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58 London, UK Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 40–60
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating

My details

Last online
Yesterday – 12:28pm
5′ 11″ (1.80m)
Body type
Mostly anything
Other, and very serious about it
Libra, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from Ph.D program
Art / Music / Writing
Has kids, but doesn’t want more
English, French (Okay), Spanish (Okay), Russian (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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Love is the answer!

Like everyone else on here, I’m looking for love…

I’m looking for the kind of love that will help me become the person I am truly capable of being. And in return, I can offer the kind of love that will help you become the person YOU are truly capable of being! Why settle for anything less than that?

As a person, I am confident, funny, secure, grounded, and generous. I have been in leadership positions most of my life. I am also a musician and performer. I have worked in warzones and risked arrest for standing up for what I believe in.

I am also very spiritual, warm-hearted, kind and gentle. I am sensitive, passionate and romantic. I care deeply about the world and my heart pours out for people in need, wherever they are -- whether they 'deserve' their situation or not! And my two daughters mean everything to me.

In my experience, there are lots of things that can get in the way of a healthy and sustainable relationship. And the older we get, the more difficult it becomes to adjust and adapt to another person's long-established habits and behaviours. However, for me, the most important factor by far is the quality of the love in that relationship. When that love becomes diminished and limited by jealousies and competitiveness, possessiveness or just plain self-centredness, it can no longer sustain a loving relationship.

Can our love be bigger than the differences that invariably exist between us, the conflicts that inevitably erupt, the stupid mistakes we all make? Can it encompass and contain all the annoyances, aggravations and silly things that undermine and wear us down over the years? Is it big enough and non-possessive enough to engulf not just us, but also all the other people in our lives?

There is no way of knowing any of that ahead of time, of course. Certainly not from a few words on a webpage. Even seeing each other in person for several months is no guarantee of compatibility. We can but hope and dream that sooner or later the right combination of factors will come our way, and we’ll be among the lucky ones to escape this purgatory of online dating!
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
listening to the small, still voice within and letting it speak and sing and act through me to transform the world...
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
singing, laughing, dancing, writing...
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
my infectious smile? the twinkle in my eye? my disarming accent? the fact that I actually look like the photos on my profile?
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Books: Thoreau, Gandhi, Annie Dillard, Wendell Berry, Hannah Arendt, Martin Buber, Rainer Maria Rilke, Steven Pinker, Dorothy Rowe, Johan Galtung, Daniel Dennett, Daniel Goldman, Marshall Rosenberg, Peter Russell, Abraham Heschel, Kenneth Boulding, Jonathan Schell, Brian Swimme, Mary Oliver, Rachel Naomi Remen...

Movies: Life is Beautiful, Millions, Shawshank Redemption, All the President's Men, Battle of Algiers, Fly Away Home, 7 days and 7 nights, Gandhi, Italian Lessons, To Kill a Mockingbird, Heaven Can Wait, If!, Pushing Tin, The King's Speech, Friendly Persuasion, The Full Monty, Billy Eliot, Midnight in Paris, North by Northwest, Groundhog Day!

TV Shows: West Wing, the Daily Show, Colbert Report

Music: Bach Concerto for 2 Violins, Elgar Cello Concerto, The Magic Flute, Beethoven Emporer Concerto, Shostakovitch #5, Aaron Copland Quiet City, West Side Story, Porgy and Bess, Stephen Sondheim, Rhapsody in Blue, Bob Dylan, Pete Seeger, Joan Baez, Rolling Stones, U2, Coldplay, The Script, Sting, Katy Perry, Owl City, Maroon 5, David Wilcox, Peter Mayer, Mumford & Sons, Florence + The Machine, Kelly Clarkson, Taylor Swift!

Food: Fresh corn-on-the-cob, sautéed asparagus, cheese soufflé, baked potato, broad beans, a good beef stroganoff, corned beef hash, cole slaw with toasted sunflower seeds, haggis, stovies (another Scottish dish I will never see again), salmon, Thai Green Curry, chicken korma, real Swiss muesli...
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
There are no 'things' I could NEVER do without, depending of course on the circumstances. But if the question is what do I treasure above all else in my life, they would be my 2 daughters and my son-in-law. Apart from them, I'm pretty partial to fresh air, trees, flowers, birds, animals, grass and a body of water to feast my eyes on.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
why the world is the way it is and why people are the way they are, and how change happens in nature and in our brains and in our cultures and societies and how we can most effectively prod along and speed up those changes so that the world gets itself onto a more sustainable course before its too late.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Ideally with friends, either listening to live music or providing some live music myself!
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
hm, I'll have to think about that some more...
You should message me if
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What I have said resonates with you and you would like to explore it further!