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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 45-55
  • Located anywhere
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Yesterday – 11:46am
Relationship Type
Strictly monogamous
5' 10" (1.78m)
Body Type
Working on Post grad
Has kid(s)
English (Fluently), Spanish (Somewhat), Japanese (Somewhat), Farsi (Somewhat)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Originally from Southern California, I have been a single parent (no ex drama, and I had full custody) of my 20 y.o.son, who is out on his own! Been divorced 12+ years. I am more concerned with what is right or wrong, not with who is right or wrong. I don't hold grudges, as they are too heavy. Patience, and forgiveness are standards that I practice in my life. I am rarely bored. Calm under pressure. Some of the 'spices' of life I enjoy are cooking, baseball, staying fit, horses, learning languages (working on medical Spanish right now), oceans, rivers, and lakes, the outdoors, and other stuff and things. I try to have a grateful attitude in all things, a balanced life, and have a servant's heart. Adaptable and easy to get along with, too. I have a moral compass and am loyal and don't run at the 1st or 3rd sign of trouble. I am not impressed by the size of your house, car, or bra, but with the size of your heart.
I'm D&DF, no tats, either. Just sayin'.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Always trying to make a positive difference and being a good role model for my son. I've done volunteer work in the past, and currently give time to the county's MVDR program. Working on the side to become a professional mariner. Trying to figure out how to make a good espresso/cappuccino with my espresso machine. My other coffee-making skills are well-grounded. Haha.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
picking up on or making connections to random pop-culture references, making people feel comfortable. Also, anticipating and identifying the needs of others, but am not a mind-reader. Finding the humor in most things. Bringing out the best in people without being intrusive or overbearing. Remembering dates and anniversaries. I connect well with most fellow humans. When it comes to relationships, I do not sit around and think, "What do I expect from a partner," I think more along the lines of, "What can I offer the relationship?" Really.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
probably is my sense of humor. Maybe. I never asked anyone this question before, but I have been told that I have good manners.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Hmmm...I usually have several books going at any one time. I looove Mexican food, American, Persian, Indian, vegetarian, Italian, Tex-Mex, most cuisines. Spicy is usually a plus. I am on an endless hunt for the perfect breakfast--which of course, can be eaten at any time of the day! NY style pizza over Chicago, but it's all good. Being in Yosemite is like music and food combined--it's one of my favorite places on earth, but I do need ocean and the plains and desert as well. Like anything else, I like some of most genres of music. My favorite music is whatever I am in the mood for at the moment!
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Faith, fresh air, books, Kona coffee, friends, aikido.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
doing the right thing.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
typically glad the typical week is almost over.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
to won't be here, but I'll 'fess up a lot to your face.

Ok, after deep consideration, I offer the online dating world this tidbit: I like Vegemite.
You should message me if
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any of this resonates with you, or if you feel like it. Also, I am most attracted to those who lead balanced lives, have a great sense of humor, are loyal, have kind hearts, and don't hold grudges. You take care of your body and are reasonably healthy--emotionally and physically, and don't have serious personality disorders (or multiple personalities). I don't live in my past and neither should you. Your success in life does not threaten me. Please expose me to something new! Be able to give and receive affection freely.

*NOTE: If you don't have a pic on your profile when sending me a msg, I won't respond; that's like wearing a bag over your head when meeting someone! I'll assume you're afraid someone will recognize you and tell your husband or SO! Either that or you're hiding something. If your profile is empty, I probably won't reply to you. I took the time to reveal some of myself. If you are here, then you should, too.