them. The facade everyone puts on (including my own facade) is really boring to me. But almost every time I get to know someone inside and out I find my self rapt with fascination at who they really are. I find people's true selves interesting most of the time.

As for the poly thing I actually find most people in polyamorous relationships kind of dysfunctional. Polyamory itself is not bad, but of the myriad reasons folks do it only a handful are good ones. I'm proud to say ours is one of the good ones (here she is by the way: Ah-drienne). For us it's very relaxed and it is less about sex and more about not limiting natural/organic connections.

I'm vigilant for and embrace change.
I am ambivalent about shibboleths

I used to love debate, but these days I see that, in fact, it's just some folks arguing as if their lives would be threatened if they admitted they were wrong in some small way or gave way to another idea. I'm talking about myself there too, used to be every time I trounced someone in a debate it would be a personal victory, now I like to go easy on people so that they have a chance to make a good point. I do love a debate where those disagreeing are open to changing their minds. Well would you look at that? I've run on and on about debate as if it were really important to me or something.

What you can expect from me here is honesty, integrity, and an unpredictable schedule of logging on. My work and play life are pure chaos.

Oh, and don't hide your pain or joy.

In spite of ourselves obfuscation lifts in the moments of strife or love,

I log on to OkCupid specifically to find who you are, blemishes and all.

But, like a starving wolf I seek out the special, unique, magic in people and latch on when I find it, making my usually in-control self appear to be a little bit needy or even vulnerable.

Fear not, it means only that I've become enamored with you because, frankly, you rock more than you know.

...

We play games in the umbra of light cast by that true dawning you

I hunt brilliance in the soul, a game born from my own antumbral glow

I hunt, though senses dulled by the mephitis of our caliginous civility

I hunt the sheen of that argent lariat binding the black sophistry of our Cimmerian collective to the avid soul

I hunt the auroral glow which mists past the crepuscule of our convivial façade revealing at last

that true dawning you

breath and words mingle,
speak softly into your ear"
"this is a haiku"

You know how they say that people can be sexy, cute, smart and funny – now pick two?
I’ve met several people who have three, in fact I married one.

Me? I’m more one and three thirds.

Also good at:
Helping people, solving problems, being intuitive, physiognomy, hermeneutics of facial expressions, handling/making money, seeing the truth, honesty, loyalty, etc....

Thick and wavy hair (think Clark Kent, only messier, wilder, bigger.
OK, nothing like Clark Kent.
Think wolverine!)

Linebacker shoulders

Dangerous hands

Air of unshakable confidence

Not in order and not complete:

Music:
Imogen Heap/Frou Frou, Death Cab for Cutie, TMBG, Dave Matthews, Vienna Teng, The Smiths, Sia, Tupac, Dan Fogelberg, Phil Collins, Heart, Utada Hikaru, David Bowie, Ladytron, Justin Timberlake, The Matches, Pearl Jam, Sarah Mclachlan, The Cure, Abba, Eminem,

Movies:
Fight Club, Legends of the Fall, Clerks, Leon (The Professional), The Messenger (apparently I like Luc Beson), Boondock Saints, Hair, What dreams may come, Jesus Christ Superstar, Moulin Rouge, True Romance, A Life Less Ordinary, the whole Lord of the Rings trilogy, Indiana Jones trilogy, all 6 Star Wars movies, Swimming with Sharks, Harold and Maude, Eraserhead (not really, but maybe some artsy chick will read this and swoon)

Books:
Manuela, The Bridge Across Forever, Atlas Shrugged, The Fountainhead, Cat's Cradle, Fahrenheit 451, Animal Farm, Still Life with Woodpecker, Stranger in a Strange Land, Ender's Game, Johnny Got His Gun

Quotes:
~ "The human heart has hidden treasures,
In secret kept, in silence sealed;
The thoughts, the hopes, the dreams, the pleasures,
Whose charms were broken if revealed"
-Charlotte Bronte

~ "Things don't have a set speed. You can fall in love in an eye blink or it can take years. You can lose love just as fast. The trick is being honest enough to see it when it happens."

~ “A life spent seeking out the safest path is a life spent staring at the ground.”

I don't need any of this! I don't need anything except this ashtray.
And that's it, that's the only thing I need, is this. I don't need this or this. Just this ashtray...

And this paddle game, the ashtray and the paddle game and that's all I need...

And this remote control. The ashtray, the paddle game, and the remote control, and that's all I need...

And these matches. The ashtray, and these matches, and the remote control and the paddle ball.

And this lamp. The ashtray, this paddle game and the remote control and the lamp and that's all I need. And that's all I need too. I don't need one other thing, not one -

Oh I need this! The paddle game, and the chair, and the remote control, and the matches, for sure. And this. And that's all I need. The ashtray, the remote control, the paddle game, this magazine and the chair.

And I don't need one other thing, except my dog.

Well, maybe I don't need my dog.

I prefer not to refer to things as typical

I might have mild Hexakosioihexekontahexaphobia

You want to get to know me as a friend.

You want to experiment with dating a married person.

You want to ask me about polyamory.

You want to be trounced in a debate as some sort of method of supplanting your reticence, or as a mating ritual, or because you'd like to teach or learn.

You can get me wrapped up in something scary, crazy, sexy, awesome, joyful, or any other extreme emotions.

You want to make a keen observation about me.

You want to correct my grammar.

You want to just say hi in the hopes that I will have something wittier to say and impress the pants off of you. Which I might, but then you'd be pant-less and who wants that?

If you just want sex then I suppose that's OK too, but you have to respect me in the morning.

You want help with anything really, I love helping, I'm good at it.