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34 Oakland, CA Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 27–36
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Yesterday – 1:02pm
6′ 2″ (1.88m)
Body type
Mostly anything
Gemini, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from masters program
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), Chinese (Fluently), Spanish (Okay)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I am looking for something fun that could lead to something more. No rush though. Seriously. I'm not that serious. At all. Yet. For real.

I try to stay aware of my various privileges. I also enjoy them shamelessly.

Some people find my joy contagious.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I make art and work as a therapist at a Methadone Clinic in SF. I also see clients in private practice a few nights a week and DJ weddings and private parties occasionally. Please do message me if your cousins bar mitzvah or quinceanera is coming up.

While my jobs require a lot of empathy and focus, I spend a good portion of my free time goofing off.
For kicks I like to write and paint abstractions large and small. I hike often and tend to search out the most remote part of whatever park/forest/mountain/lake is near. Music was my primary focus for more than a decade while I toured and worked for several musical instrument companies. Though lately I jam, record songs and perform on an intermittent basis.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
resurrecting forgotten slang, foreign languages, chopsticks, navigation, gossip (the friendly kind!), damage control
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My height. I also have a pretty distinctive laugh.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
avocados, bukowski, curries, prince, gabriel garcia marquez, pixies, neil young, good beats, red beets, beat poets and writers, africa, salmon sashimi, beer, mangos, karaoke, beirut, cumbia, jodorowsky, milan kundera, junot diaz, rakim, donnie darko, tribe, david lynch, david byrne, latin america, coen bros, isaac hayes, goat gouda, old rap, new art, moody rock, film noir, otters, jung, bell hooks, cookies
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
paint, libraries, snacks, hot baths, silliness, friends
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
anything but sex.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
usually in a good mood.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I played music and worked in the entertainment industry in Shanghai for 8 years.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You are open minded and feel comfortable in your own skin. You have a well nurtured creative side and are capable of laughing at yourself.