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35 Oakland, CA Man


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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 27–36
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Oct 6
6' 2" (1.88m)
Body Type
Post grad
Might want kids
English (Fluently), Chinese (Fluently), Spanish (Somewhat)
My self-summary
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I value emotional intelligence, intellectual curiosity and spontaneous shenanigans. I am envisioning a long term partnership, though recognize that the most meaningful relationships happen when I let go of efforting and flow with my immediate surround.

I tend to choose one of the steeper paths to the top of the mountain, and am known to jump into ciphers with dudes who have a lot more street cred than me. I am dedicated to healing and growth, both internally and with the youth I work with and I try to bring this intention to every other thing I do as well. I am working at being less hard on myself these days, amongst other things :)

Some find my joy contagious. There's more to me than joy, but let's just start with that.

Also, I love to dance.
What I’m doing with my life
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I work as a counselor and art therapist with youth. I also DJ weddings and private parties- I used to tour and play music in clubs full time though I have moved on from making that lifestyle and it's often sunlight deprived trappings take up my center stage. However please do message me if your cousins bar mitzvah or quinceanera is coming up, or if your cousin needs help recovering from trauma, depression, anxiety or a recent loss.

I love nature, hiking and backpacking. I seek out the most remote part of the park/forest/mountain/lake/beach. I like to make fires and burn cedar, copal and palo santo, creating and practicing a few rituals I have learned and benefited from.

I also LOVE making contemporary art and music, though I have precious time to pursue their creation myself these days. I drive a lot for my job and sing along with pop radio in spite of my dusty gem worshipping dj self.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
staying grounded, resurrecting forgotten slang, languages, chopsticks, navigation, making up songs, harm reduction
The first things people usually notice about me
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I have a distinctive and wonderful laugh. That and I'm a tall white dude...
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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writers: junot diaz, milan kundera, bell hooks, jung, adam mansbach, gabriel g marquez, peter hessler

film: jodorowsky, david lynch, herzog, film noir, coen bros, donnie darko, more indie stuff

eatables: dried mangos, salmon sashimi, avocados, goat gouda, tea, leafy greens, tons of beans

tunes: old rap, new art, moody rock, neil young, funky junk, junky folk, jazz fusion, cumbia! , modern classical, droney stuff, electronica

shows: transparent
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
nature, libraries, snacks, hot baths, occasional silliness, good friends, yoga
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
and marveling at all the different ways folks organize their sense of meaning, connectedness and individuality as a felt experience of some complex and historically challenged whole.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
often in a good mood.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Beer battered rat is not the most novel sounding dish I have sampled as I worked in Asia as a dj/musician and guitar marketing yogi for 8 years.
You should message me if
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You are open minded and feel comfortable in your own skin. You have a well nurtured creative side and are capable of laughing at yourself.